It's Okay Not To Find Yourself Right Away In College

It's Okay Not To Find Yourself Right Away In College

There's always still time.
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During the last few weeks of my senior year of high school, as graduation day got closer and closer, I was feeling on top of the world. My real life was about to begin. I was heading off to college to pursue my dream, and I was living on campus, away from home for the first time in my life. I remember the excitement that came with sending in my housing deposit, selecting my room and connecting with my future roommates via “.edu” email. I wore my UMass sweatshirt with pride everywhere I went.

Well, as it turned out, my first year fell a little short of my expectations. I’m not saying it was terrible, but, well, before I even started college myself, I had heard enough college stories—fictional ones in movies and books, as well as true ones from friends and family members—to start wondering and imagining my own story, and the reality didn’t quite match the picture in my head. A lot of the time I remember feeling kind of lost socially and emotionally, and I went home almost every weekend because somehow, weekends at home still felt more exciting than weekends at school. I was pretty confused, because by the end of high school, I felt as if I’d found myself—found my crowd, my place, and the kind of person I wanted to be—and at the end of my freshman year, I didn’t feel so sure of any of that anymore.

Here’s a secret, though—most of the friends I have now have also admitted to not having a super glamorous freshman year. It turned out to be more common than I let myself believe, especially when I watched other people in my year stroll through campus looking like they had it all figured out, and then wondered where I might’ve been going wrong. The answer was nowhere, and the more people I heard that from, the more I began to realize two things: 1) There is not, in fact, any specific point in time when a college kid is supposed to find himself/herself, and 2) No one can actually say for certain whether people ever “find themselves” at all. One thing I can say for certain, though—I am not the same student now, in my third year, as I was my first year. I joined clubs and activities that gave my on-campus life more purpose, and introduced me to a lot of amazing people. I realized I was unhappy in my major and switched to a field I was more passionate about. I thrived in my classes and raised my GPA. I sought out environments and situations that felt more comfortable and right for me. I learned so much about life, about people, about the world, and, yes, even about myself. Does that mean I’ve officially found myself? Who knows, but I sure feel a lot more confident these days than I did when I first started college.

My message to second-semester freshmen—and to high school seniors approaching graduation—and really, to anyone who feels like they’re still struggling to figure themselves out in these college years—is this: There’s still time. There’s always still time. In fact, I’m starting realize how ridiculous the pressure to get a completely clear sense of yourself within a certain time frame is. Not only does everyone grow at their own pace, but also, life and people are constantly changing and you really only need to worry about doing what feels right for you now, in the present. It’s perfectly okay to feel a little lost, and the sooner you stop dwelling on it, the sooner you’ll be able to get out and discover what makes you happy and fulfilled, and your personal growth will naturally follow.

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Finals Week As Told By Schmidt

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Finals week is finally upon us. The time every college student has dreaded all semester and there is no avoiding it. Let the stress, tears, and sleepless nights commence. Here's Finals Week as Told by Schmidt.

1. When you walk into the library and see that there are no more spots available because every freshman decided to start using the library now.

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2. You run into someone from your class and they ask you how prepared you are for the final.

3. Your first meltdown begins...

4. And then you get a call from your parents asking you why you've been so on edge lately

5. When you're three coffees deep at 2AM and believe everything will be okay even though you still haven't studied.

6. The day has arrived and it's time to take your first final so you give yourself a quick pep talk.

7. When you are the first one to finish the final early because you didn't study.

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8. Trying to pack while studying.

9. And then you start wishing you didn't wait until the last minute to pack because now there is no way your stuff will fit into your car.

10. When you get your first grade back.

11. And you have to tell your parents how you did in the class.

12. When all of your roommates are done with their finals and you still have one left.

13. But then your time has finally come and you have finished your last final as well.

14. And you realize you have survived yet another hell week.

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12 Things Every College Girl Thinks While Watching Insta Stories INSTEAD Of Studying For Finals

Might as well procrastinate in a different way this semester!

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Time to study or better yet time to procrastinate and watch all the Instagram stories possible until the clock reaches midnight and you realize you have not gotten one thing done. We've all been there tapping through Instagram stories when we have had one of these thoughts that made us question why we continue to watch insta stories.

I can't tap fast enough

Sometimes there are just too many stories and not enough time.

No one cares what overplayed song you're listening to 

Seriously, stop we've all heard the song.

Why is this so long?

Why is your entire day videoed on your story?? Do you ever put your phone down?

What are they wearing??

We've all seen people wearing some questionable outfits on insta stories.

No one wants to ask you questions

Please stop posting your questions, just dm them privately to answer them.

What is the relevance of this caption?

Some captions just aren't meant for some images.

You're rich and popular we get it 

Stop flaunting your money or popularity we get it already.

Aww that's cute

Every dog and baby pic ever.

Stop reminding me of how single I am 

We don't need to be reminded of your engagement or boyfriend every 30 seconds, you love each other we know so stop posting it all the time.

No one cares about some strangers birthday Becky 

Posting a pic or 2 for your friends birthday but 10, come on really Becky?

No one cares about your sponsors 

Seriously stop trying to get us to buy stuff, we're broke.

It's game day, we get it 

We know it is game day, it's kind of a national thing, we don't need constant reminders.

So when will we learn to stop watching stories and put our phones down for some time?

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