"It was important for me, as a woman, to learn how to build a life of my own -- separate from any man--so that if shit ever hit the fan, I'd still have my own identity...I'd still have my own life."

I have seen on multiple occasions where people glorify finding relationships, and it seems as if they aren't happy until they find that relationship. However, if you ask me, that is rather backward. I'm not saying that relationships are a bad thing, in fact, it warms my heart to see people truly happy in love. However, I don't agree with the concept that for one to be happy, they must be in a relationship.

An Open Letter From Ms. Independent,

I was raised to do things on my own. Growing up I was given a task and expected to complete it to the best of my ability, and only after trying my very best did I ask for the help of others. This has translated into the person I am as an adult. I have pride in being able to do things on my own without depending on others. I was once told that my future lied solely in my hands and from that moment on I knew that it was up to me to make my dreams come true so I don't depend on anyone else for that.

That being said, I am a very focused person. I dream more of my future career than I do my future family. I do extra things for the simple fact that they are going to benefit me in some way. Everything I do now I do with the concept that it is going to take me one step closer to my future career. That being said I also don't like trivial things. I'm not a temporary person I'm a long-term goal kind of person so if something isn't going to help me achieve my long-term goals I don't want to be a part of it.

That being said, at this time in my life there are a lot of trivial things that come up; one of them being relationships. Constantly I have people tell me that I would be cute with so and so, or I should just give somebody a chance, but there is an issue with that. I don't like trivial things. If I feel as if someone is just going to waste my time I can't make myself commit to something I know is going to waste my time. Also, I am happy on my own. I don't need a guy to validate my happiness. In relationships, I thrive off of space. I don't like to be smothered 24/7.

So please understand that I am goal oriented. I chase my dreams and I can do that on my own. I am working every day to ensure that I will achieve everything that I set my mind to. I focus more on my future career than I do my future family. I am completely content with myself so I don't need someone else to validate my happiness. Understand that if I do decide to let you in that I won't focus on you all the time. I need space to be my own person and work on things for myself. Lastly, don't expect me to change who I am because my dreams are always going to be there; I strive to be the best of the best and if you can't understand that I need to chase my dreams and you try to hold me back then try to understand that I don't need you.

"If you see a woman that has everything going for herself and you're not ready to add value to her life...just admire her from afar. Please don't interrupt her greatness."

Sincerely,

Ms. Independent

PSA: To the girls that look for their worth in men. "You DON'T find your worth in a man. You find your worth within yourself and then you can find a man who is worthy of you. Remember that."