Getting a big is one of the best parts of being in a sorority -- at least it was for me. But something even better than getting a big, is getting your little. Just a couple months into my first year of college and I already wanted to have a little. I always thought it was normal to be really close with your little because of the relationship I had with my big. My whole freshman year, I convinced myself that my little and I would be super close.
Once we became big and little we weren’t as close as I thought. Even though we got along (very well), we didn’t hang out every day, and I didn’t know her whole life story by the first month of being big and little. I realized a couple months in that my little and I weren’t super close like I had expected us to be. I don’t say that in a bad way, though. I love my little and when we do hang out we always do a little bit of catching up (which means there is so much to talk about).
Many girls don’t realize that it is okay not to be best friends with your little. I love the relationship my little and I have. And I wouldn’t change it for the world. Here are some reasons why this arms-distance relationship is one of the best relationships you could have.
You're her mentor.
If you and your little hangout every single day, the relationship you have eventually becomes more of a best friend relationship. You want your little to see you as a person she can look up to. You want her to be able to follow your footsteps (somewhat) and accomplish the things that she wants with a little help from her big sister.
You're always learning something new.
When you don’t hang out every day, you and your little can catch up for hours on end when you finally do see each other. She always has something new going on in her life and you have things in yours. It makes it more exciting when you don’t know every little detail of each other’s lives.
Advice.
Your little won’t have to feel like you are giving her the advice she wants to hear. You won’t be so one-sided if your little needs help. You will give her the advice as a mentor and not just like a best friend.
Relationship level.
Chances are, you won’t ever fight. This means that you and your little will always be good friends without being super close. You know that your little will always be there you when your best friends, or boyfriends, aren’t and vice versa.
Independence.
It teaches your little some independence with her new organization. She isn't able to follow you around with everything you do within the sorority. It allows her to aspire to reach her own goals and strive for her own excellence within the organization.
