“Only a few people care, most are just curious.”
Yeah, I saw this on some dumb quote page on Twitter. But it actually got me thinking, it's a pretty accurate quote. A lot of people view life as a competition or a race. Some people have this mindset that they have to do better than someone else. In their minds that can mean a handful of things: finishing college a semester early, getting married first, having a bigger house than their “friends,” or making more money in their career. Even simple things that I noticed since middle school, like having the brand name clothes or the newest iPhone version, just to have it. But what I’ve noticed about these types of people is that they are not even happy with themselves. They are just trying to prove to others that they look happy and are “winning” at something.
Well congrats, but I actually don’t care about this timeline called life, other than to live it fully and have fun while I’m at it. Being in my 20’s, the whole idea of creating a life for myself is front and center in my mind of course. I’m going to college, living in an apartment and just growing up. It just so happens that our generation has information about others at the touch of a button. Its easy to post your successes and life events on social media - I’ve done it. But I’ve stopped doing it as much because I realized that a lot of people really just don’t care, especially the majority of people who are just on my friends list and not friends in real life. They may see that I’ve accomplished something, but in their mind the biggest thought might be, “Well, I could've done that better than her,” or, “Ha, I already did that faster.” And when something negative happens? I don’t dare post that on social media - not often at least. That just gives someone reason to laugh and say “I knew that would happen to her”.
So, the lesson I’ve learned is this: the important people in your life do care, and while that might just be a handful of people, thats okay. I don’t need the “likes” from 150 people when 140 of those people really just don’t care. Tell the people closest to you about your life’s ups and downs, they are the ones who truly care and support you. The people that gossip and are mean can find out about your life’s success when they see you later down the road living a great life. So keep doing you, embrace the ups and downs, and share what you want just knowing that most people are there for the information.
