Recently I was in my advisor's office going over next semesters schedule and I told him that I wanted to graduate within three years. He looked at me a little puzzled as to why I would want to. Shortly after, he told me to enjoy college and not be in a hurry to graduate because you will just work for the rest of your life. He continued by saying how college is a once in a lifetime experience. I shook my head and said "yes that is true," but in my head I told myself "no you have to take summer courses and graduate within three years." I always tell myself that I'm ready for the next stage in life; getting a job, getting married, and then having kids. The sooner I graduate the closer I am to that next stage. But am I ready? Will college actually be a fun and memorable time in the end?
First semester wasn't as fun as I had hoped. I never found a best friend or a friend group, but I'm not sure if I was even trying to. I went to events and hung out with a friend every once in awhile, but not like most college students. Most nights consisted of sitting in my room by myself and either studying or watching Netflix. I was so worried about my schooling that I wasn't making an effort in my social life. This had a negative affect on my overall mood and health. I never got any exercise which led to weight gain, which then led to very low self-esteem. I just kept digging myself a deeper hole. I didn't care about much because I told myself that I'll be out of here in three years anyway.
Not having the best first semester of college made me want to graduate in three years even more. I wasn't enjoying college. I was enjoying classes and learning but not the rest of it. But then Spring semester rolled around. Over Christmas break I told myself that I am going to go to the gym, hang out with friends more, and be more involved. Well that lasted the first two months. I tried to make up for first semester, but that would be impossible. I do have to say that this semester has been better than the first, though.
Recently I have been really thinking about what my advisor said. I'm so caught up in nothing but school that I am not enjoying college. I wanted the next stage when I'm not even living the one I'm in right now. My goal for next semester is to slow down, make friends, hangout with friends, and have fun. I can honestly say I am excited for next semester and just for a new start.
If you are in the same boat as me, I really suggest slowing down and just enjoying this wonderful experience. Four years will go by fast.
