We've all had that one friend. The friend who calls you up at all hours of the day. The friend that is always negative, always rude and always self-centered. The friend that does not notice if you are hurting, but they make sure you know they are.The friend that might not even have any other friends. The friend that hurts you, but does not realize it. Or maybe...maybe they don't care.
If any of the above are true for you, I am concerned for you. Let me explain. It is a great thing that you are doing. Reaching out, showing love...but at a certain point, it just gets unhealthy. If your friend is draining you, hurting you, or making you be their exclusive friend, you might need to take a step back. Reconsider.
Your emotional health is important too.There comes a point when you need to be at least a little self-centered. I am not a psychologist, I am not a therapist. I am simply a peer who wants you to know that you have worth too, and you should not be treated like this.
College is a rough time. People go through difficult things. However, this is no excuse for someone to hurt or use you. So far this year, I have seen so many people in friendships that are harming them. I have watched people cry over things their friends have said without thought and seen their hearts break. This is not how it should be.
Please, please do not let them mistreat you. I am not saying cut all ties...just loosen them a bit. Talk to your other friends. Get their opinions. Do your friends think that this person is bad for you? Are they concerned that you are being emotionally abused? Are they upset that one person tries to monopolize your time? Your friends should build you up, not tear you down.
Whoever you are, I just want you to know that friendships are not supposed to be this way. You are a unique person who was designed and crafted to be exactly who you are. You deserve better than this if you feel emotionally depleted after hanging out with someone that claims to be your friend.
Please, consider the possibility of breaking it off with this person, at least for a while. Or, maybe let them know how you feel. Maybe they do not know what they are doing, maybe they need a wake up call. Confrontation can be a hard thing, I know. But maybe it is what is needed.
You are a beautiful (or handsome) person. Please, do not let anyone treat you like you are not.
I'll be praying for you. Sincerely,
Katelyn
For more information on toxic friendships, please visit:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-no...
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ann-davis/23-warning...
These articles contain a lot of good information. God bless.
