At least once a week, I have conversations with my friends, both girls and guys, about why "so and so" won't text them back. Or why they haven't called yet. Or why they never scheduled a second date. I've been on both sides of this conversation. As much as it sucks to hear, getting no message is also a message.

The message is plain and simple: they aren't as interested as you are. The reasons may be different. They could be too busy for a commitment. They could already committed to someone else (this person is pond scum btw). Or they just weren't "in to you". It sucks. Trust me when I say we've all been there. And unless you are the recipient of a miracle and have found your person, it'll probably happen again. This doesn't mean you aren't beautiful, hilarious, or fun enough. You can be (and you are) the juiciest peach in the world, and someone still won't like peaches.

Getting no message from someone is also a message. Don't sit at home, and constantly check your phone. Do not waste your time thinking about someone who isn't giving you a second thought. Let me say it again for the people in the back: DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME THINKING ABOUT SOMEONE WHO ISN'T GIVING YOU A SECOND THOUGHT. Pick yourself up and forget about it. Honestly, you probably dodged a bullet.

You do not deserve someone who ignores you. You deserve the person who will always call you back when they get the chance. The person who will notice that your voice changes when you curse. The person who remembers that you don't like roses because you think they are too cliché. The person who doesn't have to ask what you want from Cookout because they know your order better than their own. Not the person who ghosts you after you hangout once.

You also deserve to treat yourself better than to worry about another person more than yourself. Never forget this.