Open Letter To The Boy Who Didn't Appreciate Me

I know, now, that what I have to offer is for someone who realizes just how spectacular I really am.

Rachel Zsarnay Dec 9, 2015

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Dear You,

You didn't give me enough credit. I put you on a pedestal; I praised you for everything you did right, and even when you did wrong, I still thought you were the greatest.

You see, I know what it's like to appreciate what is in front of me. I have loved, and I have lost. And when I found you and got to know what was deep down inside you, I began to fall for that. But that's not who you were. That's the person you wanted to be.

You wear a mask every day. You put on a big show for everyone around you. Well done! You have them convinced. But me? Not so much. I challenged you to really think about the person you wanted to be. The person you don't show to others. And for a while, you were that person for me. I got your best. And it was wonderful.

But when you were done putting in the effort to treat me with respect and love, it went downhill. When you stopped cherishing the time spent and the deep conversations shared, you resented me. You resented how I made you think further than your comfort zone. You resented how much time of yours I took. You resented the effort it took to be a better person for me. You resented my emotional nature and the huge heart God blessed me with. And it was hurtful.

But that's what I love about myself. I am not easily won over, or impressed. I don't want to settle for mediocre or half your best, I want rawness and wholeness. I want vulnerability. I want someone who isn't afraid to shout the way they feel about me. I want someone who is able to recognize I am a prize. I want someone to appreciate that I have opinions and I am a free thinking individual. I want someone to reciprocate the neverending love I have to give.

I am not a brainless individual. I am an intelligent being, with opinions and thoughts on the world around me. I am a loving and giving person. Always accepting, always patient, always generous. My love is rare. Mostly because I love without conditions. And you won't find that just anywhere.

My emotions were never yours to toy with. I trusted that you would take good care of me. I gave you some of the most precious pieces of me, but you played me for a fool. You left me unsatisfied with a broken heart and nothing to show for the time we spent together.

But I have come to terms with the truth. What I had to offer was much too great for what you were willing to give back. You were not ready for what I was able to provide for you. It frightened you. I wanted to grow with you. I wanted to learn with you. I wanted to build you up, pamper you, shower you in love. But then again, you showed me you weren't worthy. I had to pull myself up from my boot-straps, and move on.

I know, now, that what I have to offer is for someone who realizes just how spectacular I really am. And that was never you.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Peyton Hughes

Peyton Hughes Feb 16, 2016

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Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

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Long distance relationships are always going to be a struggle, but there are a couple of things you can do to make long distance easier.

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I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now and we are entering a long distance relationship. He is staying a school in Arizona and I am moving to South Carolina. This transition is going to be hard, but we have worked through a couple of ways we can make this work.

1. Communication

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Keeping constant communication is to be the hardest thing to do in a long distance relationship. Both people are on different schedules and sometimes they just don't line up. Something that helps is setting up a specific time during the day to talk to each other. This could be a few texts, phone call, or even skype call. Doing this allows both parties to feel easy during the day and not worry about texting each other constantly because you have a set time to give each other attention.

2. Acknowledging the distance

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Some couples during long distance relationships pretend like the distance isn't there and act as if everything is normal. This definitely puts a strain on the relationship because the relationship isn't adapting to this new and extreme change. Doing this doesn't allow the relationship to grow in the way it needs to. Instead, acknowledge that things are going to be different and discuss different ways to adapt to your partner. This will help with the initial shock of not being around your partner all the time.

3. Setting up a day to see each other

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During long distance relationships, you could go months without seeing your partner. If you are used to seeing your partner every other day or even every day, this is going to be difficult to get used to. What helps is to have a set vacation time or a weekend where one of you will travel to see the other. This helps by giving the relationship something to work towards in the future. If you hit a rough patch or are feeling frustrated throughout the time apart, it helps to know you will see your partner soon.

4. Small acts of kindness

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During any relationship, a small act of kindness can go a long way. This could mean sending a good morning text or asking them how their day is going or even go as far as sending them a small gift. This lets your partner know you are thinking about them. This is also a good way to communicate during the distance.

5. Don't talk constantly

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Contrary to popular belief, you don't need to talk to your partner every day. In fact, talking to them every day for hours on end gets very frustrating. Learning from experience, when I talked to my partner every day, e conversation became dull and we were upset at the fact we had nothing to talk about and thought we were losing interest in each other. We decided it was ok not to talk to each other every day and it honestly saved our relationship. By doing this, it made talking to each other more special instead of feeling like a chore.

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