It's Okay Not To Find Yourself Right Away In College

It's Okay Not To Find Yourself Right Away In College

There's always still time.
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During the last few weeks of my senior year of high school, as graduation day got closer and closer, I was feeling on top of the world. My real life was about to begin. I was heading off to college to pursue my dream, and I was living on campus, away from home for the first time in my life. I remember the excitement that came with sending in my housing deposit, selecting my room and connecting with my future roommates via “.edu” email. I wore my UMass sweatshirt with pride everywhere I went.

Well, as it turned out, my first year fell a little short of my expectations. I’m not saying it was terrible, but, well, before I even started college myself, I had heard enough college stories—fictional ones in movies and books, as well as true ones from friends and family members—to start wondering and imagining my own story, and the reality didn’t quite match the picture in my head. A lot of the time I remember feeling kind of lost socially and emotionally, and I went home almost every weekend because somehow, weekends at home still felt more exciting than weekends at school. I was pretty confused, because by the end of high school, I felt as if I’d found myself—found my crowd, my place, and the kind of person I wanted to be—and at the end of my freshman year, I didn’t feel so sure of any of that anymore.

Here’s a secret, though—most of the friends I have now have also admitted to not having a super glamorous freshman year. It turned out to be more common than I let myself believe, especially when I watched other people in my year stroll through campus looking like they had it all figured out, and then wondered where I might’ve been going wrong. The answer was nowhere, and the more people I heard that from, the more I began to realize two things: 1) There is not, in fact, any specific point in time when a college kid is supposed to find himself/herself, and 2) No one can actually say for certain whether people ever “find themselves” at all. One thing I can say for certain, though—I am not the same student now, in my third year, as I was my first year. I joined clubs and activities that gave my on-campus life more purpose, and introduced me to a lot of amazing people. I realized I was unhappy in my major and switched to a field I was more passionate about. I thrived in my classes and raised my GPA. I sought out environments and situations that felt more comfortable and right for me. I learned so much about life, about people, about the world, and, yes, even about myself. Does that mean I’ve officially found myself? Who knows, but I sure feel a lot more confident these days than I did when I first started college.

My message to second-semester freshmen—and to high school seniors approaching graduation—and really, to anyone who feels like they’re still struggling to figure themselves out in these college years—is this: There’s still time. There’s always still time. In fact, I’m starting realize how ridiculous the pressure to get a completely clear sense of yourself within a certain time frame is. Not only does everyone grow at their own pace, but also, life and people are constantly changing and you really only need to worry about doing what feels right for you now, in the present. It’s perfectly okay to feel a little lost, and the sooner you stop dwelling on it, the sooner you’ll be able to get out and discover what makes you happy and fulfilled, and your personal growth will naturally follow.

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19 Things About Being a Nursing Major As Told By Michael Scott

Michael just gets it.
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If you're a nursing major, you relate to the following 19 things all too well. Between your clinical encounters and constant studying, you can't help but wonder if anyone else outside of your major understands the daily struggles you face in nursing school. And even though being the regional manager of Dunder Mifflin Paper Company, Inc. isn't the same as being a nursing major, Michael Scott does a pretty accurate job of describing what it's like.

1. When your professor overloads your brain with information on the first day of class.

2. Realizing that all your time will now be spent studying in the library.

3. Being jealous of your friends with non-science majors, but then remembering that your job security/availability after graduation makes the stress a little more bearable.

4. Having to accept the harsh reality that your days of making A's on every assignment are now over.

5. When you're asked to share your answer and why you chose it with the whole class.

6. Forgetting one item in a "select all that apply" question, therefore losing all of its points.

7. When you're giving an IV for the first time and your patient jokingly asks, "This isn't your first time giving one of these, right?"

8. You're almost certain that your school's nursing board chose the ugliest scrubs they could find and said, "Let's make these mandatory."

9. Knowing that you have an important exam that you could (should) be studying for, but deciding to watch Netflix instead.

10. Getting to the first day of clinical after weeks of classroom practice.

11. When you become the ultimate mom-friend after learning about the effects various substances have on the human body.

12. Running off of 4-5 hours of sleep has become the new norm for you.

13. And getting just the recommended 7-8 hours makes you feel like a kid on Christmas morning.

14. You have a love-hate relationship with ATI.

15. When your study group says they're meeting on a Saturday.

16. Choosing an answer that's correct, but not the "most" correct, therefore it is wrong.

17. And even though the late nights and stress can feel overwhelming,

18. You wouldn't want any other major because you can't wait to save lives and take care of others.

19. And let's be honest...

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10 Netflix Suggestions For Your 'Hurrication'

High-quality entertainment for this low-quality weather.

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If you live in South Carolina and have entered a grocery store, it's clear to see that it is hurricane season. Flooding and hurricanes have occurred four years in a row, making this weather pretty normal around this time. This year, hurricane Florence is predicted to hit the Carolinas directly. Students may be thankful for the break to catch up on school work or may even evacuate home. Regardless, weather like this calls for a nap and binge-watching Netflix.

Whether you're working hard or bored at home, here are 10 Netflix suggestions for your hurricane break.

Criminal Minds

Who doesn't love a good crime show? This series has been one of my favorites since my freshman year of high school. It's about serial killers and FBI profilers who catch them. It also shows how the team copes with these situations in and out of the office. There are twelve seasons and almost 280 episodes, which should hopefully be more than enough to get you through the hurricane.

When We First Met

This movie is about a guy who finds a time machine that takes him back to the night he supposedly met the love of his life. He keeps changing things in hopes to eventually win the girl over. It's full of comedy and definitely worth the watch.

Riverdale

This series is about a small town that has a lot of secrets and drama. Teenagers have to deal with their family drama and figure out what led to the death of one of their fellow classmates. Cole Sprouse is one of the main characters, so that's a reason in itself to watch. It only has two seasons so far but is full of crime, mystery and plot twists.

Brain on Fire

This is a movie based on a journalist who got an unknown illness that caused her to become hospitalized. Doctors could not give her a diagnosis but her family was determined to find one. This movie was based upon true events which makes it so much more interesting. Chloë Grace Moretz is the lead and does an amazing job as the actress.

Gossip Girl

Anything with Blake Lively is worth watching, so here's a series that she's famously known for. These shows take place in Manhattan and show what drama private-school teens can get into. While they think they can get away with these malicious acts, a mysterious blogger is watching their every move and posting all of the tea.

Last Chance U 

This series is based on football players that have gone through hardships. They go to junior colleges in hopes to turn their lives around and make it on a professional team. The show presents how hard the players work as well as their teachers and coaches. It also shows what they do in the classroom, not just the field. There are four seasons, three pertaining to the first junior college, EMCC and the other about a totally different junior college in Indiana.

The Kissing Booth

Elle, played by Joey King, and her best friend have a set of rules they live by. One is that older brothers are off limits to date. Elle is secretly crushing on her best friend's brother but doesn't want to ruin their friendship. Eventually, she has to decide who to choose.

The Flash

I'm not one for superhero shows but I ended up loving these. The cast is perfect for this series and especially Grant Gustin, who plays The Flash. There are four seasons, so pace yourself; you'll binge watch them so quick you won't know what to do when they're over.

To All The Boys I've Loved Before

This is a romantic comedy that features an Asian-American woman, Lana Condor, as one of the leads. She writes letters to five of her crushes and keeps them in hiding until they are sent out. She then has to deal with the repercussions and ends up "pretend" dating one of the guys, Peter, who is played by Noah Centineo. Lana and Noah are a duo like no other, making this one of my favorite movies.

Friends

You could have guessed that this TV series was going to make the cut. A group of six friends in their twenties deals with love, drama and friendship over the course of ten years in New York. There are a total of 236 episodes, full of comedy and awkward situations. This series is the one you can't stop watching.

If you're drowning in assignments and need a break or just wishing you were back on campus (instead of at home), these recommendations should keep you occupied until we get back on a normal schedule.

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