'One Day It Will Just Click'

'One Day It Will Just Click'

How many times has someone told you that?


I think back to all the times I have heard that saying and I laugh a little. You never think the day will come when everything just clicks. You hear the saying and you think about a future time that is nonexistent.

But, when you have this "AhHa!" moment and you feel like your mind and body clicked all at once, you will know what I am talking about.

In life, we have to go through experiences to learn. We have to make mistakes to learn. We have to fall down and bounce back up. But, time is a huge factor.

Sometimes it may take years. Sometimes it may take months. Sometimes it may take days. There is no guarantee.

You may be in an unhealthy relationship. You may be employed at a job you dislike. You may be stuck on what degree to pursue. It could be anything. But when you are stumbled upon these stagnant moments, one day it just clicks.

Personally, I was struggling with separating being kind to others and losing myself by doing so. I needed to find balance. I needed to find peace within my own life. I needed me time.

As life was spiraling all around me, I laid on my bed in silence for 5 minutes. I decided I needed a second to breathe.

Those thoughts, feelings, and worries scurried around my mind like a marble in a shoe box. Bouncing all around. I could not take on any more problems. I could not help others more than myself to the point where it is hurting me. I needed to find balance.

Fast forwarding days ahead, I traveled home for a quick trip. I had 4 solid hours to let this all sit in my mind. I needed to make a change.

Time went by and then I had that "One Day It Will Just Click" moment. Someone asked me for a favor, and I replied saying I was not available at the time. I was putting me first. I needed to do that for once, without a queasy feeling.

I needed to understand that I can be a good, kind person, but I do not need to lose myself in the process.

Some may be sitting there wondering why it was such a big moment for me. But what they don't realize is how badly it affected me. Everyone is different. Everyone goes through different things. But one day, it just clicks.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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