As we grow up, we are supposed to learn how relationships work, how to be mature, how to make money, how to manage that money, how to live on our own, and so much more. Now, the majority of people start "dating" in high school and feel like they will be with that person "forever". There are many reasons why participating in this is completely absurd and an unfortunate part of life.
At a young age, people see love and relationships as this great thing that needs to happen as soon as possible. When in high school, for example, they are set up to fail. Then, because these relationships just suck and are terrible and are immature, they wreck future relationships and life in general. They set up this mindset that someone might not be good enough for relationships, or they will never know what they did wrong. PLUS it confuses what relationships actually should be versus what young people see in fairytales and Nicolas Sparks stories.
There are so many reasons to be single and experience life for yourself!
So, no, I currently am not "girlfriend material".
I am a 20 year old college student, who is content being single and has had quite a few failed relationships. I am not, however, any sort of relationship expert; I don't have all (or any) of the answers.
Here are 10 reasons why I am not ready to be somebody's girlfriend:
1. I am trying to focus on getting a degree. Mine, being an Engineering degree, is even more strenuous than other things in my life.
2. I have a full-time job. This takes up majority of my time every day and sometimes even the weekends.
3. I either live at home or in a dorm room, and will be until I graduate college. There is no sense of privacy, nor is there the availability to have the alone time necessary for a relationship.
4. I don't have enough money to spend on another person for dinners, gifts, or gasoline.
5. I am still working on being a better person: more compassionate, patient, generous, and understanding. How am I supposed to be in a relationship, when I don't even have the right qualities for one yet?
6. I still am reminiscing about the last heart breaker, which seems like a waste of time now that I look back on the last five years.
7. I don't want to "settle" for just anyone. People too often search for love when really, they just need to let it happen. It makes no sense to try to force love to work. News Flash: Love does not work that way!
8. I know what it is like to be cheated on and spend way too much time on a relationship. It really isn't worth all the heartache that follows.
9. I don't want to be attached to another person, constantly being questioned where I am at, why I didn't text back, and I definitely don't want to have to do the same to somebody else.
10. I know what I want from another person, relationship-wise. I will have a good relationship one day, and I will have a happy life.
