The Perfect Person Syndrome

The Perfect Person Syndrome

Comparison and jealousy just aren't good life decisions.

"You got this. It's your time to shine."

They said I could change the world. They said I could do anything I wanted to do and be anybody I wanted to be. They said I am ready (so ready) to take life in stride.

You got this. You're confident. You're capable, I tell myself. (Well, I told myself).

That was August, you see, of my first year on campus. Before I'd met them. Before I'd seen.

The perfect people.

They were everywhere.

I went to my first class and saw the students (seniors for sure) sitting in the black chairs in front of the brown tables. As class wore on, it became evident: they all were perfectly able to do that which I couldn't.

They were raising their perfect hands in class and articulating questions in perfect language that seemed to elude me when I opened my mouth. Receiving back my first assignment, I saw my fellow table-sharer get a score perfectly better than my own.

But perfection wasn't contained to the classroom (no, oh no). Each step outside my dorm's confines subjected me to its embrace.

I hear the sound of perfect laughter slipping underneath a dorm door as I step outside. I see the perfect group of guys with Koio shoes and Oakley sunglasses get into the sleek, perfect Buick. The perfect, plaid-clad skateboarder glides past before I reach the café.

The three girls waiting in line, backpacks perfectly coordinating and lipsticked smiles perfectly accenting their mirth, somehow managed to perfect "cute." Latté-ed and Macbook-ed, the four sit working towards their perfect GPAs. The two perfectly harmonize as they head to the door and perfectly epitomize accomplished talent.

By the end of August I often silently plead when I leave the dorm that I do not see the particularly perfectly ones (or maybe, it might be better if I could avoid all humans entirely).

You see, carrying the weight of feeling that I should be perfect, I was perfectly something: perfectly unhappy.

Because everyone else was so much more perfect than me.

Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect.

I lived while silently dying because of the perfection capturing my attention. I didn't realize it at the time (we seldom do). But realize a few things? Now, I do.

I'm not going to tell you that nobody's perfect, even if you want to hear it to feel better. Honestly, some people really could be called perfect. (What's crucial is simply how you define perfection.)

I'm not going to tell you that you shouldn't even strive for perfection. The pursuit of bettering yourself is not bad in itself.

I'm not going to tell you that you can hate on all the "perfect" people because "they're just fake, anyway." Maybe they are, but maybe they aren't. They might not think they're perfect (though they could). You are the one seeing them through perfection-tinted glasses.

But I will tell you this: they cannot see inside your mind.

Each time you look at them, see "perfection" (real or imagined) and let that perfection dictate a way that you think (about them, about yourself, about life in general), it is your choice.

And this choice? Well, it's not affecting them. They are not impacted by the thought of whether you think they are prefect.

It's just eating your time. Eating the moments you could choose to make your life a little more of the "perfect" you want it to be.

What if perfect wasn't what people say it is? Money. Popularity. Success. Happiness.

What if perfect was being perfectly content: perfectly content with the imperfect? Perfectly content that you and your life simply are not everything that you would call "perfect" by one definition? Perfectly okay with the idea of perfect imperfection?

It is perfect that you are imperfect: incomplete because that means you have something to strive after. You are reminded that we all are human and all have some imperfection to offer to each other.

You can know that perfection may not be absolutely possible, but progress sure is. And let me tell you, progress feels sweet. Perception pridefully fixed to perfection is sickly.

We can make progress in the amount that we selflessly love other people. We can make progress in developing relationships with others. Yes, we can even make progress towards making the world a better place.

Wouldn't this be prefect: seeing people accept they are imperfect but be perfectly content with that.

What if we stopped trying to chase this idea of perfection? Stopped spending our mental energy on comparing, judging, "better," and "besting"? What if we just tried to enjoy each small moment of our existence while seeking to make others' existences better?

I am imperfect. You are imperfect. We are imperfect. But that's not what life is about. Who cares about the categorizations, anyway? What do they matter? Who chooses them?

I don't know, but this I do: I choose life. I choose to seize each day and to love each imperfect person and invest in each imperfect moment. For this is my choice; this is my life.

May we each choose wisely.

Cover Image Credit: Deborah Spooner Photography

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50 Quotes from the Best Vines

If you're picturing the vines in your head, you're doing it right

In 2017 we had to say goodbye to one of the best websites to ever roam the internet: Vine. In case you have been living under a rock since 2013, Vine was -(sad face)- a website and app that took the internet and the app store by storm in Winter 2013. It contained 6-second videos that were mostly comedy- but there were other genres including music, sports, cool tricks and different trends. Vine stars would get together and plan out a vine and film it till they got it right.

It was owned by Twitter and it was shut down because of so many reasons; the viners were leaving and making money from Youtube, there was simply no money in it and Twitter wanted us to suffer.

There's been a ton of threads on Twitter of everyone's favorite vines so I thought I'd jump in and share some of my favorites. So without further ado, here are some quotes of vines that most vine fanatics would know.

1. "AHH...Stahhp. I coulda dropped mah croissant"

2. "Nate how are those chicken strips?" "F%#K YA CHICKEN STRIPS.....F%#K ya chicken strips!"

3. "Road work ahead? Uh Yea, I sure hope it does"

4. "Happy Crimus...." "It's crismun..." "Merry crisis" "Merry chrysler"

5. "...Hi Welcome to Chili's"

6. "HoW dO yOu kNoW wHaT's gOoD fOr mE?" "THAT'S MY OPINIONNN!!!.."

7."Welcome to Bible Study. We're all children of Jesus... Kumbaya my looordd"

8. Hi my name's Trey, I have a basketball game tomorrow. Well I'm a point guard, I got shoe game..."

9. "It's a avocadooo...thanks"

10. "Yo how much money do you have?" "69 cents" "AYE you know what that means?" "I don't have enough money for chicken nuggets"

11. "Hurricane Katrina? More like Hurricane Tortilla."

12. "Hey Tara you want some?" "This b*%th empty. YEET!"

13. "Get to Del Taco. They got a new thing called Freesha-- Free-- Freeshavaca do"

14. "Mothertrucker dude that hurt like a buttcheek on a stick"

15. "Two brooss chillin in a hot tub 5 feet apart cuz they're not gay"

16. "Jared can you read number 23 for the class?" "No I cannot.... What up I'm Jared, I'm 19 and I never f#@%in learned how to read."

17. "Not to be racist or anything but Asian people SSUUGHHH"

18. 18. "I wanna be a cowboy baby... I wanna be a cowboy baby"

19. "Hey, I'm lesbian" "I thought you were American"

20. "I spilled lipstick in your Valentino bag" "you spilled- whaghwhha- lipstick in my Valentino White bag?"

21. "What's better than this? Guys bein dudes"

22. "How'd you get these bumps? ya got eggzma?" "I got what?" "You got eggzma?"

23. "WHAT ARE THOSEEEEE?" "THEY are my crocs!"

24. "Can I get a waffle? Can I please get a waffle?"

25. "HAPPY BIRTHDAY RAVEN!" "I can't sweem"

26. "Say Coloradoo" "I'M A GIRAFFE!!"

27. "How much did you pay for that taco?" Aight yo you know this boys got his free tacoo"

28. *Birds chirping* "Tweekle Tweekle"

29. "Girl, you're thicker than a bowl of oatmeal"

30. "I brought you Frankincense" "Thank you" "I brought you Myrrh" "Thank you" "Mur-dur" ""

31. "Sleep? I don't know about's summertime" "You ain't go to bed?" "Oh she caught me"

32. "All I wanna tell you is school's not important... Be whatever you wanna be. If you wanna be a dog...RUFF. You know?"33. "Oh I like ya accent where you from?" "I'm Liberian" "Oh, my bad *whispering* I like your accent..."

34. "Next Please" "Hello" "Sir, this is a mug shot" "A mug shot? I don't even drink coffee"

35. "Hey did you happen to go to class last week?" "I have never missed a class"

36. "Go ahead and introduce yourselves" "My name is Michael with a B and I've been afraid of insects my entire-" "Stop, stop, stop. Where?" "Hmm?" "Where's the B?" "There's a bee?"

37. "There's only one thing worse than a rapist...Boom" "A child" "No"

38. "Later mom. What's up me and my boys are going to see Uncle Kracker...GIVE ME MY HAT BACK JORDAN! DO YOU WANNA SEE UNCLE KRACKER OR NO?

39. "Dad look, it's the good kush." This is the dollar store, how good can it be?"

40. "Zach stop...Zach stop...You're gonna get in trouble. Zach"

41. "CHRIS! Is that a weed? "No this is a crayon-" I'm calling the police" *puts 911 into microwave* "911 what's your emergency"

42. "WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? "

43. *Blowing vape on table* * cameraman blows it away* "ADAM"

44. "Would you like the spider in your hand?" "Yea" "Say please" "Please" *puts spider in hand* *screams*

45. "Oh hi, thanks for checking in I'm still a piece of garrbaagge"

46. *girl blows vape* "...WoW"

47. *running* "...Daddy?" "Do I look like-?"

48. *Pours water onto girl's face" "Hello?"

49. "Wait oh yes wait a minute Mr. Postman" "HaaaAHH"

50. "...And they were roommates" "Mah God they were roommates"

I could literally go on forever because I just reference vines on a daily basis. Rest in peace Vine

Cover Image Credit: Vine

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5 Cheap Summer Concerts That Are Worth The Trip To Camden, NJ

Nothing like a good outdoor concert to cure any "summertime sadness!"

Well, y'all, it's finally here. Summer. And that means that one of my favorite past-times is back in season -- outdoor concerts. Now, I've only been to a handful, mostly with my family, but outdoor concerts have the potential to be the most fun that you'll have the whole summer! As a West Chester resident, there aren't too many venues that hold outdoor concerts near us, but the BB&T Pavilion in Camden, New Jersey is one of the best, especially with their impressively cheap selection of lawn seats (my personal favorite seating for any concert). And this summer, BB&T has some impressive names performing. With over 35 performances set for before August's end, I took the liberty of compiling the top five performing in Camden that you will not want to miss this summer, especially not at these prices!

1. The Adventures of Kesha and Macklemore.

Who: Kesha, Macklemore, Wes Period

When: Wednesday, July 25, 7 pm

Price: Starting at $30.50/ticket

2. Wiz Khalifa and Rae Sremmurd: Dazed and Blazed Tour.

Who: Wiz Khalifa, Rae Sremmurd, Lil Skies, O.t. Genasis

When: Friday, August 8, 6 pm

Price: Starting at $29.50/ticket

3. Logic Presents: Bobby Tarantino vs. Everybody Tour with NF and Kyle.

Who: Logic, NF, Kyle

When: Wednesday, June 13, 7 pm

Price: Starting at $21-22/ticket

4. 2018 Honda Civic Tour presents Charlie Puth Voicenotes.

Who: Charlie Puth, Hailee Steinfeld

When: Tuesday, July 24, 7:30 pm

Price: Starting at $25/ticket

5. Weezer / Pixies.

Who: Weezer, Pixies, Sleigh Bells

When: Saturday, July 21, 7:30 pm

Price: Starting at $25/ticket

If anyone needs me, you know where I'll be all summer!

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