I have always been the friend that everyone goes to for advice. I guess i just do a very good job of pretending I have my life together (funny, I know). Although some may not like being viewed as a human diary, I actually do not mind one bit. I enjoy listening to the problems of others and giving my opinions and input. If anything, it is an honor that they asked for my advice in the first place.
In my opinion, giving advice is a huge responsibility. It may seem like a simple task, which it is, but there is a lot that goes into it. Your family member, friend or acquaintance is asking you how to handle a situation that popped up in their life. How you answer them could alter how they view the situation or the person they are ranting about. The fact of the matter is, whoever asked for your perspective respects and trusts you enough to want to open themselves up to you. That is a something to be proud of.
Although you "advice givers" may not always want to have serious conversations, your friend deserves a genuine response to whatever they are asking about. Blowing them off or making fun of them will discourage them from asking for your opinion in the future. It is so disappointing when you open up to someone you respect and they do not take you seriously at all.
Giving your advice also requires that you be sensitive to the situation of your friend or relative. If they are asking for relationship advice, do not just shrug and say, "break up with him/her." They have probably thought about that already and want your help in considering all of the options. And saying, "I told you so" accomplishes nothing as well.
Additionally, and this should be common sense, be honest. This person will believe what you say, so do not take advantage of that power. Put your own personal prejudices aside and give this person what they deserve to hear: the truth. This is about them, not you. It was their choice to come to you, and the final decision is their own. Your job is to be there for them when they need you.
And last but not least, remember to be kind. If someone needs advice, that is a good indicator that they are sad, confused, lost, angry or just need a second opinion. Either way, they want you to be the one to help them. They thought you would be the best fit in order to help them solve their problem. That means you are pretty amazing in their eyes.
So, take my advice, and give genuine advice.
Ha. Aren't I funny?
