The Pain of Eating Alone

The Pain of Eating Alone

I Never really Experienced the Depressing Feeling of Eating Alone for this Long of a Period in my Life.

I sit down at my desk in the student government office, I open my laptop and start it up. I move on to unzipping my lunch box and place my lunch in front of me. As I begin reading emails and checking my schedule for the rest of the day, I pick my sandwich with one hand and handle the laptop with the other. This is the normal lunch and dinner I have been doing all semester. Sometimes I am lucky and have someone else in the office to talk with but most times I sit alone doing work. Even my breakfast I eat alone as my roommates get up before and after me. I never really experienced the depressing feeling of eating alone for this long of a period in my life. So thats what I am writing about, that painful feeling you get when you spend too much time eating alone.

I came from a family who always ate meals together, especially dinner in which we always sat at the dining room table as a family. I also came from a small high school that pretty much had no one sit alone at lunch. Even when I first came to college I was apart of team that I sat with for every meal for two years. So what set this semester apart from the last you ask? I just became much more responsible for my own meals as I decided to live off campus and not have a meal plan. There is a lot of work that goes into preparing food and then figuring out where to eat the food in a college lifestyle. I end up mostly buying pre-made food and supplementing with a few things to call it a meal.

The depressing feeling of eating alone didn't really become an obvious thought until our campuses holiday dinner occured and when I tried to attend it I was forced to pay even though it was a fundraising event. It just made me realize that I was alone when ever I ate and I rarely had someone to share a meal with even as we are coming into the holidays. I felt so lonely that I ended up leaving the school and having dinner at chipotle, something I have done a couple times when I needed some personal time away from school. But again I sat alone looking at window not understanding this deeper feeling that has built over a whole semester.

It took me about a week from the event to realize why I had this continued feeling and why the holiday dinner felt so painful for such a simple situation. I have learned a lot though already as I look into my next semester as I will push for having my meals with others and separating work and food in order to have a healthier way of living and a brighter feeling about life.

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And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

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