(This is not an article about straight to the point facts. This is purely my opinion on the subject matter. If you don't agree with me on certain points, please point them out in the comments section.)
Now... Lets all get this straight right off the bat... Sexual assault is WRONG. Plain and simple. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. So why in the world do men think it is okay? I understand that females also can be the attacker. However, with all the individuals I have ever talked to, the male has been the attacker. This topic highly infuriates me. Men say, "I was just playing around" "She didn't actually say yes but I know she wanted it". No... she didn't want it!! If she didn't say anything it is because her body went numb. Females often have a defense mode that (from talking with individuals who have been the victim) makes them freeze and close up. No female that doesn't say anything just automatically wants to be touched inappropriately or have sex. They freeze up because fighting back doesn't always work. If anything, a majority of the women ever attacked are shorter and weaker than their attacker which makes them perfect targets. Because of this, fighting back usually just makes the situation worse for the woman. These men feed off of other women's fear and it is absolutely disgusting to me.
These men just don't seem to understand that when a female is assaulted, they blame themselves. They feel that no one cares about them anymore, and from here they slowly get worse and worse if they don't talk about it and no one tries to show some type of compassion towards the individual. From the individuals that I have talked to in my life, every single one has contemplated suicide... Think about that for a moment... Every, single, one. I'm not talking about a handful of individuals here. Since my time in high school I have heard over ten heartbreaking stories from survivors. Each one is just as unbearable as the next. These individuals are loved by so many, but because one person feels the need to "seek revenge" or just do it "for the hell of it", it can tear that females heart right out and flip her world upside down. These are people I care about so much and to see them in such disarray is truly heartbreaking. It's even worse when that individual commits suicide and everyone begins to blame themselves for not seeing the signs.
So to all those individuals out there who have ever experienced something like this, remember... you are LOVED. People still love you. Your family loves you, your friends love you, your teachers love you, even that guy or gal that you may have given a buck to the one day on the street loves you. You are all loved by so many and you can come to us if anything ever happens to you. We are not bothered by your so called "problems". We want to help you through your hard times and make you happy again and help you get back to that happy/healthy person everyone knew and loved before tragedy struck. This is what I tell my loved ones all the time... just remember to take it one step at a time. Nothing is going to get better in a few days. It could take weeks, even months, sometimes a few years depending on how deep and for how long the pain lasted. So attempt to spread your stress out by taking it one step at a time. Talk to your friends, talk to your family, talk to someone who will get you the help you need and deserve. If you don't know where to turn, call RAINN (Rape Abuse and Incest National Network) at 800-656-HOPE. Here is their website for more information about what they exactly do https://rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault. I promise, you'll look back on your life and realize you came out much stronger and motivated than you ever thought possible. The world loves all of you for who you are, not for what some sick scumbag did to you.
Now... let me gather all the men in the world around at a table. All of you, read this. Now I am not saying all men out there are perverts and think it is okay to do these heinous acts on unsuspecting women. What I just would like to understand is why men feel like it is okay. That they feel that the female won't get traumatized. That they think that since it's a sexual act, the female will enjoy it even though they didn't give consent. That it is okay to keep going even after the female tells them to "please stop". What I also would like to know is why men like this exist in this world. I have heard that sometimes men see it as a way of getting revenge, or getting something they believed the female owed them. No one owes anyone anything. What any proper human being would do is to be the bigger person and walk away from a situation. Yet, these sick low lives find it perfectly okay to prey on women of a shorter/weaker stature... The worst part is that not only do they continue to harass the individual after the fact, they also believe that they can get away with it. They believe that if they tell women things to make them fear for their lives, then these women won't say a thing. And its true... sadly...
So lets all put our foot down for the last time and stand up against these ruthless men. If you ever meet a guy who talks about assaulting or raping a female and then laughing about it, do something, please? I never thought these men existed until I met one on my school campus. He didn't flirt the fact that he had done it, but he talked about how he would maybe do it some day for fun. That scared the hell out of me. Just the way he sat there laughing like it was just a normal, everyday conversation. So this is me asking, for the love of all that is good and for our absolutely amazing friends and family and even strangers, if you see something, then SAY SOMETHING. Or do your part and help the victim if you can't find help yourself. Remember, every second counts. So lets do our part and help the people we love of this great world. Lets make this world a better place one step at a time.