"Clean your room," "brush your teeth," "don't forget to do your homework"...sounds familiar, right? The main one that sounds familiar for me is anything about school: Homework, tests, quizzes, etc. I'm a sophomore in college and my parents still ask about my schoolwork and we have long conversations about it. Granted, they're paying for it and I wasn't always the best student. I really only started caring about school at the beginning of my junior year. of high school I didn't earn terrible grades my freshman and sophomore year, but they could've been better. One major reason I started doing better is because my parents stopped pressuring me about my schoolwork.
It became a worry for me because every time I had gotten a grade, I knew my mom would see it. She checked Edline every single morning. At the time, I'd get so angry because I felt like she didn't trust me to earn good grades. With all this pressure and stress, it actually made me do worse in school because I felt like no matter how hard I tried, my grades were never up to par. But I now have a whole different point of view. And I hope you agree with me.
The only reason they harp on us about a lot of things is because they care. Possibly in a year, I'll be moving out and I won't have my mom right downstairs watching "Charmed" when I go to ask her which shoes would look best with my outfit or she won't be in the room right beside me, rocking out to her music while working on schoolwork when I go get advice from her. We won't be able to hang out all the time like we do now because I might be further away. Looking back, I shouldn't have gotten angry with her because she was just trying to help. All my mom has ever done is try to help.
Next time your parents start getting after you about your grades, maybe actually listen to them. They're not there to make your life worse. One day, you'll understand. One day, your parents won't be there and you wish they were. I know school can be difficult and you will mess up quite a few times. Maybe that D was supposed to be a B. Do not get discouraged. Ask your parents for help. Ask your teachers. Friends. Anyone. And never forget, your parents are proud of you. I thought my mom was so disappointed in me because of my grades but she just wanted me to do my best.
If you're thinking to yourself, "this writer is totally wrong," then just wait. Come back and read this when you're a little bit older. Real life won't have As or Fs. If you mess up, you mess up. Your parents have been through all of this. They aren't just talking to talk, they're trying to help. Accept it. Because one day, you won't be able to.
