...Another Door Opens

When One Door Closes, It's Usually For A Reason, Don't Try To Pry It Open

I'm here to tell you to let that door slam shut.


"When one door closes, another one opens."

This saying has stood the test of time and while it has proven to be true, sometimes people (read: me) try to put their foot in to try to stop the door from closing completely. It can be hard to completely accept that some things are not meant to be and we'll try everything in our power to ensure that we get what we want.

I'm here to tell you to let that door slam shut.

Don't knock on that door, don't try to jiggle the handle or pick the lock. It's closed for a reason and more times than not, it's for a better reason that you won't get to experience until you move onto the next open door. I'm living proof that when you move onto a new door, you will feel so much happier and refreshed even though right now it might not seem that way (and believe me, I've tried to pry open many many doors).

Maybe you didn't get the job you wanted but that's just the universe telling you that there is something bigger and better for you to do with your skills. You may not get to date the person that you like but that's a sign that it wouldn't have worked out anyway and there is someone special on reserve just for you. You could get sick, lose a loved one or a friend, get stuck in a new and foreign place, the list goes on. But everything happens for a reason. True, it may hurt a bit and it might be a confusing time at first but once you walk through the new door, everything will make sense.

Everyone's lives are different and wanting something that someone else has is normal but there are times that we cannot have what we want. As cliche as it sounds, we all have our own destiny and we just have to keep walking through our open doors in order for us to live it out. Also, why would you want something or someone that isn't supposed to be yours? It's a lot like receiving a present.

Wouldn't you much rather have the present with your name on it versus someone else's name? Yes, it can be tempting and you might even have the urge to steal or "borrow" someone else's present but in the end, it's not yours to take and taking it from someone else is wrong and can result in hurt feelings.

So the next time a door is shut on your path of life, don't fret. Take it as a sign that there's something way better waiting for you behind another door and you just have to keep going. It's not going to be an easy thing to do but I promise you that you will be much happier and fulfilled when you finally reach your final destination.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Summer And Jobs

Working summers doesn't have to be tedious.


Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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