Ladies, let’s be honest with ourselves. We are crazy. I know I can’t be the only girl who can go from 0 to 100 in the matter of .03 seconds. Right? Our mood swings are like torrential downpours, drenching anyone who isn’t prepared with an umbrella. You know what’s even crazier about us? We intentionally bring these storms of irrationality upon ourselves. Come on, admit it—you purposely dig through social media to find that he “liked” another girl’s selfie and then you get upset. I will shamefully admit that I have done it. It is shallow and stupid, girls, but we do it anyways.
Speaking of those torrential downpours, who always carries an umbrella around with them? Our boyfriends. Those poor fellas! I’m pretty sure my boyfriend has gone through a total of 87 umbrellas in the last two months due to the heavy winds and hail I’ve thrown at him.
Seriously though, lately I’ve been in a rut. There have been a lot of new adjustments in my life. Every week I fight a battle and my boyfriend has held my hand every step of the way. On top of my own personal shortcomings, he and I have been working on the shortcomings of our relationship.
Of course, I still have my crazy moments, but I would like to think that the Scrooge in me has disappeared these last couple weeks. My attitude has changed, and I’ve noticed how much we have both grown in our friendship with one another. In the midst of my mental warfare and his awesome effort of trying to stay dry under one of the 87 umbrellas, we’ve found a new best friend.
My boyfriend deserves endless amounts of apologies and thank you’s, but in light of it all, I’ve come to a realization. My relationship involves three and it couldn’t and won’t ever work otherwise. Yes, we made it through the first of many “downs,” but we didn’t get through these last crazy months of life just by holding each other’s hands. We’re not a fairytale, nor do I want us to be.
I’ve always believed the business of a relationship is between two people. There’s no reason to post dirty laundry on Facebook. However, it isn’t just about those two people. Actually, I’m not so sure that it is about them at all.
My boyfriend and my biggest “relationship goal” should not be to please the other. It shouldn’t be showering each other with affection, or growing old together. It shouldn’t be any of those pictures that pop up on my Twitter feed. It should be to glorify Jesus Christ—together.
People often get so wrapped up in their significant other that they lose focus on the most important One. It’s easy to do, and time-to-time I catch myself doing it—even in my current relationship, where we both share a love for Jesus. I love my boyfriend, but I love Jesus more. My boyfriend loves me, but I know he loves Jesus more. And that’s exactly how relationships should be.
Yes, I’m crazy and my boyfriend doesn’t deserve to waste money on so many umbrellas. And neither does yours. But the same goes for the guys. We don’t deserve all those times their jerks. Unfortunately, it’s going to happen.
I’ve realized that I won’t ever be satisfied in my relationship with my boyfriend if my relationship with Christ is at a standstill. He and I may be at a highpoint right now, but I know there will be many more lows. But that’s OK, because I know it’s not just he and I fighting—we’ve got a friend in Jesus.
Ladies, stop worrying about that other girl’s selfie. Find security in and depend on Jesus. Get rid of the inner crazy and quit taking your boyfriend for granted. Go hug your man and thank him. Pray for him. Even better? Pray with him.
