An Open Letter From The Person That Cares "Too Much"

An Open Letter From The Person That Cares "Too Much"

We may not always leave the best impression, but we always have the best intentions.

Opinionated. Animated. Loud. Aggressive. Stubborn. Obsessive.

To many, someone like myself can come across as all of the above. And maybe there’s some truth to that. What most don’t understand is that this comes from a place of deep passion, care, and concern for the things that mean the most to me.

As an avid Parks and Recreation binge-watcher, it seems most appropriate to reference the legendary Leslie Knope. For those who do not watch the television show, Leslie Knope (played by Amy Poehler) is the Deputy Director of the Pawnee, Indiana Parks and Recreation Department. In season four, Leslie decides to run for Pawnee's city council. In her closing statement at the final debate during her campaign, Leslie says:

“If I seem too passionate, it's because I care. If I come on strong, it's because I feel strongly. And if push too hard, it's because things aren't moving fast enough.”

I’ve watched this TV show an unhealthy amount of times, and yet no matter how many times I hear this speech, I can’t help but stop to really let those words sink in.

It’s difficult to explain, and it may seem silly to experience an emotional reaction from a sitcom about local government employees, but it feels like a wave of understanding is hitting me when I hear her say that. I acknowledge that I can be overly passionate, come off strong, and push too hard. But hearing someone put into words why makes me feel a sense of comfort that it’s okay to be this way.

I have a tendency to latch onto things and wrap my entire identity in them. This creates a sense of responsibility in me that comes across as controlling and unnecessarily opinionated. It is all rooted in caring too much. I fully realize that I may be going over the top with my opinion-sharing, defensive tendencies, and emotionality at times. I simply want what is best, and that burning desire can create tunnel vision.

So to those that begin seeing these tendencies, approach me as a friend. Share your opinions with me and let me know when I’m wrong and/or out of line. All it takes is a little perspective to make me notice that I have allowed my passion to communicate itself as rash behavior.

If you’re reading this and feel like you can relate, you’ve probably wished that you could turn off your tendency to care. You wish you could be the type to sit back and just watch. Let things play out as they will. Allow yourself to relinquish control and feel comfortable doing so. I’ve certainly thought all of those things. Hundreds of times.

However, from what I’ve learned from my own experience, the world needs those people who care too much. Don’t try and turn that switch off. Instead, learn to recognize the difference between passion and irrationality. Listen to others and respect every perspective. Even try shifting your own. But remain a force of passion and care. Because as Leslie Knope says,

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44 Lyrics For When You Need An Instagram Caption

Your caption is just as important as the filter.

Choosing the caption for your Instagram can be almost as challenging as deciding on a filter. So, if you’re ready to post that Insta, but don’t know what to say, here are 44 lyrics for when you need an Instagram caption.

1. “Be young, be dope, be proud.” - Lana Del Rey, "American"

2. “I can’t really see another squad tryna cross us.” - Drake, "No Tellin’"

3. “Darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream.” - Taylor Swift, "Blank Space"

4. “I’m throwin' shade like it’s sunny.” - Nicki Minaj, "Want Some More"

5. “I’m gonna live like tomorrow doesn't exist.” - Sia, "Chandelier"

6. “Find me where the wild things are.” - Alessia Cara, "Wild Things"

7. “If I was you, I'd wanna be me too.” - Meghan Trainor, "Me Too"

8. “Sweet like candy to my soul, sweet you rock and sweet you roll.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Crash Into Me"

9. “I swear this life is like the sweetest thing I’ve ever known.” - Drake, "Over"

10. “I hope you never lose your sense of wonder.” - Lee Ann Womack, "I Hope You Dance"

11. “But if you close your eyes, does it almost feel like nothing’s changed at all? - Bastille, "Pompeii"

12. “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.” - John Lennon, "Imagine"

13. “You can’t choose what stays and what fades away.” - Florence + The Machine, "No Light, No Light"

14. “She acts like summer and walks like rain.” - Train, "Drops of Jupiter

15. “She’s a good girl, loves her mama. Loves Jesus, and America too.” - Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers, "Free Fallin’"

16. “Lights will guide you home, and ignite your bones.” - Coldplay, "Fix You"

17. “Say you’ll remember me.” - Taylor Swift, "Wildest Dreams"

18. I’ve got thick skin and an elastic heart.” - Sia, "Elastic Heart"

19. “Give me the beat boys and free my soul.” - Uncle Kracker, "Drift Away"

20. “One of these days the clocks will stop, and time won’t mean a thing.” - Foo Fighters, "These Days"

21. “Sunshine mixed with a little hurricane.” - Brad Paisley, Perfect Storm

22. “You are the piece of me I wish I didn’t need.” Zedd feat. The Foxes, "Clarity"

23. “Her mind is Tiffany twisted, she’s got the Mercedes bends.” - The Eagles, "Hotel California"

24. “Life imitates art.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

25. “Nobody said it was easy, no one said it would be this hard.” - Coldplay, "The Scientist"

26. “You’re gonna keep my soul, it was yours to have long ago.” - State Radio, "Keepsake"

27. “Celebrate we will ‘cause life is short but sweet for certain.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Two Step"

28. “It’s always darkest before the dawn.” - Florence + The Machine, "Shake it Out"

29. “There are many things I’d like to say to you but I don’t know how.” - Oasis, "Wonderwall"

30. “You say you want a revolution, well you know we all wanna change the world.” - The Beatles, "Revolution"

31. “God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy.” Billy Currington, "People Are Crazy"

32. “Well my heart is gold, and my hands are cold.” - Halsey, "Gasoline"

33. “I don’t want to be heard, I want to be listened to.” - Twenty One Pilots, "Forest"

34. “Where you invest your love, you invest your life.” - Mumford and Sons, "Awake My Soul"

35. “I think I need a sunrise, I’m tired of the sunset.” - Augustana, "Boston"

36. “All of these lines across my face tell you the story of who I am.” - Brandi Carlile, "The Story"

37. ‘Ready or not, here I come. Where you at? The night is young.” - Bridgit Mendler, "Ready or Not"

38. “In the land of Gods and Monsters, I was an angel.” - Lana Del Rey, "Gods And Monsters"

39. “Turns out not where, but who you’re with that really matters.” - Dave Matthews Band, "Best Of What’s Around"

40. “Know yourself, know your worth.” - Drake, "0 to 100"

41. “I’m little but I’m coming for the crown.” - Lorde, "Still Sane"

42. “Didn’t they tell you I was a savage?” - Rihanna, "Needed Me"

43. “Hands in the air like we don’t care.” - Miley Cyrus, "We Can’t Stop"

44. “I’ma keep running because a winner don’t quit on themselves.” - Beyonce, "Freedom"

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Don't Be Afraid To Be Overly Sensitive

The world needs to understand that you're not 'making it all about you.'

If you're overly sensitive, you know the world doesn't revolve around you. You could be up at three in the morning thinking about a conversation you had in the afternoon, hoping that you didn't say something "wrong."

I feel as though people are afraid to be called "sensitive" because they see it as being weak or self-absorbed. If you're truly sensitive, you know that being sensitive is not about being weak or constantly thinking about yourself. You know that being sensitive means that you feel things very deeply.

As a society, we need to stop thinking about sensitivity as a negative thing. Sensitive people are usually the most considerate. They're in tune with their feelings and, nine times out of ten, they want to be in tune with yours too.

Sensitivity comes in all different forms. A common misconception is that people who are sensitive cry a lot and for no reason. Everyone's different. Some people show their sensitivity through crying, others through yelling, and others quite commonly by stone-cold silence.

When you feel things deeply, joy is no exception. So if you're sensitive, there's a good chance that when you're happy, you're really damn happy.

Sensitive people usually aren't selfish, just aware of their needs. A common reason they are easily upset is because they would willingly do things for others, and others do not do the same to them. The needs of other people vary, but I can say confidently that everyone needs to feel included, sensitive or not.

So how do you deal with a sensitive person? You shouldn't have to feel like you're walking on egg shells, but you should also keep in mind that they feel very deeply. Appreciate them, and make it known. Return their favors, and keep in mind that they are overthinkers. One thing that you say to them could resonate with them for a very long time.

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