Sometimes it's OK to be a hater but There Is A Line

Sometimes it's OK to be a hater but There Is A Line

It's okay to be a hater to things that are WORTH hating.

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Most of my life, growing up, I was taught that you weren't allowed to hate anyone, let alone mutter that four letter word, among others. I was not allowed to hate olives or the mean girl who slapped me across the face in the elementary lunch room. I was allowed to dislike, but never hate. As I've grown up, I've realized that this is a bunch of hoopla and that it is okay to hate things, permitting they are worthy of such a verb.

Recently, I have seen so much hate, in person and social media. Slut shaming, bigotry, and plain ignorance is scattered across Facebook and booths in bars. We, as a society, focus so much on hating people for their opinions, while ignoring things that should enrage the human race.

Here are things it is not okay to hate:

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1. Other people based on their opinions: no matter how wrong they are, they are just that opinions. Not actions. If they act like a fool about their opinions, then that's another story

2. The Success of other people: They earned their success; use it to motivate you not make you a hater

3. Puppies: this would be obsurd to hate puppies

4. Your body: If self-esteem and body image is something you struggle to find peace with, please be kind to yourself. Your body is what lets you smile, eat yummy food, hug your favorite people, and belly laugh. It's an amazing vessel to an even more beautiful soul.

5. Things you cannot change: hating that the sky is blue isn't going to make it change colors, it will still be blue, and you will still be pissed. The same is true for whatever situation life is throwing at you; the actions you take to change the situation is what matters, not just hating it and letting the anger fester.

And here there are some things it is okay to hate:

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1. Physical containment and abuse of anybody or animal; Mr. Trump, please help the hurting children at the border, scared, hungty and alone. I hate watching this and I hate that it is a political sceme at the expense of otheres. the end.

2. Stigmas around mental illness: Its okay to hate people when speak and act as though mental illness is a myth and discriminating against "crazy people".

3. Racism, sexism, and homophobia: It is 2018, people. You aren't scared of people, your just an asshole if you treat people poorly becuase of the color of thei skin, who they are attracted to, and if they have a penis or not.

4. People's actions: People who claim to be your friends, but only ever talk to you when they need advice, are using their actions to show you a hateful and toxic friendship, while speaking as though you are their best friend. Actions speak way louder than words. pay attention to shitty actions.

5. Foods and Drinks that you don't like: Don't ask me about olives, or black licorice becuase I hate them. but the good news is that hating olives doesn't hurt them in anyway. They just are.

In conclusion, there are many things that people are finding that they "hate", but I challenge you too look at actions and grow a fricken backbone about things you may not agree with, but does not warrant "hate" stamped accross it's forehead.

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!
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After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

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4. This art speaks to me because...

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5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

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10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

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12. My hidden talents are...

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14. Some activities on my bucket list are...


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17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

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19. I volunteer at...

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20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...



What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

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Using 'Tradition' As An Excuse For Blood Feuds Is Not Okay

Respecting culture should not include the allowance of massacre.

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Bloods feuds are different from your typical family argument. They generally occur in the Northeast or Central region of Albania and can take many people's lives.

A blood feud begins when a person takes another one's life in the midst of an argument or disagreement. When this happens they are not settled by a civil court or lifetime in prison; they are settled by using murder as revenge over an over again.

If not prevented, the two families in conflict will go back in forth taking someone's life from the family that wished to spite them, just to even the score.

Eventually, families run out of men to use in these blood feuds, and to make sure that the conflict is resolved, the women begin to dress up and act as males so they too can go out and kill each other. This practice has historical significance in their culture and should always be taught and remembered, but that does not justify allowing the practice to continue.

Sure it's insignificant, that I, as a female living in a developed country, would find this practice barbaric and want to stop it. But it's important to take a closer look at the families and realize how much they struggle and desperately need this to end to allow them to live.

Just in Albania's Shkodra region alone, there are estimated to be 68 families unable to leave their house in fear of what awaits them. People are unable to continue what would normally be a successful life if they are dragged into a fight that's not their own, by tradition alone.

In class today, my professor discussed his high school years, most of which were spent in Albania. He was exposed to, and friends, with many of the people trapped in this nightmare.

One in particular, he told us, would drive down in a van with tinted windows to a different city every day to carry out his life where no one knew him. He would work with them, hang out and play soccer, and drive home every day. This continued for months, until one day he stopped showing up, and eventually, my professor discovered he had been killed by the family that his family was in combat with.

Unfortunately, this is not an isolated event, and it is still happening while the rest of Albania develops around it. People want help to solve this issue and truly need it...

In this issue, awareness is key and can allow humanity around the world to step in an attempt to prevent this from continuing. If this goal is achieved, imagine the renewed life that the people trapped in this tradition would be able to discover.

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