Dear long-distance relationship,
You suck. You are even worse because I have to see couples everywhere. Walking to class, eating at dinner, on the bus, in classrooms, and in my own house. I never can escape the realization that my significant other is not here. It seems like every other person in the world can see their person whenever they want to but I’m stuck FaceTiming or Snapchatting my person.
People with their person in the same location get to complain about such trivial things, while I wish I could just be around my significant other. I would love to argue and complain about why he’s late or why he won’t hold my hand while we’re walking. But I can’t.
I can’t do a lot of things thanks to my long-distance relationship. On a rainy day, I can’t tell my person to come over, have him bring as many snacks as they can carry, snuggle in bed, and watch movies all day.
I can’t take him out to all my favorite places and meet all my favorite people. I have to tell him every detail about what happened while I went out and my person will never understand because he doesn’t know the people, he doesn’t know the places, and he doesn’t know the atmosphere.
I can’t call my person to come over because I’m having a bad day and I need my back rub, my forehead to be kissed, or just the comfort that he brings. I have to rely on FaceTime, Skype, or some other video messaging to receive the attention I crave in those moments.
Even those moments aren’t good enough, there’s always a connection problem. Someone is always freezing on the other. Then there are roommates, group chats, among many other things that get in the away from just talking to your person.
But, there is hope for you, long-distance relationship. From you, I’ve learned to cherish all the moments I have when I finally get to see my person. Every second is something I will never regret or want to change. Even if we’re just lying in bed, doing absolutely nothing and not talking for the entire day, that will be a day well spent because my person is there.
I’ve learned to communicate better. This would be the case in a long-distance relationship or a non-long-distance relationship. But, I feel that being in a LDR I can express emotions and how I feel more often than people who can see their person every day. I can’t rely on my body language to convey that I’m annoyed, happy, mad, or upset. I have to put my emotions into words that the person can understand.
I’ve learned that LDR’s also allow couples to develop a stronger emotional attachment, rather than just a physical one. In a LDR, you talk, and talk, and talk, and talk some more! You don’t get the physical aspect to a relationship until you see them in person, making those moments even better, too.
You may be the most infuriating thing that I may ever experience, but I wouldn’t regret getting into a long-distance relationship or anything about my relationship with my person. I’ll learn to deal with you better in the future, but for now, you still suck.
Love,
Person in LDR
