We've all heard about it: the infamous "list." A list where both guys, and girls, keep tally of who they've been with and just how far they've been with them. Some praise the list, while others despise it. Truth of the matter? No one should care about your list.
I lean a little both ways, depending on how highly or lowly someone thinks of the idea. I'll admit, I love playing devil's advocate, and this is just one of the matters in which I constantly play this role. I'm not a hypocrite, but I honestly don't care whether or not you agree to the use of such lists.
If a person tells me they hate the idea of the list, I ask them why. "Why? If it's not your list, does it affect you?" The person answers the first question, making a statement about how people shouldn't be deduced down into numbers and actions, as they apparently are when it comes to the list. But, isn't that what we all are? We are each one person, a number amongst millions of others, and don't we all commit actions? Sexual or not, there are way worse records to be on simply for your actions.
Take a look at it from the other side, and you have people who love the list, whether it be making one or making it onto one. To these people I ask the same first question, "Why?" To the people who love the list, it's a sign that your actions were memorable enough to make it into a book filled with other memorable moments, kind of like a scrapbook. My second question to these people is, "But, why is it so important to you to remember these actions, and not all of them?" Whether the list is made to praise someone for their sexual ability or lack thereof, wouldn't you want to remember each sexual encounter you've had? Why does a notebook with a few names written down mean so much?
To be quite honest, I've never made a list, nor do I plan on making one. I am also 100 percent sure I have never been written down on one. However, I do not condone those who have made a list or have found out they made it onto one. If this type of memorial is one you feel you need, or feel pride in being part of, then by all means feel that joy. If the list is something you despise and would rather see burn than have your name written on one, burn it. Just don't make someone else feel bad for their decisions just because they might differ from yours.
