To The People Who Blame The World For Their Problems, Stop Expecting Me To Pity You

To The People Who Blame The World For Their Problems, Stop Expecting Me To Pity You

I refuse to feed into the toxic negativity that has plagued society and I don't really care if anyone has a problem with that.


I am a work in progress. We all are. Currently, I am working on learning how to set healthy boundaries without feeling guilty afterward or that setting boundaries make me come across as a mean person. I know boundaries are not bad, however, they do feel uncomfortable for me to set, though they are absolutely necessary.

If you are by any means cynical or someone who blames the world for their problems, never taking responsibility for how their choices effect consequences, please understand that I'm more than happy to listen, but do not expect me to agree with you or condone that kind of attitude through feeling bad for you or pitying you.

I have a lot of my own struggles going on that I have to manage, and simply do not have time for that negativity. I try to be an optimistic person with realistic expectations of others and high expectations of myself, which I've heard can get annoying to those people who play the victim all the time.

This is not me trying to be mean, I am simply setting a boundary. I don't need people trying to bring me down to their level, creating unnecessary drama, and pushing my buttons to get a rise out of me or make me look like a gullible fool. I will never feel bad for you, as much as you may want me to because that's not who I am. I'm a strong believer in hard work and getting help when you need it, instead of whining about it and doing nothing to fix the situation, ever.

Take responsibility for who you as a person and take responsibility for your actions, character, and well-being. The older we get, the more responsibility we have. As overwhelming as it feels at times, we need to realize that the world is not out to get us, being negative more a waste of time than not, and in recognizing our role in what upsets us, we hold more power than we know.

I get having a bad day or a bad week but don't make it a bad life. If you are having issues with your mental or physical health, ask for help, reach out and talk about it, as hard as it feels in the moment. I've done the "suffering in silence because you're too proud and hating yourself because of it" thing before and all it does is make everything worse.

Again, I'm happy to listen. But I refuse to become cynical. I refuse to stop believing in myself. I refuse to stop working hard for what I want in life. I refuse to fall anywhere lower than my full potential. I refuse to be mean or judgmental. I refuse to feed into the toxic negativity that has plagued society and I don't really care if anyone has a problem with that, not anymore. I'm done making excuses for people and I'm done feeding into a drama that won't matter in 5 years.

So, to all the cynical people who blame the world for their unhappiness, this is not me being mean, this is me setting a boundary.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Let Me Help You Find Your Perfect Morning Routine And Make Waking Up In The Morning Easier

Waking up is hard, but not if you have something to look forward to.


I think everyone can agree that waking up in the morning is not the best feeling in the world. I know that I have always struggled with waking up, especially at early times and when I have to go to a boring class. Over the years, I have tried to make myself a morning person, and have found that there are a few things I always have to do to make my morning go smoothly.

My perfect morning routine starts at night. I get everything I need in check before I go to sleep. I pick out my outfit, pack my book bag and put my computer on the charger. I have learned that I sleep better if I know everything I need to do is in order. Once I am in bed, I try to go to sleep at a decent hour, even though that usually doesn't happen. I set my alarms and make sure my ringer is on so I can hear it.

When the morning comes and my alarm goes off, I immediately open my eyes. No rolling over, no snoozing your alarm.

I know some people think it's a bad habit, but I have to look at my phone. I check the weather and look to see if I got any emails while I was asleep. I get up about 45 minutes before I have to leave, but I never leave my bed without making it up, and once I am up, I go straight to the bathroom. I have found that washing my face in the morning just puts me in a bad mood because the water gets everywhere, so I just splash some water on my face and brush my teeth.

The next few things are what really gets me up in the morning.

I love to look out of my window and see the sunrise while I am doing my makeup. I also make my coffee and grab a protein bar or some yogurt, because breakfast is a big motivator of mine in the morning. Once I am ready, I get my already packed book bag and head out of the door.

It has taken me a very long time to find the perfect morning routine to really wake me up in the morning and get me going, especially because I have a roommate with a very different schedule. If I could, I would probably play a podcast or some energizing songs in the morning, but for now, I would say that my morning routine is pretty perfect.

I hope that you can take some things from my morning routine and see if they help motivate you to wake up in the morning. Don't forget to set your alarm!

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