Society has created the idea that if you are single, you must be unhappy about it and if you are in a relationship that somehow you are guaranteed to be happy. I am questioned about my status as a single young adult as if it is a medical problem and there is a prescription waiting to cure me. There is no medication for this because it is, in fact, not a problem at all. There are a lot of positives to being single.

Being alone has given me time to learn about and focus on myself. I am still young and constantly figuring out my likes, dislikes and all of the things that make me who I am. Instead of spending all of my energy on me as a piece of something, I can give all of my attention to myself and become in-tune with who I am. As a result of knowing myself better, my relationships with other people have improved.

One of the biggest complaints about relationships is the feeling of being trapped. Whether it means to be trapped in an unhappy relationship or something as simple as feeling guilty about going away for a weekend without your partner, that feeling can creep up on you. Being on my own right now gives me a freedom that is unique from all of the other freedoms I've had before. I am not bogged down by guilt that keeps me in relationships with people past the point of it being healthy.

There is a flexibility in how I spend my time because I am not beholden to anyone else's agenda. I can hop on a plane for a spontaneous trip across the world without concern for anyone else's schedule. I can go out, come home and experience my young adulthood free of the responsibility for anyone but myself.

I have begun to understand that I am a whole person on my own. There is a lot of young adulthood centered around figuring out where you fit in. Being on my own, I have begun to understand that I do not need to find a place to fit in to make me whole. I do not need another person to make me whole. I am an entire person on my own and you are too. Understanding this has improved my relationships with other people as I no longer look to fill myself with other people.