There's Something Wrong With Parents Who Only Want A Relationship With Their Child After They've Grown Up

There's Something Wrong With Parents Who Only Want A Relationship With Their Child After They've Grown Up

If you allow it, they're not going to understand their wrongdoing.


Relationships with absent parents can be a tough subject, but as someone with an absent father, I feel as though I have enough experience to write about this issue.

Parenting can be extremely hard. Most people have no idea what they're getting themselves into when they "sign up." Parents might think they're mature enough to handle the responsibility of children, and we can't fault them when they're wrong. What we can do, however, is fault them for not making more of an effort to change for their child.

Looking back at my own experience and the experience of the kids I grew up with, I've realized that, for many parents, the responsibility of being a parent is just too much. This, of course, results in them leaving. Rather than being an adult and understanding that parenthood requires sacrifice and maturity, certain parents make the decision to turn around and run.

You don't have to be a genius to understand that an absent parent makes the life of the remaining parent and child extremely difficult. Hardship will follow, whether it's in the form of financial troubles, behavioral problems, etc. The absent parent gets to miss all of this, and whether or not his or her life turns out better is beside the point. The absent parent is just as responsible for the child as the remaining one.

What bothers me more than anything about this situation is that many years down the road after the child has turned 18, the absent parent often tries to wiggle his or her way back into their lives, and what happens? The child allows it, completely dismissing all the harm this person caused.

Some people might find no issue with this, thinking that it's better this parent show interest late than never. Honestly, if you find yourself thinking the same thing, you're an idiot. Sorry, but it's true. The absent parent didn't care about the child when they were growing up. Absolutely no care was given to the child as they struggled under the hardships of a single-parent household. But now that the child is older, has a developed personality and can make their own decisions, the parent finds them interesting? What kind of bullshit is that?

If I were in that child's position, I'd feel highly insulted. It would be hard for me to care about a person who put no effort into raising me, yet expects to reap the benefits of having a good kid, Yeah, I don't think so. There's something wrong with parents who do this. They're sick in the head. But, if someone allows them to get away with acting this way, they're not going to understand their wrongdoing.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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To All The Meghan Markle’s Of The World, Your Worth Is Not Found In Your Earthly Father, But Your Heavenly Father

The hole in your heart cannot be filled by man


Megan Markle, she is the princess that everyone wishes they could be. She is smart, successful, beautiful, and now she is legitimately a princess. It's the dream of every girl. There are still problems in her life. She has had her heart broken by the one man who was supposed to be there for her above any other man. In a heartbreaking letter to her father, she tells him of the pain he has caused her. She was brave to write the letter, but it also tells us that even a princess doesn't have a perfect life.

This Sunday I sat in church and listened to a guest speaker Pastor Steve Hage. He said a couple of things that made me think of how often we as women don't see our value. The one that hit home the most was:

A princess stays with a frog because she doesn't realize she is a princess. Steve Hage

It is not just Megan Markle who is a princess. It is all of us. We are princesses. It is not because of our human fathers, but our Heavenly Father.

It's hard to think of yourself as a life with such value. I know that I put my life in the hands of a frog, and the only thing I got out of it was living in a swamp. When you believe you are a princess, and I'm not talking about someone who is entitled and spoiled, I mean someone whose life has value, you will look at yourself differently. Your worth does not come from others. It does not come from your father, your boyfriend, your husband, friends, or your money in the bank.

Megan Markle is a perfect example of how as women we don't see our value and our worth unless it is confirmed by someone. A dad is a huge influence on our lives and they make a difference in how we see the rest of the world. It's true. It cannot be our excuse for living a life with no value. There has to be a day and a time when we raise our heads and our chins and listen to our Heavenly Father.

Since you are precious and honored in my sight and because I love you, I will give people in exchange for you, nations in exchange for your life. Isaiah 43:4

This verse gives me the chills because it speaks to so much more than our brains can fathom. We have a God who loves us so much that he is willing to exchange nations for us. He says I am precious and He Loves ME! How can anything be better than that?

Megan, your broken heart can be made whole. Your hurt can be restored. Don't give up on loving your father, but remember there is one who loves you so much more than he ever could. An unfailing love that only comes from our Father God. You are precious and honored in his sight. Be the princess that God has called you to be for such a time as this.

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