To All The People Pleasers Out There:
It is okay to think about yourself. That's right, it's okay. Focus on your own happiness for once. Lord knows that you rarely do so put yourself first. Stop trying to work around people. Stop trying to make everyone else happy. Just stop.
Don't get me wrong you're a great person for thinking of other's peoples happiness, but there is a line that needs to be drawn while you are out focusing on everyone else. I like to call that line, "Selfless Selfishness".
The line that selfishness comes accompanied with is pretty fine. I don't really even like the word selfish because of how so many people think of the word as this person who is narcissistic, self-absorbed, high maintenance, brat. Which can be the case sometimes, but that is extreme. There are so many different ways of someone to be selfish. It can be good for you, trust me.
It is amazing how many thoughts go through your mind throughout the day just about other people. You take everyone else in your life into consideration. Taking them into consideration is very sweet of you, but when it comes to your own life and your own separate issues, think about yourself. Become that selfless person everyone knows you to be, but allow yourself to be a little selfish.
You got to admit, it is amazing how many thoughts go through your mind throughout the day just about other people. You take everyone else in your life into consideration. Taking them into consideration is very sweet of you, but when it comes to your own life and your own separate issues, think about yourself. Become that selfless person everyone knows you to be, but allow yourself to be a little selfish.
The only time when selfishness will become a problem is if you allow it to completely change the amazingly selfless person that you are. If you allow it to eat you alive to the point where you look in the mirror and you don't even recognize yourself. That is when you need to stop.
Just whenever you think of everyone else's opinion and whether or not they will get mad at you because of your priorities, just focus on you. Focus on the good in life, the things God blesses you with, the friends and family you have and everything else in the universe. Be that selfish selfless person and be proud to be that person.
