On Outgrowing People

On Outgrowing People

As time passes and you find yourself, it is necessary to let go.


You're young. You're free. You have the world at your feet, awaiting your next step. And you will take that step. And you will move. And you will grow. And you will learn about yourself. And that is one of the most beautiful aspects of being alive.

This is that time.

On your journey of self-discovery, you will begin to kill the parts of you that were surviving off of other people's wishes and expectations. Pieces that thrived off of other people's perceptions will drown. The version of you that everyone believed to be true will perish, and your authentic self will be the remnants. Get comfortable with this. It is all you truly have.

This is a beautiful and graceful process. You must treat yourself with love and allow yourself to shed the covers others have donned you in. Unless they feed your advancement and add beauty to your life, mute the voices of your past. Recognize the people who are around for convenience and comfortability rather than genuine connections and deeper relationships.

Whatever the reason may be, if, during the process of discovering yourself, you fail to find someone deserving of a spot in your life, do not put energy into salvaging the relationship for the wrong reasons.

Your life is constantly evolving, it is only natural, in fact healthy, that the people change too. Do not damage your self-progression in the name of mending an unhealthy connection.

As time passes, you will realize it pays to be selfish. If someone is holding you back from reaching your happiness, your comfortability with your pure self, then let them go. Do not wish them harm and do not part without being gracious for the time you have had their presence, but do not be afraid to outgrow.

This is something I have struggled with. But this is something we must accept as we grow. We must learn to let go. We must learn to find who we are underneath the layers of what people thought us to be. And we must understand that it is necessary to outgrow. To outgrow means you are growing, and that is a beautiful gift of life.

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When You Make A Girl An Aunt, You Change Her World In All The Best Ways

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest girl in the world.


My brother and his wife recently blessed our family with the sweetest bundle of joy on planet earth. OK, I may be a little bias but I believe it to be completely true. I have never been baby crazy, but this sweet-cheeked angel is the only exception. I am at an age where I do not want children yet, but being able to love on my nephew like he is my own is so satisfying.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a very protective person.

From making sure the car seat is strapped in properly before every trip, to watching baby boy breathe while he sleeps, you'll never meet someone, besides mommy and daddy of course, who is more concerned with the safety of that little person than me.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her a miniature best friend.

There is something about an aunt that is so fun. An aunt is a person you go to when you think you're in trouble or when you want something mom and dad said you couldn't have. An aunt is someone who takes you to get ice cream and play in the park to cool down after having a temper tantrum. I can't wait to be the one he runs to.

When you make a girl an aunt, she gets to skip on the difficulty of disciplining.

Being an aunt means you get to be fun. Not to say I wouldn't correct my nephew if he were behaving poorly, but for the most part, I get to giggle and play and leave the hard stuff for my brother.

When you make a girl an aunt, you give her the best listening ears.

As of right now I only listen to the sweet coos and hungry cries but I am fully prepared to listen to all the problems in his life in the future.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the best advice giver.

By the time my nephew needs advice, hopefully, I will have all of my life lessons perfected into relatable stories.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her a number-one fan

Anything you do in life sweet boy, I will be cheering you on. I already know you are going to do great things.

When you make a girl an aunt, she learns what true love is.

The love I have for my nephew is so pure. Its the love that is just there. I don't have to choose to show love every day, I don't have to forgive, I don't have to worry if it is reciprocated, it is just there.

When you make a girl an aunt, you make her the happiest person in the world.

I cannot wait to watch my precious nephew grow into the amazing person that I know he is going to be.

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4 Things I Wish High School Me Knew

Every day has a purpose.


People don't give high school enough credit for having the ability to shape your life. It can build you or it can break you and often times there is no in between. As I enter into my senior year of college I have reflected a lot on my college career and how it really has been the best years of my life up to this point, but I know that without a doubt my life would have been so different in I would have known these things as a high schooler.

1. Your life is valuable

But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus, in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus. - Ephesians 2:4-7

2. You aren't defined by your singleness. 

Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. - Song of Solomon 2:7

4. You aren't going to fit in

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. - Romans 12:2

4. Your clothes aren't going to fit forever, don't spend all of your money on them 

Then he said to them, "Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; life does not consist in an abundance of possessions." - Luke 12:15

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