Discovering yourself takes time and patience

To The People Who Crave Change

Discovering yourself takes time and I learned it in a peculiar way


Back in eighth grade, our English teacher made us write a letter to our future self. We were supposed to write down our goals, what we wanted to be and what we want to do after high school. Funny enough, most of us took the letter as a joke and just wrote about random stuff like what was our favorite band at the time, who our very best bff's were, and what we were having for lunch after that class period. We would sign and stamp the letters and have our teacher mail them to our address and the end of our senior year of high school. What I didn't expect was to open my letter at the end of 12thgrade and be surprised at what I saw.

I never knew how harsh middle schoolers were until I read the letter to myself. Most of the letter included me telling to get my shit together more than me complimenting myself on my amazing music taste as a 13-year-old. Apparently I was doing something right because it definitely was a wakeup call.

Aside from still having the same best friend for 10 years, a lot from my letter has changed. Old me wanted to work with animals; new me wants to work with people in healthcare settings. Old me wanted to not go to college and make a living on my art (which was terrible back then mind you); new me is currently attending my dream university. Comparing my mindset now to 6 years ago is astounding. I would have never thought I would want to be a nurse, to actually help all kinds of people and really enjoy healing not only them but their hearts. Old me would have gagged at the thought of getting a bachelor's degree but here I am now!

I know people change over time and career choices are changed dramatically throughout our whole scholarly career, but it is important to take a step back and see how far you've come on your own path. Reflection of oneself is key to a healthy mindset when looking towards your future.

The point of this is to show that change is subjective and can happen whenever you feel it's necessary. If you are satisfied with the current chapter of your life then that is okay! If this is your wake-up call to make a difference for your future then go ahead and use that energy to alter your path. Go join that new club you've always wanted to. Attend the fitness class that looks fun. Change your major if your heart is really set on it. If the change is what makes you happy, then that's all that truly matters.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.


If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become.

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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