When Do You Say 'Congratulations' Instead Of 'Oh, Shit' When They Say They're Pregnant?

When Do You Say 'Congratulations' Instead Of 'Oh, Shit' When They Say They're Pregnant?

I know it's hard to say when you should.

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What is an acceptable age to congratulate your friends on becoming pregnant?!

Well, in this day and age it's hard to say when you should and shouldn't congratulate them, because kids now a days just keep having babies at the age of 16 and expect everyone to be so excited for them. I mean don't get me wrong i am not shaming teen moms by any means because a couple of my friends are teen moms and are succeeding in life for being young moms!

I am just going to say that, i don't honestly think there is a number on when to congratulate someone on becoming a mom! Honestly because women are ready to be moms at all different ages! A women who is 20 years old or older might struggle to be a mom but that young 16 year old mom you are all judging is doing great, being a mom!

You see there really is not a "right" age to become a mom, but in today's society there is a stigma put on young girls who become mothers at a young age. With this stigma many people in the older generation (i.e. Generation X and the baby boomers ) feel conflicted to congratulate someone on a pregnancy if they are not doing things the "traditional way" but that's just the way they were raised. One thing these older generations need to realize is that they are now in the modern age, times have changed and there is now new ways of doing things. Yes the idea of tradition still exists but people are not as strict about following them.

I mean i am not a mom, but I know how it affected my friends at such a young age. Not being able to come hangout with us all at the mall anymore, but that comes with being a good mom, being able to give up everyday things to be there for your child! Not every mom can say that, I know some women that have children that would rather go out and drink and party than spend time with their children, that would rather spend money on cigarettes than by diapers or whatever the child needs because they are so selfish!

So, i guess what i am trying to say is that there are some hardships to face when becoming a mom at such a young age, but if you fight through and step up to the plate for your child you will succeed at being a mom! I am also trying to say that becoming a mom at any age isn't going to be easy, but you have to give up some stuff just to provide for your child!

Being a mom is not an easy task, but once you hold that child for the first time, and watch them grow it's going to be worth giving up things for!

So for all you moms out there, keep up the work! You got this!

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I Ghosted My Old Self For 5 Months In An Effort To Reevaluate My Life

My life fell apart faster than a drunk dude approaching a Jenga stack.

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BREAKING (not fake) NEWS: It's true, you have to hit your lowest before hitting your highest.

I want to share my lowest with you, and I'm almost ashamed to say it had nothing to do with the loss of both of my parents. I like to think I handled that like a warrior.

Turns out I didn't, and the hurt I've been burying from that hit me all at once, the same moment my life fell apart faster than a drunk dude approaching a Jenga stack.

My life flipped upside down overnight back in August. I had my heart broken shattered, lost two very important friendships that I thought were with me until the end, lost my 9-5 job, my health took a hit stronger than a boulder, and I was absolutely lost. For the first time, ever, I let go of the reigns on my own life. I had no idea how to handle myself, how to make anyone around me happy, how to get out of bed or how to even begin the process of trying to process what the f*ck just happened. I was terrified.

Coming from the girl who never encountered a dilemma she couldn't fix instantaneously, on her own, with no emotional burden. I was checked out from making my life better. So I didn't try. I didn't even think about thinking about trying.

The only relatively understandable way I could think to deal with anything was to not deal with anything. And that's exactly what I did. And it was f*cking amazing.

I went into hiding for a week, then went on a week getaway with my family, regained that feeling of being loved unconditionally, and realized that's all I need. They are all I need. Friends? Nah. Family. Only. Always.

On that vacation, I got a call from the school district that they wanted me in for an interview the day I come home. It was for a position that entailed every single class, combined, that I took in my college career. It was a career that I had just gotten my degree for three months before.

I came home and saw my doctor and got a health plan in order. I was immediately thrown into the month-long hiring process for work. I made it a point to make sunset every single night, alone, to make sure I was mentally caught up and in-check at the same exact speed that my life was turning. I was not about to lose my control again. Not ever.

Since August, I have spent more time with family than ever. I've read over 10 new books, I've discovered so much new music, I went on some of my best, the worst and funniest first dates, I made true, loyal friends that cause me zero stress while completely drowning me in overwhelming amounts of love and support, I got back into yoga, and I started that job and damn near fell more in love with it than I ever was for the guy I lost over the summer.

But most importantly, I changed my mindset. I promised myself to not say a single sentence that has a negative tone to it. I promised myself to think three times before engaging in any type of personal conversation. I promised myself to wake up in a good mood every damn day because I'm alive and that is the only factor I should need to be happy.

Take it from a girl who knew her words were weapons and used them frequently before deciding to turn every aspect of her life into positivity — even in the midst of losing one of my closest family members. I have been told multiple times, by people so dear to me that I'm "glowing." You know what I said back? F*ck yes I am, and I deserve to.

I am so happy with myself and it has nothing to do with the things around me. It's so much deeper than that, and I'm beaming with pride. Of myself. For myself.

I want to leave you with these thoughts that those people who have hurt me, left me, and loved me through these last couple of months have taught me

Growth is sometimes a lonely process.
Some things go too deep to ever be forgotten.
You need to give yourself the permission to be happy right now.
You outgrow people you thought you couldn't live without, and you're not the one to blame for that. You're growing.
Sometimes it takes your break down to reach your breakthrough.

Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

My god, it's so f*cking good.

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It's Not Easy To Keep The New You Around All Year, But It Is Possible, Fight For The Life You Want

Keep yourself in check with these tips.

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There's no better time to set goals for yourself than for the new year! However, many people have the same goals of going to the gym more or working on saving money and often don't follow through with them after the first month or two. To help keep your goals to better improve yourself, I thought I'd share some tips that help keep me in check, and can hopefully help you, too!

1. Share your goals!

If no one knows your plans, it can be easy to just forget about them or use that as an excuse to give up. However, if you tell a few of your close friends, they can hold you accountable and check in with you to make sure you're following through.

2. Evaluate who you hang out with

You want to make sure the people you're sharing your goals with are going to hold you accountable and support you. It is also important to look around and make sure everyone in your life is leaving a positive mark. Negativity will just bring you down and won't help you achieve any goals.

3. Invest

You don't need to be a pro or even know much about investing to do so, but you'd be surprised how setting a little money aside makes a difference in the long run. Many accounts even allow you to set it up so it automatically takes money from your account.

4. Help others to help yourself feel better

Many people don't realize volunteering is as simple as helping out an organization that supports something you believe in for even just an hour or two a week. You might be surprised how humbling volunteering can be and it will make you appreciative for what you have. It is also good to help make the community you live in a better place.

5. Change how you get fit

It is very common to want to get in shape and healthier for the new year, but doing it the right way is most important to make sure you can stick with your goal. Rather than rushing into things and trying to go to the gym every day of the week and not eat any processed foods, start small. Start by going to the gym once or twice a week. Start by eliminating one unhealthy meal a day. Habits don't form overnight. Changing your health takes time and realizing that is the first step.

6. Find ways to reduce stress

This may sound irrelevant, but stress can often be used as an excuse for us to not do something. While you can't completely eliminate stress, finding ways to reduce it can help you stay motivated to stick with your goals! Little ways to start this can be by finding time to meditate once a week or taking more time for yourself.

7. Pick a place to travel!

While this is not easy and possible for everyone, even finding a cheap weekend getaway is a great way to give yourself a break and evaluate how you have been doing in the year.

8. Spend less time on your phone

This is another thing where you can start small by maybe choosing to not go on your phone immediately when you wake up!

9. Become more knowledgeable with what is happening in the world

You can learn so much just by reading the news, and you never know the types of conversations you could end up having with people. This just helps keep you well rounded and a part of society. It can also help you determine whether or not your goals are attainable depending on what is going on in the world, especially with investing!

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