An Open Letter To All The Friends That Walk Away From You

An Open Letter To All The Friends That Walk Away From You

Now, I know better.
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To the friends that walked away,

I used to think that you walking away from our friendship was the end of the world, or, my world at least. I was alone and scared. Scared to walk back into school, knowing I would have to face you, scared to hear you talking in fear that my name would come into the conversation, scared of the confrontation that I so desperately needed from you, yet never received. The worst part is, you never spoke cruel words, never threatened me, never actually did anything that should have made me scared. You just left. Yet, I was terrified nonetheless. I believed that I had lost all of the strength that I had gained over the span of my entire life and had no clue how to build myself up again. I had never fended for myself before and now I was completely on my own.

I would say that I wish this situation had never happened, however, I’m actually glad it did. I genuinely thought that I had lost myself, then, I realized that the strength that it took for me to recover from that was something that no one could ever steal from me. I got myself through and I know now that I was, and still am, so much more than a group of friends. I know that there are others out there who will actually care enough to stick around. I know my own strength and who I can be if I persevere through the nearly unbearable times in life. I may have let them win for a while, but I’m taking my life back and rising above it all.

I let you ruin me. I enabled you to steal a piece of my dignity when you didn’t even deserve half of the attention given to you. I let myself become distraught over something that would eventually be meaningless. Now, I know better. I am ready to face the world without you.

Throughout this learning experience, I have thought of you multiple times. I hope that you all are succeeding and enjoying your lives. I hope that you still think of me and the memories that we share. No matter what we have gone through, I hope you know that you can still lean on me in times of hardship. I’ll be here. Thank you for teaching me one of the biggest lessons I believe a person can learn; the power of true friendship.

Love,

The girl you left behind

Cover Image Credit: Family Friendly Poems

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An Open Letter to the Best Friend I Didn't See Coming

Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.
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Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!

JQ

Cover Image Credit: Julia Dee Qualls

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To my inspiring best friend

I hope you know that just as you've always been one of my biggest supporters, I will always be one of yours.

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Dear Patience,

You are, without a doubt, the kindest person I have ever met. You are one of those people who has the remarkable ability to see the good in everyone, the potential in everything, the light in every darkness. You are someone who is just genuinely joyful, even when it's hard to be, and I admire you for that.

I've been trying to pinpoint the moment when you became one of my best friends, and I think it must have happened sometime our Junior year of high school. We had always run in similar circles, but I think we had a conversation about a book or a movie and from that point on, we were kindred spirits.

Your devotion to art, especially animation, really inspired me to fully embrace my own creativity. I had always written stories for my own enjoyment, but it wasn't until I shared some with you that I realized I wanted to be a writer for the rest of my life. Your creative opinions are more valuable to me thank you could know; that's probably why I tell you about every little idea I have.

Beyond that, though, I feel like I get to be the best version of myself when I'm your friend. I get to be kind and creative, and I never have to fear judgement. I know that if I come to you with even the saddest feeling, you'll offer some bright perspective that turns even the most oppressive obstacle into an opportunity for growth. Also, I know that I can always find a fellow fangirl in you; even if you don't like the book/show/movie as much as I do, you'll find some way to encourage my enthusiasm, and I think that's just grand.

I hope you know that just as you've always been one of my biggest supporters, I will always be one of yours.

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