We are college kids. Though we are considered adults by law, may participate in adult practices, and have some adult responsibilities, in the end, we still think more like kids than our own parents do.
Think about it. We still waste our time watching copious amounts of TV and Netflix. We’d rather stick a pack of chicken nuggets in the microwave than take the time to cook a proper meal. Many of us have never had to work a full time job. And even though our moms have constantly told us to clean up after ourselves, we still forget to put our food back in the fridge or take care of our dirty laundry.
There is beauty about being a college kid. We don't have curfews or have to text our moms when we are out late. Every night is basically a sleepover with your best friends, and we get to do whatever we want when we want. Honestly, being a college kid is the best. We get the freedom of an adult without all of adulthood's implications, like utility bills, income tax, mortgages, and screaming children.
However, what I have come to realize is that though we are living in some kind of limbo between childhood and adulthood, it will quickly change. We only have a few years of this. Before we know it, we will be thrown out into the real world. So we need to prepare ourselves. We need to start thinking and acting more like adults.
Here are five guidelines to live by as you are transitioning from a college kid to a college adult:
1. Don't Rely On Your Parents
For many of us, our parents have always been there when we needed them. Sometimes, it’s hard to stop letting them baby us. Step a space away from your parents, and make your own decisions. They won’t always be there to pick up your slack or tell you what to do. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t call them often or listen to their advice. Always remember that they have your best interest at heart. But remember that this is your life, and you are the only person who will live it.
2. Spend Time Thinking About Yourself
Spending time alone can sometimes be hard in college when we are constantly surrounded by our peers and friends. There is usually always someone there for you to hang out, work out, or study with. Still, take the time to be in solitude. It's not only less distracting, but it's also essential for your mental health. Think about your long-term goals, your past mistakes, what you want to improve on, and what's important to you. These reflections on a daily basis will keep you focused. Spending time alone will allow to you think about your actions and how they will affect your future.
3. Don't Play Games
Relationships are pretty much unavoidable from here on out, but it's important to be responsible about the ones we get involved in. First, be clear about your intentions and what you want. Don’t play games with girls or guys you’re interested in. Be yourself, and be honest. Don't waste your time on someone who isn't on the same page as you. You can't make them change. Spend your time investing in relationships that will count and last. Love yourself first, because you deserve to be treated with respect.
4. Get Things Done
After reflecting on yourself and your goals, start building stepping stones that will lead you to achieve them. Take opportunities. Look for ways to get involved in new ways. Actively engage in your life, and don't let time just pass you by.
5. Make Friendships That Matter
Surround yourself with people who you enjoy being around. This may sound simple, but I find that a lot of people don't give themselves the opportunity to make long-lasting, honest friendships. Communicate with the people in your life. If a conflict arises between you and a friend, confront the situation. Don't build up resentment or secretly despise them. Be honest with them and talk. Don't take your good friendships for granted, and always listen to what your friends have to say. Our college friends will go through a lifetime with you in a single year, so take them seriously and give them your attention.
Honestly, we won't learn to be adults by reading a five point list. It is something we will all eventually learn to do with time and experience. Let this be a reminder to live more thoughtfully, but still be a kid at heart. I know I will never stop blowing bubbles, sipping on Capri-Sun's, and cracking up at animal videos.
