I Made A Commitment To Loving My Boyfriend, And Your Opinion About My Sexual Experience Is Irrelevant

I Made A Commitment To Loving My Boyfriend, And Your Opinion About My Sexual Experience Is Irrelevant

"There is a difference with sleeping with someone and sleeping with someone you love."


Yes, curiosity exists in our everyday lives. It is a natural element that we experience every moment of every day. I find myself being curious as to how my life would be different if I went to a different high school if I hadn't joined the swim team, if I had been born a year earlier or a year later. There is no denial that curiosity plays a large role in who we are, and who we hope to become one day. That being said, that does not mean that I am always curious as to what else is out there. In fact, I am beyond happy in my three and a half year relationship, and I would not change anything for the world.

At a family get together, I was hit with the question of "If you've only ever tasted chocolate, how do you know you don't like strawberry or mint chocolate chip?" Truthfully, this hit me hard. It hit me harder than I would have imagined, and it hit my boyfriend even harder. It was true. We have only ever been with each other, and have only ever experienced each other's bodies. I found myself wondering what else there was, and if I were truly missing out on something. And then I realized something.

Something groundbreaking.

Something that affects me and my relationship positively even to this day. It doesn't and shouldn't matter to me what I am "missing out on," simply because I am so in love with this man. I love everything about him, and I would rather have someone that understands me, my body, and my emotions to rely on, rather than to sleep around with everyone. As it seems, the people who tend to ask my boyfriend and me similar questions to the one mentioned above are individuals who are typically part of the hookup culture.

Because these people are more used to having casual sex, they are not able to fully understand what it is like to feel a deep connection both physically and spiritually with the person they are having sex with. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with people feeling comfortable enough in their body to share their body with multiple individuals, that is not who I am, and something I do not see myself ever being comfortable doing.

The way I see it at least, is that if you love someone and are happy, why worry about what else may or may not be out there? As Bert Lance was once quoted with, "If it ain't broke, why fix it?" In other words, if something is working for you and it is not broken, there is no need to attempt to find a new way to "fix" it. The same can be said for my relationship. While we may argue, at the end of the day, our relationship is held together with our love and support of each other. Therefore, there is no need to search for other experiences when we have found what we believe to be the perfect experience within each other's bodies.

I recognize that I may spend the rest of my life wondering what I could have experienced with other people, but I also recognize that I have a love unlike any other, and that is something beyond special. Being able to share with your future children that you have only spent your life loving and being loved by one person is an extremely emotional concept and one that I can't wait to brag about.

I made a verbal and emotional commitment to spend as much of my life as possible loving him, and your opinion about my sexual experience is irrelevant.

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Thank You, Thomas Rhett, For Providing Us With These 9 Lyrics Reminding Us True Love Exists

If your ears have yet to be blessed with this mans heart warming music, you are missing out big time


I understand country music does not appeal to everyone out there but if you own a radio or have an instagram there is no way you have not heard the name Thomas Rhett before. Him and his childhood sweetheart Lauren live the closest thing to happily ever after one can obtain in this world. Not only did they adopt a beautiful toddler from Uganda but they just welcomed an adorable baby girl. I personally enjoy each of their posts because it revives my faith in successful relationships. These are a few of his lyrics that reestablish my belief that true love is still out there. Ladies, make sure you find yourself a Thomas Rhett.

1. "Cause everywhere we go girl you're the star of the show"


I mean come on thats just precious.

2. "I know that I can't ever tell you enough, all I need in this life is your crazy love"


I feel like thats a pretty good trade.

3. "Every time we have to say goodbye I'm counting down until we say hello"


If someone told me this I feel like my love for Zac Efron would rapidly dwindle.

4. "Girl that night was just like you, unforgettable"


Who doesn't want to be told they are unforgettable on a daily basis?!

5. "Cause you're all that I adore, you're the one my heart beats for"


Straight out of a Nicholas Sparks movie? I think yes.

6. "You're a saint, you're a goddess, the cutest, the hottest, a masterpiece"


Way better compliment than being told "your hot."

7. "Cause I've been waiting on her since the second grade and I wrote a little song about holding her hand now everyone wants to die a happy man"


If I still loved my second grade crush I don't think I would be writing a song about true love.

8. "I could try to find her get it off my chest now, but I don't want to mess it up so I wish her the best now"


This song gets me every time. He loves her so much that he would hold back his feelings in order for her to be happy. You get a Prince Charming and you get a Prince Charming!

9. "If all I got is your hand in my hand, baby I could die a happy man"


I would not be complaining if a guy was writing these beautiful lyrics about me. (Thomas Rhetts really beautiful wife pictured above).

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To My Dog In Her Old Age, Your Day Is Soon Approaching–Until Then, Let's Spend All The Time We Can Together

I will never take our time for granted


14 years have come and gone with my best friend by my side. I couldn't have asked for a better companion to grow up with. There's nothing in this world that beats the feeling of coming home to a wagging tail, and it's something that should never be taken for granted.

You are definitely not the same dog you used to be now that you're getting older. You used to love going for walks, but now you pout every time I pull out the leash. You used to run around and bark whenever someone came home, but now we're lucky if you can even hear the door open.

You wobble when you walk and sometimes you slip and fall, but you get right back up again and brush it off. You sleep for most of the day and the most exciting part of your day is eating. You are officially a senior dog, which means your time to go will be here before you know it.

But I don't pay attention to how much you've changed. I only focus on the puppy that you still are. You still play and chase your tail. You still get super excited to see me after being home alone all day. You still love long car rides with the windows down so you can try to bite the other cars as they drive by.

You may be 14 years old, but you've never outgrown your puppy personality. At least now you don't chew holes in the couch.

You are a dog, and dogs are here to make us happy. They are here to make us feel less alone. And you have done just that. You have spent your whole life making me and my family as happy as we could be. You have gone everywhere with us to make sure that we are happy no matter what. By simply existing, you have made me happier than I've ever been. You did your job, and you did it well.

Every day brings us closer to the day you'll say goodbye forever. And when that day comes, it will be devastating for everyone who loved you. But that day isn't here yet, so until then, let's spend all the time we can together.

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