Finding friends in life is easy.
Finding friends who have the same morals and values as you is not as easy.
Throughout my whole life, I have had one best friend who has been a constant. We met in 6th grade and have not been separated since.
Sure, we have fights here and there, but honestly, out of all of them, we have never had disagreements. We see things the same way and I think that is why we have stayed friends even after I moved away for college 4 hours away. It is not that difficult being far away from her, actually.
Of course, it sucks and I wish it was not like this, but we both put in the effort to make time to catch each other up in our lives. Sometimes we go 2 hours without talking and other times we go a whole week. But once we talk, it’s like we just pick up from where we left off. I honestly thought we would have drifted apart after I left, but if anything we became closer because we both realized how much we want to stay in each other’s life.
Once I did come to college, it was easy to find friends. Nothing could ever compare to how close me and my best friend from home is.
After a year, I finally found my best friends away from home. I’ve gone through some friends here and there, but what I have realized after is that it does not matter how well you think you get along with someone; what matters is does that person care like you do? Do they have the same values?
It is a blessing and a curse having a big heart. That is just the way I was raised. I am a very optimistic person and I just want to make everyone happy, but by doing that I realize I do not give myself enough happiness. I’m so worried about being kind and pleasing everyone that by the end of the day I gave away my happiness to other people. However, I will never regret that or try to change it.
There is not enough kindness in this world for me to not spread my optimism.
By saying all that, I also have realized that finding friends with a big heart like me is nearly impossible. That is why when I do, I make sure to cherish that friendship and always put it first.
My best friend from home is like me. She is the sweetest person I know and always puts people before herself. She deserves nothing but the best and I will always be her best friend. We think alike, we act alike, and most importantly we love alike.
I am not afraid of having a big heart. I know it comes with consequences and that it breaks more easily, but it is who I am and I would not trade it for the world.
It can be hard to understand why others do not have the same heart as you, and I really believe I love more than I am loved. But finding friends who have a big heart too shows me that there are people that care just as much as I do.
Now I understand why my best friend and I are so close and why distance has and will never ruin our friendship.
Finding your best friends is not about what you have in common.
Finding your best friends is finding people the same as you- what you have on the inside and what kind of person you are.
Luckily, I have found more people like me in college, and I will love them unconditionally and forever be grateful for them and who they are as a person. I hope I never lose my big heart and that maybe I can even make people realize that I can’t help that I care so much.
One thing is for sure:
I will never regret caring for someone who does not feel the same way.
I will never regret loving someone who doesn’t love the same way
And I will never regret caring for someone who doesn’t have the same heart as me. I can only hope one day they realize how much I cared about our relationship and how little they did.
