An Open Letter To The One That's Cheating

An Open Letter To The One That's Cheating

I don't want to hurt your feelings, but what you're doing is hurting others.

To The Person Who’s Cheating,

I just want to start by saying I don’t judge you. It’s your life, and I believe that you should do what you want with it. I have no heaven or hell to put you in for doing what you’re doing. It’s honestly not any of my business, but I have to say something.

When you cheat on a girl, or anyone in that matter, it doesn’t matter if you were drunk, if it was a mistake or if you just felt like doing it. No matter the reason for cheating, it still hurts. Now sometimes, people make mistakes; we’re humans. I get that. We have our occasional slip ups; there’s no excuse, but it’s more reasonable. I’m talking about those who do it deliberately, and repetitively, why?

Now, I’m sure you have a good reason for cheating or whatever it is you’re calling it, but I just don’t understand. There shouldn’t be an excuse to what you are doing. If you are unhappy, then leave the relationship. Now I get it; leaving someone is easier said than done, but imagine if it were you. Imagine if someone you love, and someone who claims to love you in return does the exact same thing to you. Would it hurt? If it doesn’t, then what’s the point of being with that person? If them being with another person doesn’t make you upset in anyway, then you’re wasting their time. Not only are you wasting their time but yours as well.

Do you really want to be with someone that you really don’t want to be with? Life is too short to keep lying to someone you say you care about. I understand it’s hard to tell them the truth, but keeping that secret from them and repeatedly cheating isn’t doing them any better. It doesn’t just hurt them, but it hurts you too. It’s draining your energy convincing people and trying to be someone that you care about them, trying to save face. That’s taking more of your effort than anyone else’s.

I don’t want to tell you how to live your life or how to handle your relationship. I just want you to know that you are only hurting yourself. What you think is fun and safe now is only going to hurt you in the end. Beyoncé said, “What goes around comes back around." Karma always does its job, and the more you keep hurting those around you, deliberately or not, it will come back to you. If you really love the person you’re cheating on, you’ll both stop and tell them the truth, or you’ll let them go and be happy. It’s your choice.


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