To The Girl Panicking About Finding A Roommate, It's Going To Be OK

To The Girl Panicking About Finding A Roommate, It's Going To Be OK

Advice about the process of finding your college roommate.

It’s a new year and high school seniors are finally hearing back about their acceptance to the colleges of their dreams. There is a lot to be worrying about when it comes to picking your school and committing to enrollment there, such as meal plans, living arrangements, the decision to join Greek life when it’s time, etc.

However, from my personal experience, the absolutely most stressful time about the college process was finding a roommate.

I, like many, wanted my roommate to be my absolute best friend, my long lost sister, and my other half. I had all these expectations that I wanted her to fulfill and decided that I was going to be very picky.

Because I was so eager to know who my roommate was going to be, I decided to start looking for one about three weeks after I was accepted to UNH in mid-March. This was a very early time to start looking for a roommate because many people had not made their decisions about where they were going to attend school yet.

Due to that, I didn’t know anyone else that was going to UNH, so I started looking on the incoming freshman Facebook group. There, many people would post status’ with a few sentences about what they were like and what they were looking for.

I scrolled through, reading almost everyone’s posts, and I found a girl who seemed very similar to me: her hobbies were listening to music, going to concerts, partying, etc. She seemed outgoing and friendly, so I decided to send her a message.

We ended up hitting it off, having almost all of the same interests and getting along really well. We talked through social media and texting throughout the whole time from March to move in day in late August, until we were finally able to meet.

We had also found out that we were going to be placed in a forced triple dorm, meaning that we would be forced to live with a third person. My original roommate and I were scared because neither of us knew the new roommate, nor did we speak to her before move-in.

We both weren’t too excited to be in a triple, but it ended up working out so much better than we could have imagined.

As school started and the days went on, me and my original roommate remained friends, but we didn’t really have the bond that I thought we had over the phone. We still got along fine and could live with each other, but we were nothing more than roommates.

Ironically, the randomly assigned third roommate with us ended up turning into my best friend at school. And my original roommate moved out to be in a double with friends she made in another dorm. So me and my new best friend now have a double.

It’s crazy how things work out, but in the end, everything always does. My original roommate and I still keep in touch as acquaintances.

So, my advice to the senior in high school who is anxious to find her roommate? Do not stress! You never know what could happen with rooming situations, so don’t assume too much of someone.

Your roommate might not be your best friend, and if that’s the case then as long as you can live with them you have nothing to worry about.

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The Thank You My Dad Deserves

While our moms are always the heroes, our dads deserve some credit, too.

Dear Dad,

You’ve gone a really long time without being thanked. I'm not talking about thanks for things like opening the Gatorade bottle I couldn't or checking my tires when my car’s maintenance light is flashing, but rather the thanks I owe you for shaping me into the person I am today.

Thank you for teaching me what I deserve and for not letting me settle for anything less.

While the whole world was telling me I wasn’t good enough, you were there to tell me I was. Whether this was with boys, a friend, or anything else, you always built my confidence to a place I couldn’t build it to on my own. You showed me what my great qualities were and helped me feel unique. But most of all, you never let me settle for anything less than what I deserved, even when I wanted to. Without you, I wouldn’t be nearly as ambitious, outgoing or strong.

Thank you for giving me someone to make proud.

It’s hard to work hard when it’s just for myself, but so easy when it’s for you. All through school, nothing made me happier than getting a good grade back because I knew I got to come home and tell you. With everything I do, you give me a purpose.

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Thank you for showing me what selflessness looks like.

You are the prime example of what putting your family first looks like. If me wanting something means that you can’t get what you want, you’ll always sacrifice. From wearing the same t-shirts you’ve had since I was in elementary school so I could buy the new clothes I wanted, to not going out with your friends so you could come to my shows, you never made a decision without your family at the forefront of your mind. If there is one quality you have that I look up to you for the most, it’s your ability to completely put your needs aside and focus entirely on the wants of others.

Thank you for being the voice in the back of my head that shows me wrong from right.

Even though many of your dad-isms like “always wear a seatbelt” easily get old, whenever I’m in a situation and can’t decide if what I’m doing is right or wrong, I always can hear you in the back of my head pointing me in the right direction. While I may not boost your ego often enough by telling you you’re always right, you are.

Thank you for being real with me when nobody else will.

Being your child hasn’t always been full of happiness and encouragement, but that’s what makes you such an integral part of my life. Rather than sugarcoating things and always telling me I was the perfect child, you called me out when I was wrong. But what separates you from other dads is that instead of just knocking me down, you helped me improve. You helped me figure out my faults and stood by me every step of the way as I worked to fix them.

Most of all, thank you for showing me what a great man looks like.

I know that marriage may seem very far down the road, but I just want you to know that whoever the guy I marry is, I know he’ll be right because I have an amazing guy to compare him to. I know you’re not perfect (nobody is), but you’ve raised me in a such a way that I couldn’t imagine my kids being raised any differently. Finding a guy with your heart, drive, and generosity will be tough, but I know it will be worth it.

Dad, you’re more than just my parent, but my best friend. You’re there for me like nobody else is and I couldn’t imagine being where I am now without you.

Love you forever,

Your little girl

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You Don't Need ANY Excuse To Cut That Toxic Person From Your Life, But Here Are 11 Anyway

I know you think they are your friend but they really aren't.


We have all had at least one toxic person in our lives, you know what I am talking about. The person who tears us down, the one trying to hold us back, doing everything in their power to make us feel less than and like we aren't good enough. It can take time to realize who this person is in your life because they present themselves as your friend but really they have ulterior motives.

There is nothing wrong with not wanting people like that in your life. I know there are times when you can't escape toxic people like at work or in your family and there is a different way to deal with them but this is for the people you have the choice to be around. You don't have to keep around people who aren't beneficial for you or toxic people because there can be devastating effects on yourself mentally and that can affect you physically. So if you're thinking about keeping that one person around here are some reasons you shouldn't.

1. You will be less stressed

I know you're thinking how is that even possible they're my friend, but trust me you will be. You won't constantly be trying to impress someone or feel like you have something to maintain because after all your friends are supposed to accept you for you so if you are having to be careful with what you say or how you act then are they really your friend?

2. You will begin to feel more like yourself again 

You will feel more like yourself because you won't have someone constantly reminding you of all of your flaws and reminding you who you are is not good enough when in fact who you are is beyond good enough.

3. You will be happier

You will feel less stressed and more comfortable being yourself and honestly once you cut out the negative people in your life you will grow more than you ever thought imaginable.

4. You will gain a new perspective on things 

You won't have someone else telling you what to think about yourself, the world, or others so you will get to experience life in a brand new way and your mind will change on so many matters.

5. You won't feel so much pressure all the time 

Toxic people can be super pushy and controlling and make you feel like you have to be someone else all the time and one they're gone you won't feel that way anymore and you will get to decide who you want to be.

6. You begin to put yourself first 

Toxic people can make you feel irrelevant and want all of your attention all the time so you get too wrapped up in solving everyone else's problems and taking care of everyone else you forget to take care of yourself but once there isn't anyone demanding everything from you all the time you begin to appreciate yourself and take care of yourself.

7. You'll be able to recognize the signs of a toxic person more easily 

You have been around one and now you know what to look for and what the warning signs are, so do with that what you see fit.

8. Your priorities change 

Your priorities become your own and not what someone else's is and it'll be weird at first but it is for the best because only you know what is best for you.

9. You grow from it 

You almost get to rediscover who you are because you're so used to being controlled by someone else that now you get to make your own decision and discover your own passions. You become someone new.

10. You begin to be more positive 

If you have ever been around that negative toxic person you know what I mean. They're negative all the time and then it makes you negative but once you get rid of that person constantly feeding you negativity you begin to surround yourself with positive people and will begin to see things through a more positive lens.

11. You will begin to appreciate your other friends more 

Toxic people often make sure we secluded so they can have more control over you but once you step back from that you will begin to appreciate the other people in your life so much more and who knows you may even begin to make new friends.

Cutting out a friend can be difficult sometimes but if they aren't the kind of friend you need you can't feel bad for cutting them out and doing what is best for you because at the end of the day it is your life, live with who you want to.

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