An Open Letter To Platonic Guy Friends

An Open Letter To Platonic Guy Friends

Thank you for letting me be one of the guys.
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Dear friends,

First of all, I have a generic thank you to give you that I would say to anyone who is my friend and who has stuck by my side. I appreciate your friendship and your support, and I know that I am not always the easiest to stay friends with. I am needy, I quadruple text, and I sometimes need reassurance that you actually care. So thank you for sticking by me, for being around when I need you and for loving me.

But I have a lot more to say to you, my platonic male friends. First of all, thank you for teaching me guy things and for letting me be "one of the bros" sometimes. You've talked sports with me and you haven't let me win because I'm a girl - so thank you extra for that. You've answered my awkward, honest questions about being a guy, and you've helped me when I've had drama with past crushes and boyfriends because you can see the situation from a male point of view. And you've taken my periodic girlishness with humor, and you've laughed even when you had no idea what I was talking about.

Even more, thank you for respecting our friendship. Thank you for accepting that it is a friendship (or for ensuring that I accept that it is just a friendship) and for being happy with that and for not pressuring me for anything else. Thank you for letting me sleep on your shoulder sometimes, and thank you for giving me hugs when my day has not been the best at all, and thank you for allowing these things as just part of our friendship - I notice and greatly appreciate it.

Thank you for going on adventures with me, introducing me to different music and driving all over the state of Georgia with me just because. Thank you for taking me to movies that I never would have seen on my own and for forcing me into hobbies that I actually really do like. Thank you for debating topics with me that I don't know about (sometimes, I don't know everything - this is an official admission!) and for teaching me things about it then.

Thank you for defending me against people who have hurt me or would hurt me, for ensuring I understand how important my own independence is and for giving me the most honest advice in everything in my life. Thank you for being another brother (one that is simultaneously more and less annoying than the ones I have) and for including me in your stories and your life but without nearly all the drama.

I appreciate you for being my friend, but for being a special kind of friend - a friend I can be completely myself with because you can understand, support and respect me. Thank you for everything!

Love,

Me

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8 Struggles Of Being 21 And Looking 12

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“You'll appreciate it when you're older." Do you know how many times my mom has told me this? Too many to count. Every time I complain about looking young that is the response I get. I know she's right, I will love looking young when I'm in my 40s. However, looking young is a real struggle in your 20s. Here's what we have to deal with:

1. Everyone thinks your younger sister or brother is the older one.

True story: someone actually thought my younger sister was my mom once. I've really gotten used to this but it still sucks.

2. You ALWAYS get carded.

Every. Single. Time. Since I know I look young, I never even bothered with a fake ID my first couple of years of college because I knew it would never work. If I'm being completely honest, I was nervous when I turned 21 that the bartender would think my real driver's license was a fake.

3. People look at your driver's license for an awkward amount of time.

So no one has actually thought my real driver's license is fake but that doesn't stop them from doing a double take and giving me *that look.* The look that says, “Wow, you don't look that old." And sometimes people will just flat out say that. The best part is this doesn't just happen when you're purchasing alcohol. This has happened to me at the movie theater.

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4. People will give you *that look* when they see you drinking alcohol.

You just want to turn around and scream “I'M 21, IT'S LEGAL. STOP JUDGING ME."

5. People are shocked to find out you're in college.

If I had a dollar for every time someone had a shocked expression on their face after I told them I'm a junior in college I could pay off all of my student loan debt. It's funny because when random people ask me how school is going, I pretty much assume they think I'm in high school and the shocked look on their face when I start to talk about my college classes confirms I'm right.

6. For some reason wearing your hair in a ponytail makes you look younger.

I don't understand this one but it's true. Especially if I don't have any makeup on I could honestly pass for a child.

7. Meeting an actual 12-year-old who looks older than you.

We all know one. That random 12-year-old who looks extremely mature for her age and you get angry because life isn't fair.

8. Being handed a kids' menu.

This is my personal favorite. It happens more often than it should. The best part of this is it's your turn to give someone a look. The look that says, "You've got to be kidding me".

Looking young is a real struggle and I don't think everyone realizes it. However, with all the struggles that come with looking young, we still take advantage of it. Have you ever gone to a museum or event where if you're under a certain age you get in for a discounted price? Yeah? Well, that's when I bet you wish you were us. And kids' meals are way cheaper than regular meals so there have definitely been a couple times when I've kept that kids' menu.

So, all in all, it's not the worst thing in the world but it's definitely a struggle.

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What It Is Really Like Having Sisters Close To Your Age

While having siblings close to your age is pretty amazing, there can be a lot of issues that can come with it.

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I come from a family of 5 people and 1 dog. I have 2 sisters, Grace and Caroline. We are all pretty close in age, Caroline being the youngest and 3 years younger than me.

My sisters and I share a bond like no one else, no one can replicate it. When you have siblings close to your age you have built-in best friends, and since they are around your age you have the same interest, or at least, enough so that you can do things that other siblings cannot. Examples of this would be seeing R-Rated movies and going to the mall without too much complaining, along with being able to shop in the same stores or even share clothes. Grace and I sometimes even split the cost of a shirt we both like.

We even overlap friend groups! Which is not much of a problem for us, Grace and I are both in music programs which overlap enough for us to have the same friends, which is great for when one of us has a sleepover, the other can join in on the fun. Caroline, however, even though she is seen as the sporty one of the 3 of us, she still has a lot of friends who have similar interests as Grace or I, giving us a lot of the same friends. It's nice not to be considered the "cool older sister", I am just like the rest of them.

While we do fight a lot, we make up really quickly, because most issues we have are stupid sibling fights: who gets the T.V., what to have for dinner, what movie to see. But it is always fun because there are 3 of us, which means majority rules, something we tend to go by most of the time depending on the situation.

Having 3 teenagers in the house can be a handful for our parents though, when you have three teenage girls going through puberty at relatively the same time, it can be grueling, especially when you are all on your period at the same time.. (yes, that has happened before) (and yes, it sucks). While I am on the topic, let's say a prayer and a thank you to my dad for dealing with 5 girls (including the dog, obviously) because he does a pretty damn good job at dealing with all of us.

When we were younger, we always had a play date even when one was canceled. We all made up songs and dances and would perform them for our parents. We even had a band called The Halsey Sisters (AKA the female version of The Jonas Brothers) where we had a hit song called "We Got The Heart and Soul". It was a hell of a time. Let's just say the music video for that song is, interesting to say the least.

At the end of the day, I wouldn't switch my sisters for anything in the world, they are my rocks, and I wouldn't want it any other way, Grace, Caroline, keep doing what you're doing, because you're pretty damn awesome.

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