"Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers" - Jorge Luis Borges
The most important lesson I've learned so far being in my 20's is that It's okay to be alone. People get so terrified of the idea of being by themselves. I've heard "I really just can't be alone" a few times before. Guess what? You can. What you can't do is rely on other people to fill your void. Being alone is all about learning that you are loved, constantly. But the most important love you should ever feel is the love from yourself.
Love yourself. From the raw emotional breakdowns, to the awful shower singing, to the beautiful way your skin glows in the sunlight. You are a human being, and out of the billions of people on this earth there is not one person who is exactly like you. You are one of a kind.
Everyone has insecurities, and EVERYONE has bad days. It's all about how you treat tomorrow, if you let your bad energy continue on the next day you won't ever find a balance. I know that being alone makes it easier to get trapped in your mind with your demons. But you will never truly be alone, you have family and friends. Never be too scared to confide in them. I've never been a very religious person but I do know that God works in mysterious ways. Sometimes you need to look at the bigger picture, we're mammals floating on a wet marble in a never ending galaxy. Life can seem difficult and unmanageable, but you're alive aren't you? Start living.
Take a night a week and dedicate it to yourself. Call it your "me" time. Relax, take a nature walk, go take a fun new painting class, go get your hair done (nails done errythang did), and even have dinner with yourself. It's so crucial to your mental health to take care of yourself.
And when life throws lemons at you (yes, throw, because I've never simply been handed a lemon) no matter what your situation, find the positive. If you work on focusing on the positive it leaves less room for the negative energy to consume you.
It's not easy. It took me a year to put myself back together after a bad breakup. I found myself when I started hanging out with myself more. The second I started to understand who I was, it made it easier for other people too. A lot of people rely on having a significant companion, be independent. You never know what the future holds, and if you instill all of your happiness into one person, the second they leave they take that with them. It's so so important to love yourself and love to be alone because you never know what situation you might be faced with. When you're soulmate comes along, it will all fall into place, but remember.. How can someone love you if you don't even love you?
Take more time for yourself, treat yourself, and most importantly LOVE yourself. It's okay to be alone.
