An Open Letter From The Person That Cares "Too Much"

An Open Letter From The Person That Cares "Too Much"

We may not always leave the best impression, but we always have the best intentions.

Opinionated. Animated. Loud. Aggressive. Stubborn. Obsessive.

To many, someone like myself can come across as all of the above. And maybe there’s some truth to that. What most don’t understand is that this comes from a place of deep passion, care, and concern for the things that mean the most to me.

As an avid Parks and Recreation binge-watcher, it seems most appropriate to reference the legendary Leslie Knope. For those who do not watch the television show, Leslie Knope (played by Amy Poehler) is the Deputy Director of the Pawnee, Indiana Parks and Recreation Department. In season four, Leslie decides to run for Pawnee's city council. In her closing statement at the final debate during her campaign, Leslie says:

“If I seem too passionate, it's because I care. If I come on strong, it's because I feel strongly. And if push too hard, it's because things aren't moving fast enough.”

I’ve watched this TV show an unhealthy amount of times, and yet no matter how many times I hear this speech, I can’t help but stop to really let those words sink in.

It’s difficult to explain, and it may seem silly to experience an emotional reaction from a sitcom about local government employees, but it feels like a wave of understanding is hitting me when I hear her say that. I acknowledge that I can be overly passionate, come off strong, and push too hard. But hearing someone put into words why makes me feel a sense of comfort that it’s okay to be this way.

I have a tendency to latch onto things and wrap my entire identity in them. This creates a sense of responsibility in me that comes across as controlling and unnecessarily opinionated. It is all rooted in caring too much. I fully realize that I may be going over the top with my opinion-sharing, defensive tendencies, and emotionality at times. I simply want what is best, and that burning desire can create tunnel vision.

So to those that begin seeing these tendencies, approach me as a friend. Share your opinions with me and let me know when I’m wrong and/or out of line. All it takes is a little perspective to make me notice that I have allowed my passion to communicate itself as rash behavior.

If you’re reading this and feel like you can relate, you’ve probably wished that you could turn off your tendency to care. You wish you could be the type to sit back and just watch. Let things play out as they will. Allow yourself to relinquish control and feel comfortable doing so. I’ve certainly thought all of those things. Hundreds of times.

However, from what I’ve learned from my own experience, the world needs those people who care too much. Don’t try and turn that switch off. Instead, learn to recognize the difference between passion and irrationality. Listen to others and respect every perspective. Even try shifting your own. But remain a force of passion and care. Because as Leslie Knope says,

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8 Things To Do For Fun Instead Of Getting Drunk

Do some of that work you've been procrastinating on, or maybe pray.

Nowadays it seems like all anyone ever wants to do is go out, party, and get drunk. Which is perfectly fine, if you truly find pure enjoyment in that. I think a lot of people use it as a source of fulfillment when it is not fulfilling you in any way.

If anything, it is going to make you feel emptier than anything else will in this world.

I am not saying to never ever have a drink or party because those are both normal things to do, but I think it needs to be seen as something done in moderation, not every weekend. Don't you just get tired of it anyway? With that here are eight things to do for fun that don't require any alcohol.

1. Read a book

Now I know this doesn't sound like the most exciting thing ever, but it is honestly so relaxing to just be able to sit and read. Reading books also allows you to throw yourself into a different world from a little bit and escape whatever may not be ideal in yours.

2. Go bowling

This is one of my FAVORITE things to do. It is so underrated and underappreciated. Bowling is such an easy way to catch up with some friends, and have a little friendly competition at the same time. It is something that everyone can do and enjoy, so it should be an easy sell to your friends.

3. Write

I know this is something else that does not appeal to a lot of people, but I promise it is something that can be very convicting. Sometimes you have thoughts going through your mind that are weighing you down, so you need to get all of those things down on to paper and free your mind to be filled with happier thoughts.

4. Take some pictures

Want to build up that Instagram following? Grab your super high-quality iPhone and go for a walk and take some pictures of anything that sticks out to you. It doesn't have to be something that everyone will love, it needs to be something that has meaning to you. Everyone else's opinion does not matter at all.

5. Go to an escape room

I personally have not gotten around to doing this yet (college keeps you really busy, okay), but I have heard GREAT things about them. Get together with a group of your smartest and most intuitive friends and see if you can escape in under an hour. This can also be used as a great bonding experience for teams or clubs.

6. Do some of that work you've been procrastinating on

We all know it's true. There are reading assignments from two weeks ago you still haven't even turned the page too. How about that paper due tomorrow you haven't started yet? You definitely do not need to be going out when you have work piling up by the minute. Also, stop telling yourself you will get it all done this weekend because you probably won't. Don't live your life in an area of constantly being behind. If we live our lives in an area of little urgency we have more opportunities to live a spontaneous life.

7. Watch some Netflix/have a night in

Sometimes you just need time to unwind from the week and Netflix is the best answer for that unless you want to watch One Tree Hill or How I Met Your Mother, then switch over to Hulu real quick. Either way, the point is your body needs rest, so give it that. And it will help you feel more prepared for the upcoming week.

8. Spend time with the Lord

I personally think this is the most important one on this list. The Lord is truly the only person who can give us complete fulfillment in our lives. He is the one who has a plan for us, and He is the one who knows what is best for us. We were created in His image, so why should we live any other kind of life? Read the Bible and above all else, pray. Pray for that void to be filled, and God will put something in your life that will.

I cannot speak from a drunk experience because partying and getting drunk is something that has truly never appealed to me. I am speaking from the perspective of someone who has seen many friends searching for fulfillment in those unnecessary things and just getting more hurt in the end. If it isn't making you happy then please find something that does. There are so many more things out there than just partying, go out and find them.

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If College Majors Were The Shots You Take At The Bar After An Exam

Shots are highly integrated into the college life.

Attention one and all: college sucks.

We invest so much time in studying, crying, having mental breakdowns and panic attacks, and then repeat.

But most of all, we drink. Like a lot.

If you're 21, you can't wait for Friday to roll around so you can flock to the nearest bar, so you can haphazardly drink your sorrows away and spend the last dollar in your pocket.

If you're not 21, you hope that someone can score you a fifth of Burnettes, and get wasted playing waterfall in your freshman dorm. Shots feel as if they're an inevitable drink that you consume at one point or another.

I asked a ton of people to pick one shot that would describe their majors, and here's what we came up with.

1. Communications-- Liquid Marijuana Shot

Contents Include: Captain Morgan, Blue Curacao, Malibu, Melon Liqueur, Pineapple Juice, and a splash of Sour Mix.


It seems easy at first, but then gets harder as you go.

2. Neuroscience-- Four Horsemen

Contents Include: Jim Beam, Jack Daniels, Johnnie Walker, and Jose Cuervo.


You think you're good, and then all of a sudden, you're dying.

3. Health Science-- Lemon Drop

Contents Include: Vodka, Lemon, Sugar


You think one is enough but then you realize it's useless until you get more.

4. Engineering-- Straight Whisky Shots


The program is hard and you need something just as hard to make up for what you're learning.

5. Social Work-- Mind Eraser

Contents Include: Vodka, Kahlua, 7-up.


Just like the name says, sometimes you need to forget the difficult things you saw that day.

6. Political Science-- Passed Out On The Bathroom Floor

Contents Include: Bacardi Rum 151, Jose Cuervo Gold, Jager, Peppermint Schnapps.


We talk and theorize about the state of our political culture so much, that sometimes we too (and we do this often) drink so much we pass out on the bathroom floor.

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