An Open Letter To All The Friends That Walk Away From You

An Open Letter To All The Friends That Walk Away From You

Now, I know better.
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To the friends that walked away,

I used to think that you walking away from our friendship was the end of the world, or, my world at least. I was alone and scared. Scared to walk back into school, knowing I would have to face you, scared to hear you talking in fear that my name would come into the conversation, scared of the confrontation that I so desperately needed from you, yet never received. The worst part is, you never spoke cruel words, never threatened me, never actually did anything that should have made me scared. You just left. Yet, I was terrified nonetheless. I believed that I had lost all of the strength that I had gained over the span of my entire life and had no clue how to build myself up again. I had never fended for myself before and now I was completely on my own.

I would say that I wish this situation had never happened, however, I’m actually glad it did. I genuinely thought that I had lost myself, then, I realized that the strength that it took for me to recover from that was something that no one could ever steal from me. I got myself through and I know now that I was, and still am, so much more than a group of friends. I know that there are others out there who will actually care enough to stick around. I know my own strength and who I can be if I persevere through the nearly unbearable times in life. I may have let them win for a while, but I’m taking my life back and rising above it all.

I let you ruin me. I enabled you to steal a piece of my dignity when you didn’t even deserve half of the attention given to you. I let myself become distraught over something that would eventually be meaningless. Now, I know better. I am ready to face the world without you.

Throughout this learning experience, I have thought of you multiple times. I hope that you all are succeeding and enjoying your lives. I hope that you still think of me and the memories that we share. No matter what we have gone through, I hope you know that you can still lean on me in times of hardship. I’ll be here. Thank you for teaching me one of the biggest lessons I believe a person can learn; the power of true friendship.

Love,

The girl you left behind

Cover Image Credit: Family Friendly Poems

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18 Things That Happen When You Get A Good Roommate

Not every roommate story is a bad one.
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Whenever you hear about roommate stories, they're almost never good, and they usually scare you into never wanting a roommate. "Did you hear her roommate steals her clothes?" "Her roommate doesn't shower!" "Wow, her roommate doesn't talk at all, and doesn't do laundry." From what I hear, there are more bad stories than good. That is why I consider myself lucky, because my roommate is nothing like one of those bad stories. When life hands you a good roommate after talking to about 40 girls through Facebook, a few things happen.

1. You always have someone to talk to.

2. You know each other's schedules, and whenever you both have a break is an exciting time.

3. You'll never have to dance alone.


4. You always have someone to do something with, even if it's just walking down the hall.

5. You both look out for each other, because this is your first time without your parents.

6. You always have a shoulder to lean on when things get tough.

7. Borrowing each other's things is a daily thing.

8. You TRY to help with each other's homework and assignments.

9. They're encouraging when it comes to boys. (Unless they're a f*ckboy.)

10. They're your biggest support system and your personal cheerleader.

11. They never forget to wish you luck on a big exam.

12. They accept how gross you are in the morning and not so pleasant sometimes.

13. You both know each other's favorite and least favorite things.

14. Leaving each other notes saying goodbye before class if you don't see them is normal.

15. Saying goodbye for breaks is upsetting.

16. Not seeing them all day is upsetting.

17. You have more pictures together than any of your other friends.

18. You found a best friend for life.

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10 Thoughtful Things You Can Do In A Long Distance Friendship That Your Friend Will Sure Appreciate

Here's some advice for how to make the college split a little easier on the friendships that mean the most.

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Everyone always talks about long-distance relationships and how challenging they are but no one ever mentions how tough it can be to leave your lifelong best friends for school. Much like long-distance relationships, long-distance friendships take a ton of work. While it may seem like staying close to your bestie is impossible, with the right level of intent, your relationship will grow in more ways than you thought possible. Here are 10 ways you can keep your friendship strong, even hundreds of miles apart.

1. Be intentional about FaceTime.  

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School gets extremely busy. Make the time to FaceTime or HouseParty on a regular schedule. Being able to see your friend (or friends) face-to-face will make everything easier.

2. Make it a point to check in over text, even if it's just one message every few days. 

One "Hey, I love you" text message can make the difference in your friend's day. It takes three seconds to send a sweet text to a far away friend.

3. Keep notes of important life events that need to be shared so that you're prepared when you DO have time to talk. 

When you're only talking once a week it can be really easy to forget the highlights (or lowlights for that matter) since the last time you talked. There is nothing worse than sitting on the phone with nothing to say. Take short notes about your week so you can properly fill in your friend.

4. Send a care package. 

Even if it's something small, sending a meaningful gift is a great way to show a friend that you're thinking about them. Send a stressed out friend some tea or essential oils. Send your friend some snacks during exam week, these small gifts can go a long way.

5. Write an actual real life paper note. 

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When did people stop writing notes? Who doesn't LOVE getting mail? These are all super relevant questions. Sit down and write a friend a letter, it'll mean more to them than you realize.

6. Do something weekly to make them laugh or smile. 

This could literally be as small as sending jokes every once in a while. Making the effort to get a smile out of a best friend is the literal core of good friendship. You know your best friend more than anyone else. You know what they'll love.

7. Start an active group message. 

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If you are hoping to stay in touch with more than just one person, make an active group message. While some group messages can be annoying, they can also be a super fun way to quickly share something great with more than one person.

8. Look for small meaningful gifts. 

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Stockpile some small presents for when you see your friend again. There are few things sweeter than getting small mementoes from the time you missed with your friend. Even something as small as a postcard from a weekend away will speak volumes.

9. Introduce them to new friends and keep them updated by name. 

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The hardest part about keeping track of old friends is the fact that you're actively making new ones. Introducing your old friends to your new friends by name will make your old friends feel included in your life. Also, it will allow for way better phone conversations.

10. Coordinate with a roommate and plan a surprise visit. 

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Making the trip to see a friend is the best surprise ever. Become friends with a roommate or school friend and plan a time for the ultimate surprise.

Good friendships take work. Long-distance friendships may take even more work but the payoff is that much greater. Take the time and do something special for your friends near and far. You need them and they need you. A little distance never hurt anybody. There is no such thing has "goodbye," just a whole lot of "see you later." Be intentional with your long-distance friends and before you know it, you'll be reunited.

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