Looking at all of the advancements made in technology is mind blowing. Some of it really is what people thought of for the future when they thought of flying cars and talking robots. It’s absolutely incredible. Incredible, but when does it become too much? When do things become a want and not a need, or not even a want any more at all? We are living in a society of cyber zombies dependent on their 4.5 by 2.5 inch screens. I’m just as guilty as the next gal. Because of these fascinating devices we are much more likely to stay in on the internet than to do everyday activities that involve human interaction. There are even apps now that force a phone call to a voicemail so you don't even have to risk the person answering for a conversation. These are skills and communication techniques that we need as millennials, and just as humans in our society today that is no longer something that is taught or expected. Instead of grabbing a good book at a library or bookstore and taking it out into the world, we shut ourselves inside staring at glowing screens that now replace the flipping of pages. Most of what we mindlessly scroll through is more negative than positive I’d like to mention. That one hits closest to home for an avid reader such as myself. Being social and putting yourself out in the world present far more opportunities than one can even imagine. The possibilities are endless. Jobs, relationships, new experiences. But everything is accessible with a swipe of a finger in as many different ways that you can think of. You want a movie? It’s right there on your screen. You need a new top? Endless websites can gives you it to you for a discount. Want a date for this weekend? There’s an app for that! We’re living in a world where, even if we consider doing it in person, it’s been made to seem easier to just do it from your phone. Wanting to explore everything around you and talk to people surrounding you has now become out of the norm. Why is it that people who prefer paper backs books and calling or meeting up to experience things in the real world are now labeled as “old souls”. In a world made up of faces glued to screens, can you break free of the stereotypes and bring life back into our world?
To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"
I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.
You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.
Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.
They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.
Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.
Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.
Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.
A girl who isn't graduating on time
Everyone tells you to prepare for the best years of your life.
They tell you to prepare for all of the new challenges and new opportunities.
They say that you will meet your future people in college.
What they don't tell you is how much it will hurt.
Seeing old friends disappear because you are no longer home.
Watching your grades fall because the class is too difficult to pass.
Hearing and witnessing your family struggle and you aren't able to be with them.
Seeing all of the adventures that others are going on while you are stuck in your dorm room with the same stack of papers you have been trying to finish for three days now.
They don't tell you how difficult the transition will be.
They especially don't tell you how hard it is to live with someone.
The best of friends can live together and then grow to hate each other.
Complete strangers will move in and never speak.
You'll find friends that are simply just your "writing friend" or "band friend".
Many of the labels from high school can sometimes stick around.
If you're not out drinking or clubbing, then people think you don't have a life.
College is great, but don't think that it will be easy.
You have to make things easy in order for things to happen.
You can't just go around doing whatever and expect things to work out.
It takes time and it takes commitment to succeed in life, and in college.
The best way to deal with it all, find someone!
Find someone that you can get coffee with and watch sports with.
Find someone to eat dinner and lunch with.
Find someone to study religion and math before the next test.
Find your someone, a friend or someone special, to help you make it through everything that life throws at you.
If I had that someone I might have been better off my first year.