For The Friend That Went The Extra Mile For Me

An Open Letter To My Very First True Friend

I didn't even know that friends like you existed.


Let me start off by saying how much I absolutely miss you.

It's been almost six years since we spent time together, but even so, you've continued to love and support me despite our distance. I can't tell you how incredible you are.

Growing up, I didn't surround myself with the right people.

I had lots of "friends" in childhood, but they were of quantity, not quality. I was constantly ignored, left out of conversations and not invited to group playdates. When I was acknowledged, it was only to ridicule me or try to change me into who they wanted me to be. I grew up with a skewed view of how friendships were supposed to be. I thought I didn't deserve to have friends who truly cared about me for who I was.

That is until you came along.

We met in gym class in seventh grade, and we became close when the Universe placed us in gym together again in eighth grade. You showed me the one thing that was hardly ever shown to me: Kindness. You never once tried to change who I was. You accepted me wholeheartedly; something that no friend had ever done for me before.

Eighth grade was a tough year for me. I went through my first breakup, friend drama and many other changes that were emotionally trying.

No matter how difficult I was, you were there with me through it all.

I never felt the need to be perfect around you. You never told me I should dress differently, do my hair and makeup differently or act a certain way.

You accepted everything about me, quirks and all.

I wish I had been a better friend to you, and I am truly sorry for not reciprocating your genuine nature towards me. I am sorry for not standing up for you, for not putting as much effort into our friendship as you did, as well as not giving my best self to you.

You deserve all of the neon-colored duct tape, matching studded belts and jellyfish hugs that the Universe has to offer (I would say that I have to offer but my bank account doesn't match my love for those around me).

Getting to see you at my work the other day was the blessing that the Universe knew I needed, even if it was only for a few short minutes. You set the tone for my future friendships. You taught me what it means to be a true friend; something I really needed to learn.

You reminded me I have intrinsic value and that I should only choose people who truly value me.

You saved me from becoming my biggest nightmare: a bad person.

Thank you for helping me become my best self. I love you so much, and I look forward to the day when I can finally give you a jellyfish hug!

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To My Best Friend Who Doesn’t Know How Strong She Is

Always better together.

To the one I know I will always have by my side,

First off, thank you. Thanks for dealing with all my shit: my mess, drama, tears, and weirdness. There are so many reasons why you are my best friend; you are funny, amazing, kind and unbelievably supportive. I am beyond lucky to have someone that gets me and has been there with me through the best of times and the worst of times.

You are strong

Life is difficult; I think we have both realized that by now. Whether you believe me or not you are kicking everything being thrown at you in the ass. You have been through everything and more and have always come out of it a stronger, and better person. You are never alone and you know that; we have been there for each other for years and that will never end.

You are special

I have never met anyone with a bigger heart than you; you sympathize with anyone that comes to you for advice. You take things to heart and look at the world in a unique and beautiful way. You appreciate the little things in life, watching Dance movies with your mom, a late night snack at Taco Bell, driving with the top down and dancing like no one is watching.

You are beautiful

You are way more beautiful than you think. You’ve got softness to you that is calming, a smile that is contagious, and a gorgeous girl with so much to offer. You are filled with love and compassion, an amazing writer, dancer and overall an amazing and beautiful person.

You can get through anything

I know you are going through a hard time right now, but look at how far you’ve come. You have gone through way worse and you will get through this just like you have in the past. You will become even more powerful than you already are. You are experienced and that’s part of what makes me love you so much. We have gone through a lot together and we know that whatever life throws at us we can handle it.

I am always here

Your hardship is my hardship, but keep your head up high just like I know you can. You have so much love in your life, from your family, your friends and me. I love you, I have never had a friend like you and I am so grateful every day because of it. You are going to get through this. You are going to get through it because you are, powerful, you are beautiful and you are strong.

~Written with love and appreciation for the most amazing friend I could ever ask for~

Cover Image Credit: Sarah Richman

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An Open Letter To The Friend Who Continues To Save My Life

No one knows me like you do.


From the day we became friends, we have always had nothing but support for one another. Although we have only really been friends for about seven years now, I feel as if you have always been a part of my life. You know me just as well as you know yourself, and I understand you in the same way I understand my own thoughts and feelings.

You have never made me feel pressured, insecure, or unappreciated. The mutual respect we have for one another is unmatched. We can talk to each other about anything; from some of the most trivial topics to entire life philosophies. We have grown and matured together, and I couldn't be more proud of the person you are today.

We don't always agree on everything, and I always appreciate your fresh point of view, but I have never felt more in sync with another person than I do with you. We share the same birth month, the same age, the same home town, the same anxieties, and many of the same attitudes and values.

I feel as if you know exactly when I want to be alone and when I need company. Since we are both introverted, we understand that the other person needs time to recharge. And when I'm sitting alone with nothing to do, I always get a text from you asking to hang out.

In some of my loneliest, most vulnerable moments, you have been there. When I question how many true friends I really have, you are always sure to make your love for me known.

Through high school, and now college, we have experienced so many life-changing events together. Some that have taught us extremely valuable lessons, and others that have shown us incredible pain and how to grow from our lowest moments.

I want to thank you for showing me what life-long friendship looks like. Thank you for always understanding me and never putting too much pressure on me. I see an incredible future for both of us no matter where each of our lives takes us.

We will always share a unique connection that cannot be separated by any distance. But, for now, I'm glad you're only one text or phone call away.

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