To The People Who Crave Change

To The People Who Crave Change

Discovering yourself takes time and I learned it in a peculiar way


Back in eighth grade, our English teacher made us write a letter to our future self. We were supposed to write down our goals, what we wanted to be and what we want to do after high school. Funny enough, most of us took the letter as a joke and just wrote about random stuff like what was our favorite band at the time, who our very best bff's were, and what we were having for lunch after that class period. We would sign and stamp the letters and have our teacher mail them to our address and the end of our senior year of high school. What I didn't expect was to open my letter at the end of 12thgrade and be surprised at what I saw.

I never knew how harsh middle schoolers were until I read the letter to myself. Most of the letter included me telling to get my shit together more than me complimenting myself on my amazing music taste as a 13-year-old. Apparently I was doing something right because it definitely was a wakeup call.

Aside from still having the same best friend for 10 years, a lot from my letter has changed. Old me wanted to work with animals; new me wants to work with people in healthcare settings. Old me wanted to not go to college and make a living on my art (which was terrible back then mind you); new me is currently attending my dream university. Comparing my mindset now to 6 years ago is astounding. I would have never thought I would want to be a nurse, to actually help all kinds of people and really enjoy healing not only them but their hearts. Old me would have gagged at the thought of getting a bachelor's degree but here I am now!

I know people change over time and career choices are changed dramatically throughout our whole scholarly career, but it is important to take a step back and see how far you've come on your own path. Reflection of oneself is key to a healthy mindset when looking towards your future.

The point of this is to show that change is subjective and can happen whenever you feel it's necessary. If you are satisfied with the current chapter of your life then that is okay! If this is your wake-up call to make a difference for your future then go ahead and use that energy to alter your path. Go join that new club you've always wanted to. Attend the fitness class that looks fun. Change your major if your heart is really set on it. If the change is what makes you happy, then that's all that truly matters.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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To The High School Senior Wishing She Could Fast-Forward To Graduation, Careful What You Wish For

Don't wish this time away.


As the last stretch of my freshman year of college stands before me, I've been thinking a lot about where I was a year ago today. I've thought about how fast the time has gone, but also how much has happened in that year.

A year ago, I decided what college I was going to and was getting ready to graduate, and honestly counting down the days until graduation. Senior year was almost over, and I couldn't wait to walk across that stage, get my diploma, and FINALLY get to start my real life. However, now that it's a year later I honestly barely remember all those little moments and it feels like literally a world ago when I was in my high school and making my Senior Board full of pictures of my childhood. And part of me wishes that I hadn't wished all that time away.

So, to my high school seniors out there — I encourage you to cherish all the memories you are making. I encourage you to spend time with your parents and savor the meals you have with them and enjoy the conversations where your mom asks all the mom questions about your day, and your dad tells a story from his childhood that you've heard a million times before. I encourage you to appreciate the friends you have, and whether or not you plan to stay friends with them after graduation, be grateful for the time with them in this season and the role that they played in your life.

I ask you to look around your high school, stop and stare at the walls that you've probably been praying to get out of for a few months now and appreciate the memories and times you've had in those buildings. Whether or not high school was a great time for you or a bad time, it was a time of growth and the place where you matured and made mistakes and succeeded.

Seniors, enjoy these last few months because before you know it you'll blink and it will be a year later and you'll be miss those days that you complained about, those teachers you rolled your eyes at, and those friends that you shared that time with.

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