Millenials speak about the college experience as an alcohol-fueled, sexual free-for-all that can only be experienced if you’re single. The desired college experience for many, is a large group of friends, weekly parties, a constant flow of alcohol, and no-strings-attached relationships.

I won’t receive that typical college experience, however, and I love that. I'd rather stay in on Friday and watch Netflix with my fiance. And have a committed, loyal relationship with someone to rely on, then a contact list of 2am-only texts.

I don’t want someone who only wants me after the bars close at night when there’s nothing better to do. I also don’t want to be featured on someone’s snap story as a “shacker” No, I want something more than that.

The typical experience focuses on being able to make your own decisions and do what you want without worrying about your boyfriend or girlfriend. Why is it that you can’t be in a relationship and have your own voice? If my fiance wants to go out with his friends, so be it. He can go and have a good time.

The only thing he “can’t” do is be with someone else. The same goes for me. Our relationship doesn’t prevent either of us from hanging out with friends, going on vacation, and having a good night away from one another. The best part is at the end of the night we come back to each other.

All single people don’t receive that stereotypical experience either. Not everyone desires to go home with someone they met an hour ago. For me, I prefer hanging out with someone I love, then swiping left and right on boys that only want one thing. If this is the experience you want, and the experience you have, that’s awesome. However, please understand that your experience is not the one everyone else wants or has.

My college experience has involved transferring colleges, meeting new people, living in new places, joining campus clubs, experiencing new things and getting engaged.

These experiences also included beer pong, bars, and boys. However, those three things don’t define my time in college, and I’m okay with that. The ‘boy’ in ‘boys’ is who I plan to marry, so why would I trade him for a bunch of disposable one-night stands? I wouldn’t.

My experience compared to the ‘typical’ experience that is flaunted in movies may appear drastically different. However, not so much. I still go out, sometimes with, and sometimes without my fiance. I still dress to impress, in a way I feel comfortable. And I still have wine-nights with my girls.

While I may worry that someone will ‘steal’ him away, I trust him enough to go out without me. All relationships are different, and because of this everyone in a relationship won't have the same college experience as I did.

Sure, being single means you don't have to worry about anyone else, but that’s what happens when you’re in love with someone.

My fiance received this text last Saturday from a friend of his: “The night should end with me and ‘X’ leaving with girls and taking them back to our rooms, and you can go home to your wife and kids.” Note: we aren’t married and we don’t have kids - do furbabies count?

For some reason, it’s assumed that because you’re in a relationship you can’t have the same amount of fun. Why is ‘fun’ defined as binge-drinking, blacking out, going back to a boy’s room, having sex, and throwing up? For me, I don’t get belligerently drunk in order to avoid putting myself in a bad situation.

And while I have in the past, it’s a conscious choice I now make for myself. I wouldn’t trust a random guy who is drunk, high or both to take me to his dorm, over my fiance making sure I get home safely.

And if I’m waking up to anyone in the morning, with no recollection of the night before with mascara smeared across my face, and lipstick stains across my cheeks, you bet that I want Austin to be the one who rolls over next to me.

I am in no way arguing that my experience is better than anyone else’s. However, for me, my college experience is entirely everything I want it to be. Have I wondered what college would be like if I had to experience it myself, of course?

But immediately after, I wonder what life would be like without Austin, and I know how glad I am that I have a best friend to experience life with.