An Open Letter To The College Boy That's Scared Of Commitment
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An Open Letter To The College Boy That's Scared Of Commitment

"When will you realize that one night stands, no strings attached relationships, and friendships with benefits doesn't make you a man?"

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An Open Letter To The College Boy That's Scared Of Commitment
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Boys (not men),

Now, I am sure you are sick of hearing this, but come on. When is it going to end? Will there ever be a time in your life where you stop insisting that almost every relationship you have is strictly no strings attached? Where did the respect go? I mean, don't get me wrong, everyone needs sex. It is scientifically part of us, but there is more to life than just sex. I understand that most of your male minds are wired to believe otherwise, but it is time to grow up. There is a trend with you college boys. You flirt, fuck, and forget. Sometimes you even do it repeatedly giving the girl a small glimmer of hope that you aren't inhumane. The saddest part is that most of these girls are your friends! Your mindless desire for sex takes over, and you forget that there is a respectable young woman in front of you.

Truly though, it is not all your fault. Society has made you this way, and the fact that your kind is now the norm is because we are all allowing this to continue, especially the women who become involved with you. These women allow you to treat them this way, even though it is disgusting. So ask yourself this: What would your mother say? I'd assume she would be disgusted with your behavior, but let's be honest she has no clue. So, imagine your mother as a young woman. Now, imagine her being treated like a piece of meat. I mean that is what you boys are doing. You use these girls for sex, and once you get what you want you are on your way. Believe it or not, these women are more than just a convenience.

I am not saying to bring back the hardcore romance, by any means, but respecting the girl you 'get with' should be a priority. If you can't manage to do that then, simply, don't get with her. These girls are probably amazing, but you won't even take the time to get to know them. That one girl you told your buddies you 'banged' at that one party, may be super smart! That one friend you hooked up with but talked smack about in your group chat with your friends may be beyond kind! That one girl you call you slept with, but ignore because you got what you want (*cough, cough* sex), could be an amazing friend! You don't have to marry them or date them, but would a new friend or acquaintance kill you? I mean, considering you had sex with this girl, I would hope not.

Regardless, boys, it is time to grow up. I am not saying that you guys are awful people for not being in committed relationships. It is college; we all want to live a little. All I ask is that you don't pretend that ever person you have had sexual intercourse with is nonexistent. We are all living, breathing, human beings. It's shocking, I know, but it's true! So befriend us on social media, say hi to us if you see us around, or even be a little crazy and make some conversation. You have to start somewhere, and I would start now. Your glory days aren't going to last for forever bud, remember that.

Oh, and trust me, we don't want to date you either.

Sincerely,

College women everywhere

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