To the girl who feels like she’s settling,
Don’t.
I get it. I do. You can’t really complain about anything specific in your life. Your life is like a calm wave with its usual ups and downs, yet the feeling of something more is lingering in the background. It's not screaming at you in the face, it's subtle and has been in the back of your mind for awhile now.
Maybe you have an okay job and your boss doesn’t bother you. Maybe you hate your job, but you need the money so you stay. You’re not angry or too upset by this, but you can’t help but feel like nothing is seemingly satisfying you.
It’s not like you’re unhappy…… Right?
Maybe you’re in a relationship and it’s great. It’s not going bad or anything and you love him. Don’t you? You just don’t get the same feelings you did in the beginning and and as the days go on, your feelings aren’t growing stronger, but they aren’t getting weaker and you’re comfortable. It’s almost like the universe is telling you to stay.
Or just maybe you’re going through the motions of school and while your friends are amazing, you can’t help but feel like you need something. Everything in your life is okay and fine, but when did those become appropriate words to describe you?
So, don’t.
Don’t stay at the job that makes you count down the seconds until you can leave. Shitty jobs are almost inevitable, but now is a better time than ever to start thinking about putting yourself in environments that better fit YOU.
Don't stay with the person that isn't giving you the same excitement that was once there. You can be comfortable with someone and still see growth, but you can also be comfortable with someone and feel like you're staying in the same place. There's no growth together, just two people merely existing; not happy, not sad, just existing. So don't settle. You deserve more and so does your partner; and deep down, you already knew that.
The thing about settling is that it usually happens when you start to put yourself last, and others first. While this is a selfless and usually good thing to do, it can put you in positions that you wouldn’t normally agree to be in. It’s OK to be selfish. When you feel like the rest of the world is moving fast paced behind you and you're standing still. It's OK to be selfish.
Once you start to put yourself first, you'll notice a drastic difference compared to the life you used to live before. You're finally listening to what your body wants, physically and mentally, and you're becoming more than just happy; you're finally becoming satisfied. So don't settle, and choose your future instead.
I read this somewhere and I want to leave this here with you, as a reader:
"Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn't settle for it."
Love,
The girl who also chose not to settle
