Although the pressure to find the right future boyfriend, husband, or lover is still a present pressure on the modern day woman, it's not one which I'm choosing to invest my time at the moment.

Just because I'm not looking for him doesn't mean I've thrown in the towel on romance. Not at all! Instead, according to me, I'm deciding to do quite the opposite. I'm not making my life right here, right now, revolve around someone I haven't met yet. I'm not making myself into a woman I'm not. And I'm definitely not going to change myself to fit some stranger's "ideal material" standards.

I'm not out combing through men in my life in search of the perfect one. Not because I don't desire him, but because I don't need him in my life right now. And that's OK.

We've all heard someone say they're just taking time to "date themselves," and this is great! If you don't know yourself, how can you be invested in a relationship where you're required to disclose personal information and grow with the other? This idea of taking time for yourself is completely valid, but it's not where I'm at in this point of my life. I'm not making the choice to cut myself off from romantic relationships, instead I'm just not out actively looking for them.

I've finally come to the realization that what I was told all those years ago by my mom that "you don't need a boyfriend to be happy" is actually completely true. (For real!) Sure relationships are exciting. They make you feel wanted and loved, and they give you a person to spend those lonely weekend nights with; but we don't only get excited, and feel wanted and loved by our lovers... but also our friends.

This is why I'm defying the college girl stereotype of sleeping and dating around, and instead I am investing my time and attention to my friendships rather than in the pursuit of a lover.

Because I've made the decision to shut the door on searching for Mr. Right at the moment, doesn't mean I've locked the door to the possibility.

If he wants to prove to me that he's what I'm looking for, then great... I'm all for it, and I'll take that leap of faith! But this just isn't the person I'm on the prowl for.

I truly am happier if I am simply comfortable. (It's just as simple as that.) Comfortable with myself, comfortable with my relationships, and most of all comfortable with how I feel about myself. I am happy with all these aspects of myself, and if someone really wants to be a part of my life, I need him to be someone who I'm going to grow with and accept my strong independence. I'm happy without this socially important figure in my life, and because of this I'm not going to go looking for love in all the wrong places.

I believe when something is meant to be, it will be. And till then, I'll just keep on working on my number one. (Me.)