An Open Letter To My Best Friend On Her Wedding Day

An Open Letter To My Best Friend On Her Wedding Day

Who would have thought you would be the first of us to get married, yet here I am writing an open letter to you on your big day.

My forever friend,

After months of waiting, days of planning , and hours of decorating it finally comes down to the single moment that you say "I Do". It is the day we have talked about for years even though we were hesitant to say if it would ever really happen. I can only say what a privilege it is to still be standing by your side as we both know that friendships don't always last. I am beyond happy that ours has.

I knew this day would come eventually and with the years that you have given me to prepare myself I still didn't think it would hit me as hard as it did. As I sat upstairs writing this letter I heard you have your first breakdown about whether or not the meticulously placed string of lights would stay on during your big day or if they would blow the fuse...again. Before I even got the chance to get up and reassure you that everything was going to be okay I noticed that someone had already taken on that role. That's when I realized I wouldn't be the person you ran to first when things went wrong or the only person you confided in when you weren't ready to confide in the world. As hard as that was to grasp it has eased my mind knowing that you have found a man you deemed worthy of filling those shoes I, oh so graciously, have stepped out of.

Knowing you, you have probably glanced in that mirror a million times, checking your lipstick, re-positioning that veil, and making sure those curls have fallen just right. Regardless, I want you to know there is not a single thing that you could do to look any more beautiful than you look right now. I am so proud of you and the love that you have set as an example for everyone around you.

I want you to know that no matter where life takes us, how far apart we are, or how hectic our daily routines become, you will always be my best friend.

I will always be a shoulder to cry on, a voice on the other end of the line to vent to, and the person you can rely on to give you terrible advice.

I will always be the Wine Wednesdays, Mexican Mondays, and lazy Sunday afternoons even though we don't do them near as often as we use to.

I will always be the person to laugh at all of your jokes even when others don't recognize your humor yet, the person to shamelessly pig out with you even though its 2am, and the person who will sing her heart out with you through the sunroof to some of our favorite throwbacks.

I will always be the person you can turn to who loves you just as much as the man standing at the end of that aisle waiting on you.

Those are my vows to you.

I am so proud of you, happy for you, and most importantly, thankful for you. So please, take a deep breath. Let me re-position those curls one last time, find your bouquet that you sat down yet again, and carry the back of your dress so it doesn't get dirty before your pictures. Let me do the rest of the worrying because you have done enough thus far.

Today is the day that you walk down that aisle into the arms of a man who views you as his entire world. I wish you a lifetime of happiness and two step dances in the kitchen because I know those are your favorite. I hope today is everything you have ever hoped for and more.

Congratulations one last time, Mrs. Bear.

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To The Girl Who Had A Plan

A letter to the girl whose life is not going according to her plan.
“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.” - William Ernest Henley

Since we were little girls we have been asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We responded with astronauts, teachers, presidents, nurses, etc. Then we start growing up, and our plans change.

In middle school, our plans were molded based on our friends and whatever was cool at the time. Eventually, we went to high school and this question became serious, along with some others: “What are your plans for college?” “What are you going to major in?” “When do you think you’ll get married?” “Are you going to stay friends with your friends?” We are bombarded with these questions we are supposed to have answers to, so we start making plans.

Plans, like going to college with our best friends and getting a degree we’ve been dreaming about. Plans, to get married as soon as we can. We make plans for how to lose weight and get healthy. We make plans for our weddings and children.

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We fill our Pinterest boards with these dreams and hopes that we have, which are really great things to do, but what happens when you don’t get into that college? What happens when your best friend chooses to go somewhere else? Or, what if you don’t get the scholarship you need or the awards you thought you deserved. Maybe, the guy you thought you would marry breaks your heart. You might gain a few pounds instead of losing them. Your parents get divorced. Someone you love gets cancer. You don’t get the grades you need. You don’t make that collegiate sports team. The sorority you’re a legacy to, drops you. You didn’t get the job or internship you applied for. What happens to you when this plan doesn’t go your way?

I’ve been there.

The answer for that is “I have this hope that is an anchor for my soul.” Soon we all realize we are not the captain of our fate. We don’t have everything under control nor will we ever have control of every situation in our lives. But, there is someone who is working all things together for the good of those who love him, who has a plan and a purpose for the lives of his children. His name is Jesus. When life takes a turn you aren’t expecting, those are the times you have to cling to Him the tightest, trusting that His plan is what is best. That is easier said than done, but keep pursuing Him. I have found in my life that His plans were always better than mine, and slowly He’s revealing that to me.

The end of your plan isn’t the end of your life. There is more out there. You may not be the captain of your fate, but you can be the master of your soul. You can choose to be happy despite your circumstances. You can change directions at any point and go a different way. You can take the bad and make something beautiful out of it, if you allow God to work in your heart.

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So, make the best of that school you did get in to. Own it. Make new friends- you may find they are better than the old ones. Apply for more scholarships, or get a job. Move on from the guy that broke your heart; he does not deserve you. God has a guy lined up for you who will love you completely. Spend all the time you can with the loved one with cancer. Pray, pray hard for healing. Study more. Apply for more jobs, or try to spend your summer serving others instead. Join a different club or get involved in other organizations on campus. Find your delight first in God and then pursue other activities that make you happy; He will give you the desires of your heart.

My friend, it is going to be OK.

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10 Special Places In Your Hometown You Can't Wait To Revisit When The Semester Is Over

I can't wait to go home!


Everyone has their favorite local spots that they love in their hometown. These could be famous staples that everyone knows about, or your little getaway when life was hitting you hard growing up. Since being away from home I never understood how important they were to me until I wasn't there. It doesn't matter if you live in Maine or California, everyone has their spot or multiple spots.

Here is a list of 10 places that you will stop at once you get home.

1. Your Favorite Local Restaurant(s)

This restaurant or restaurants always come through whenever you want to eat your favorite food(s). It always made everything to perfection, and nearly every person knows your name in there.

2. Coffee Shop

The place that you always can meet your friends, or a quite place to get work done.

3. High School 

Going back to your local high school is always a positive walk down memory lane to see all your old teachers, and people that affected your life for the better.

4. Friends' Houses 

So many memories are there, and it's always so refreshing to see their faces and talk to people that you have grown up with.

5. Nature Spots 

You know those places that whenever you get to them can make you so much happier and more relaxed? That's what I'm talking about.

6. Walking Around Your Neighborhood 

Walking around your neighborhood is always fun, and you get to see a bunch of familiar faces.

7. Your Bed 

Because what's better than that...

8. Your Local Church 

It is always nice to see your youth group and elders whenever you come back.

9. Grandparents' House

You know when you are going over something good is always waiting behind the door.

10. Top Of A Parking Garage 

The ultimate best view to watch fireworks, sunsets, and sun rises.

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