An Open Letter To My Best Friend Going Through Tough Times

An Open Letter To My Best Friend Going Through Tough Times

Quote to live by: "We rise by lifting others." - Robert Ingersoll.

Quote to live by: "Sometimes you get the best light from a burning bridge." - Don Henly.

To my best friend who will find that light:

It'll all get better in the end, I promise you. I know life is hard right now, and nothing seems to be going your way. Although I physically and mentally cannot understand what you're going through in depth, I have a close enough idea.

You are enough and you are so, so loved. I know that you may think otherwise, but you are well more than enough. I know that sometimes the world is against you, and everything is out of place. But in time, things will get better.

Quote to live by: "When you can't find the sunshine, be the sunshine." - Unknown.

You are such a beautiful person inside and out. I hope you see that within yourself. You know how to make people smile and make people laugh, and that's really hard for some people. Everyone needs a friend like you in their life.

Quote to live by: "You are your own definition of beautiful and worthwhile and no one else's definition. You are wiser, stronger, and smarter because you've made mistakes in your life." - Taylor Swift.

You care more about others than you do yourself, and it's okay to care about others. But, don't forget to care for yourself, too. This trait that you carry is so authentic and rich, and everyone should strive to have it as strong as you do.

Quote to live by: "Be somebody who makes every body feel like a somebody." - Robby Novak.

You are so genuine. I will always cherish the memories we have with one another, and I wouldn't trade them for the world. You truly are one of the greatest friends I've ever had, and I can only hope to be as genuine as you one day.

Quote to live by: "If every day was perfect, then there would be no need for tomorrow." - Unknown.

You know how to keep a conversation going, even if it's with a random person or it's just an uncomfortable situation. It's hard for a lot of people to do this, but this trait that you have can carry you in many different beautiful ways.

Quote to live by: "Intake confidence. Exhale doubt." - Unknown.

You have a kind soul and a kind heart. Though sometimes a little sass and a little mess can be thrown in the bunch, your heart always leads the way and you find the good out of every situation.

Quote to live by: "We rise by lifting others." - Robert Ingersoll.

You wear your heart on your sleeve. Instead of hiding your emotions and feelings, you pursue them, take control, and are forthright of the notions. Not many people can pull it off as you do. I promise you, there's nothing wrong with that.

Quote to live by: "You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world, but you do have some say in who hurts you." - John Green.

You know more than you think you do. You're knowledgeable and sincere. You're steadfast and you're worthy.

Quote to live by: "Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day." - Unknown.

When things get tough, just know, please know, I'm always a phone call away. I know things are hard and life is difficult to cope with, but you are enough. Find what you enjoy and find what you're passionate about. Set goals and strive to achieve them. Take risks, don't let others hold you back from taking them. Do what makes you happy, and that's all that matters. Self-content and self-worth are far more important than anything you'll go through.

Once you find yourself, and find what makes you, you, I promise that everything will change from there. Of course, I know that it's difficult. Wondering what really makes you who you are. But, I am going to tell you this. There are hundreds and thousands of things that make each and every person unique. I promise you that no matter what, in the end, there are better days ahead. Better, brighter days that will have everything in store for you.

Quote to live by: "When you have bad days that just won't let up, I just hope that you will look in the mirror and remind yourself what you are and what you are not. You are not your mistakes. You are not damaged goods. You are not the opinion of someone who doesn't know you. You are a product of the lessons that you've learned. You are wiser because you went through something terrible. And, you are the person who survived a bunch of rainstorms and kept walking." - Taylor Swift.

Cover Image Credit: Taylor Swift

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Sorry Not Sorry, My Parents Paid For My Coachella Trip

No haters are going to bring me down.

With Coachella officially over, lives can go back to normal and we can all relive Beyonce’s performance online for years to come. Or, if you were like me and actually there, you can replay the experience in your mind for the rest of your life, holding dear to the memories of an epic weekend and a cultural experience like no other on the planet.

And I want to be clear about the Beyonce show: it really was that good.

But with any big event beloved by many, there will always be the haters on the other side. The #nochella’s, the haters of all things ‘Chella fashion. And let me just say this, the flower headbands aren’t cultural appropriation, they’re simply items of clothing used to express the stylistic tendency of a fashion-forward event.

Because yes, the music, and sure, the art, but so much of what Coachella is, really, is about the fashion and what you and your friends are wearing. It's supposed to be fun, not political! Anyway, back to the main point of this.

One of the biggest things people love to hate on about Coachella is the fact that many of the attendees have their tickets bought for them by their parents.

Sorry? It’s not my fault that my parents have enough money to buy their daughter and her friends the gift of going to one of the most amazing melting pots of all things weird and beautiful. It’s not my fault about your life, and it’s none of your business about mine.

All my life, I’ve dealt with people commenting on me, mostly liking, but there are always a few that seem upset about the way I live my life.

One time, I was riding my dolphin out in Turks and Cacaos, (“riding” is the act of holding onto their fin as they swim and you sort of glide next to them. It’s a beautiful, transformative experience between human and animal and I really think, when I looked in my dolphin’s eye, that we made a connection that will last forever) and someone I knew threw shade my way for getting to do it.

Don’t make me be the bad guy.

I felt shame for years after my 16th birthday, where my parents got me an Escalade. People at school made fun of me (especially after I drove into a ditch...oops!) and said I didn’t deserve the things I got in life.

I can think of a lot of people who probably don't deserve the things in life that they get, but you don't hear me hating on them (that's why we vote, people). Well, I’m sick of being made to feel guilty about the luxuries I’m given, because they’ve made me who I am, and I love me.

I’m a good person.

I’m not going to let the Coachella haters bring me down anymore. Did my parents buy my ticket and VIP housing? Yes. Am I sorry about that? Absolutely not.

Sorry, not sorry!

Cover Image Credit: Kaycie Allen

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7 Things I Learned About Music Festivals

Make the most of it.

On the weekend of April 12th, I was blessed enough to experience the first weekend of the 2018 Coachella Valley Music and Arts Festival. And now I have serious PCD (post concert depression).

Before getting into it, this was only possible because one of my friends bought two tickets and invited me. How could one say no to an opportunity like this? Obviously, you don't.

I don't usually go to music festivals. And I am not a camper. But there's a first time for everything.

I never had much interest in festivals because I thought they were a waste of money.

I was wrong.

Coachella is an experience I want everyone to have. So if given the chance to go, do yourself a favor.

Though every second I spent in the Indio sun was priceless, there are a few things I feel everyone should know before flying out to Cali and camping for the first time, like myself.

1. Don't wear flip flops.

This was a rookie mistake. While walking through the festival grounds, I noticed I was the only one wearing them. That's weird, I thought to myself, considering it was at least 95 degrees each day. But I soon learned this was due to the bathroom conditions, muddy grounds, and large crowds. Being in a mosh put during Migos' set was not a fun experience after I walked away with dirty feet and blood blisters.

2. Do bring a jacket.

Just because you're in the desert doesn't mean you won't need one. The desert gets strikingly cold once the sun sets, and you'll be sorry you don't have a jacket on hand as you freeze your ass off in your bralette and shorts (I didn't because I had my fuzzy coat with me). I recommend investing in a fuzzy coat. Not only are they cute and comfy, but they match basically any outfit.

3. Do have extra batteries.

So my friend and I were planning to sleep on air mattresses while camping. As usual, things didn't work out and we wound up not having the right batteries nor access to getting them. To avoid this, read labels. Then you won't end up sleeping in the back seat of a car like me.

4. Do invest in dry shampoo.

The shower lines are long, and the showers themself aren't too hot. While I do recommend taking a body shower, also invest in dry shampoo. It'll save you the frustration of leaving the shower with conditioner-dense hair.

5. And sunscreen.

I don't get sunburn. Like ever. But that changed after spending about two hours in the Indio sunrays. No matter how Italian you are, sunscreen is a necessity if you plan on sending three days in the desert's sun rays.

6. Festival food is expensive.

I probably dropped a total of $200 just on food this weekend. Not complaining though, because the food was amazing (the acai bowls stole my heart). But if you're trying to save up some money and have the means to barbecue, definitelty do so.

7. Make the most of it.

Not everything goes as planned. I'm a perfectionist, so when things don't go as I had hoped, I tend to freak out. But I really learned to just go with the flow this weekend and take in every second. Enjoy the $13 chicken fingers and sweet potato fries (I did). Embrace having your toes stepped on just to be a few rows away from The Weeknd (so worth it).

Life really is what you make it, so instead of worrying about the little things, definitely just appreciate every second of Coachella.

Cover Image Credit: Ashley Mir

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