To the ones who "Love too Hard",
I know you're tired. I know you feel underappreciated. You feel defeated. No matter how confident you feel about a person or a relationship, it always seems to fall apart in your hands. You always find a way to blame yourself, even though you put everything you have into every person you care about.
Let me tell you this, do not stop loving the way you do. You are one of the rare ones. To love others in such a passionate, devoted, and innocent way can be a burden. You most likely did not make any mistake at all. The people who have hurt you haven't seen how deeply you care about them (and probably never will understand) or they are incapable of providing you the love you deserve. You deserve someone who is just as hopelessly in love with you as you are with them. Do not settle for someone who doesn't have the time or want to want you. Do not chase someone who doesn't appreciate you for all you are.
If you've been hurt, take a note from the ancient Japanese art form Kintsugi. Kintsugi is the art of repairing broken pottery with gold (or other metals). These pieces are highly appreciated due to their vast uniqueness in every piece. No two pieces are broken in the same way. The same pot may have been broken several times, yet, still remains beautiful and useful after the artistic repair. Take your heart, use your own love and repair yourself. Each time you get broken, remember that it's your unique set of breaks that have made you YOU, and you strong, so strong that you fixed YOURSELF. Don't seek someone new to fix you. Give yourself the time and patience that you give everyone else and take care of your own hurt and pain for once. You are beautiful, unique, and so strong.
One day, you will find someone who not only is riveted by your beauty, but appreciates you for all those scars you have and what makes you YOU. Someone will come along, maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not a year from now, that will love you the way you have loved others. Do not waste your time on people who don't cherish their time with you or what you do for them. When this person comes along, you will do as you always have, and will love fully, adoringly, and passionately. Don't let anyone destroy your innocent and beautiful heart.
Sincerely,
A Kintsugi Heart
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