To My Odyssey EIC Group, Thank You For Being There

To My Odyssey EIC Group, Thank You For Being There

I felt alone before, but I don't anymore.
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I just want to say: thank you. Thank you for my late night questions and random thoughts. Thank you for your hilarious snaps and the constant support we have for each other.

I never thought I could bond with people I never met but here I am, with you guys. I'm usually shy and I'm a "sit back and watch" type of girl. I used to read all your messages but didn't answer because I was unsure what to say or if I should participate. I've always felt like an outsider and I struggle with social anxiety but as the months progressed, I began to open up, bit by bit. I responded more, snapped more, and developed an attachment to my EIC sisters (and brother). You guys gave me material to make my own team strong, but you also gave me advice to help make me strong as an EIC.

You all were so confident in who you were and I loved it. I began to take more active roles within our Odyssey society. Soon enough, I was commenting on your posts and sharing your articles. I was excited for your success, instead of being envious. I was happy when one of us got promoted to lead EIC because she DESERVED it. I respected how HARD we all work to make our teams successful. We bonded over the love we share for our teams, for each other, and the other EIC's that aren't in our group.

This week meant more to me than y'all will ever know because I opened up, big time. I shared a deep, dark secret of mine, one I felt would make me lose my friends that I made within our group, only to see you guys shared your own personal stories with me. You opened up and comforted me, even though I didn't deserve it. Your shared experiences, they meant the world to me, so thank you for having my back and not hating/shaming me. Thank you for accepting my flaws and showing me the mistakes you made that mirrored mine. Thank you for showing me those mistakes don't define me, but rather empower me to accept the past and move on. To learn from those mistakes and use my knowledge to help others, like you guys helped me.

I felt alone before, but I don't anymore.

I found friends within this community and I am so grateful for you guys. Every day, I open up more and your continued patience with me inspires me to let go of all my insecurities and just be myself.

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. You are helping fix a broken piece inside of this lonely girl.

So if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go get some tissues and jump back into our Slack group because y'all made me feel safe here.

And that means the world.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.
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Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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How To Resolve An Argument And Make Everyone Happy

It's not easy, but it is possible to solve a disagreement with compromise.

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I wouldn't classify myself as a "confrontational" person. I tend to avoid situations with big crowds, controversial topics, and people who have short tempers. However, to all the people reading who have trouble voicing their opinion, there is a time when everyone has to disagree with something. It might be over food, going out, or more serious topics such as politics. I feel that the one disagreement most of us face is when we are in a relationship, whether that be with a friend or partner.

Typically when someone feels strongly about a topic or situation, they aren't going to change their minds. A common misconception is that "maybe if I talk louder and say another reason why I'm right, the other person will suddenly change their mind and I will win." There are two problems here. First of all, no one ever backs down. If they feel what they are saying is right, nothing you can say to convince them will work. The other problem is that solving an argument means everyone wins, not one person.

Something I've experienced is when something bothers me, I usually don't say anything and let it slide. This causes problems in the future because of what I like to call: the Snow Ball Effect. A little thing gets blown over and it tumbles and tumbles until it's a huge problem. If something bothers you in your relationship, sleep on it, and if it still bothers you in the morning try talking about it with the other person. This solves the problems while they are small instead off waiting for a huge blow up to occur.

It's important to bring something up in your relationship in a particular manner. The situation can go south if it starts with "Look, I hate when you play that video game and you don't have time to hang out." In this case, the person will feel attacked because you are referencing that they are the entirety of the problem and likely not look for a compromise.

If you are going to bring up something that may start an argument, begin your sentences with "I feel." For example, I've said in another article about how my boyfriend is addicted to Fortnite. If his obsession ever got in the way of our plans and it bothered me, I would start my sentence off with, "I feel upset when we can't hang out because of video games." This allows the other person to see how their actions have affected you. Once you have established how you feel, you can suggest a compromise such as having certain times to play video games and others to hang out.

You've probably heard the phrase "three is the magic number" (shoutout to "School House Rock.") If an argument ever gets out of hand and there need to be changes in order to seek a compromise, try saying, "here are three things I'm going to try and do/change in order to get along." Then, ask them what they think they should change. Since you are the first person offering to adjust in order to correct the problem, they will likely be willing to as well.

Arguments are a daily occurrence and come in all types of severity. As long as you are trying to get along with someone who is willing to compromise, just keep a level head and things will work out.

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