An Open Letter To The One That's Cheating

An Open Letter To The One That's Cheating

I don't want to hurt your feelings, but what you're doing is hurting others.
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To The Person Who’s Cheating,

I just want to start by saying I don’t judge you. It’s your life, and I believe that you should do what you want with it. I have no heaven or hell to put you in for doing what you’re doing. It’s honestly not any of my business, but I have to say something.

When you cheat on a girl, or anyone in that matter, it doesn’t matter if you were drunk, if it was a mistake or if you just felt like doing it. No matter the reason for cheating, it still hurts. Now sometimes, people make mistakes; we’re humans. I get that. We have our occasional slip ups; there’s no excuse, but it’s more reasonable. I’m talking about those who do it deliberately, and repetitively, why?

Now, I’m sure you have a good reason for cheating or whatever it is you’re calling it, but I just don’t understand. There shouldn’t be an excuse to what you are doing. If you are unhappy, then leave the relationship. Now I get it; leaving someone is easier said than done, but imagine if it were you. Imagine if someone you love, and someone who claims to love you in return does the exact same thing to you. Would it hurt? If it doesn’t, then what’s the point of being with that person? If them being with another person doesn’t make you upset in anyway, then you’re wasting their time. Not only are you wasting their time but yours as well.

Do you really want to be with someone that you really don’t want to be with? Life is too short to keep lying to someone you say you care about. I understand it’s hard to tell them the truth, but keeping that secret from them and repeatedly cheating isn’t doing them any better. It doesn’t just hurt them, but it hurts you too. It’s draining your energy convincing people and trying to be someone that you care about them, trying to save face. That’s taking more of your effort than anyone else’s.

I don’t want to tell you how to live your life or how to handle your relationship. I just want you to know that you are only hurting yourself. What you think is fun and safe now is only going to hurt you in the end. Beyoncé said, “What goes around comes back around." Karma always does its job, and the more you keep hurting those around you, deliberately or not, it will come back to you. If you really love the person you’re cheating on, you’ll both stop and tell them the truth, or you’ll let them go and be happy. It’s your choice.

Sincerely,

The Girl Who Has Been Cheated On

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34 Things I Should Have Brought To College At The Start Of Freshman Year, But Didn't

To the incoming freshman from the rising senior.
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Coming from a rising senior at the University of Dayton who has lived in an over-sized double dorm room, to a suite-style quad dorm room, to a house with virtually no storage space sharing an octagon-shaped single room (and single closet)... These are the random little things no one thinks to bring to college or put on these lists, but they will make your life on campus a million times better. I ended up buying these items long after I started college, and they were a big help. Don't make the same mistakes I did.

1. Shoe organizer

These are great for various items such as toiletries, snacks, and, of course, shoes.

2. Under-the-bed storage bins

During college, most of my storage has been under my bed, so this is a must.

3. Photos

To remember the happy times with your friends and family. Add to your collection over your college years.

4. String lights

Just to add a little something extra to your space. The dim light is totally relaxing.

5. Makeup wipes

For when you're too tired after going out to actually wash your face.

6. Extra sheets and towels

Trust me, you're not going to want to wash your sheets and towels right away so you can use them immediately. Bring back-ups.

7. Tide pods

These are awesome. Plus they smell heavenly.

8. Drunk dorm/microwaveable snacks

For when you come back after going out and the dining hall has already closed. Ordering Domino's or Jimmy John's night after night is NOT a cost-effective option.

9. Gatorade

For when you're too dead in the morning to walk down and get one from the dining hall.

10. Keurig and coffee

Just in case the dining hall runs out of coffee during finals week. Believe me, it can happen.

11. Chip clips

You will accumulate many of these from free vendors and events on campus, but somehow, they are no where to be found when you need one.

12. Paper towels / Clorox wipes

You can never have enough.

13. Rain boots

So you'll be able to make it to class on those rainy days without having to sit in soaking wet socks and shoes for 50 minutes (yikes). And you can jump in all the puddles you wish.

14. Alarm clock

If you're like me and could sleep the whole day if you didn't have an alarm, your phone alarm just doesn't cut it sometimes.

15. Back study pillow

Even if you don't think you will use it, you will end up wanting it.

16. Command strips

These are the only things that will stick to most dorm room walls.

17. Rug

Especially if your room has a cold tile floor instead of carpet.

18. Air mattress or sleeping bag

For your friends visiting you on campus, or if you ever go on a trip.

19. Disposable dishes

At least while you live in a dorm with a community sink.

20. Red solo cups

Because you don't want your morning-after milk or apple juice to taste like last night's $8 vodka.

21. Costumes/holiday wear

This is something I totally didn't even think about when I first came to school. Now I have an entire bin JUST for costumes and holiday decor.

22. Crazy daydrink clothes

If you have a few jerseys, you're set. If not, take a trip to the local goodwill with your squad and pick up a few things. The crazier, the better.

23. Towel wrap

If you're like me and just like to chill in your towel after you shower ( and a robe is too hot for you), these are a must. And they're super cute.

24. Wristlet/clutch/small purse

You won't want to lug around a large tote while you're out with friends or doing daily activities.

25. Comfortable heels

Don't let this be you!!!! I've been there, and nothing will ruin your night of dancing at the club like shoes that give you blisters and disable your walking by the end of the night.

26. Business casual and business professional clothes

And make sure you know the difference and when each is appropriate.

27. Water bottle

In college, your water bottle is your best friend. You never go anywhere without it, and it actually helps you to drink the amount of water you're supposed to drink each day (maybe).

28. Blender

If you're a fan of smoothies (or frozen margaritas) and want to make them at home for less.

29. Flashcards

Flashcards are a great way to study. If they're not for you, buy them anyway just in case you want to try them out. Or if anyone on your floor is desperate for them, they will be eternally grateful.

30. Mini fridge

When you're sharing a fridge with 3+ other people, things can get pretty tight. I recommend buying this with your roommates so you can share the extra space.

31. Calculator

Just in case you change your major and have to take math again (like me).

32. Thermometer

So you can know for sure whether or not you have a fever.

33. Drying rack

Because you're actually not supposed to put everything in the dryer, who knew?

34. Rubbing alcohol

Works wonders for getting those impossible Thursday night Xs off before your Friday 9 a.m.

These things have helped me make it through three years of college, especially freshman year. Hopefully, I have helped you prepare for your college years somehow. Good luck and have fun!!!

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In fourth grade, we had to write a chapter book, and I remember writing and illustrating it all myself and all these years later, I remember that one project for English.

All through grade school and high school, I would be writing little stories. My friends and I participated in Camp Nanowrimo in August and we would race to try and write 50,000 words in that month for a novel. For one of my college apps, I was asked to grab their attention in 100 words, so I decided to start a horror novel. (Yes, I realize now that may not have been the best course of action, but oh well, it was a blast!) Once college apps were done, I decided to expand off of my application essay, and I wrote the first two or three chapters of that story.

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