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The Word "No" Should Never Need An Explanation

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The Word "No" Should Never Need An Explanation
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As I'm sure many of you know a famous pop singer named Kesha. You may know her from some of her biggest hits such as "Tick-Tock," "Animal," or "We R Who we R." What you may not be aware of is that Kesha has been in an ongoing battle with her producer Dr. Luke ( Lukasz Gottwald). Kesha accused Luke of sexual assault, and battery. After public outcry, her fans started a petition "tell Sony not to force her to work with her alleged abuser."

"According to the 2014 filing obtained by TMZ, Kesha claimed that Gottwald made sexual advances toward her, plied her with drugs and alcohol and repeatedly sexually, physically, verbally and emotionally abused her for ten years"

"Gottwald responded to Kesha's allegations with a countersuit saying that the singer was trying to break her contract with his production company."

"Kesha is currently unable to produce any music unless she works with Gottwald, who's record label, Kemosabe Record, Is a part of sony. The artist has yet to release any new singles since her last hit in 2013, "Timber."

Kesha is not alone in this.

This incident is truly tragic, however, Kesha is not the only one who's going through this situation. There are millions of girls every day who have been sexually assaulted or raped. Whether it's an extreme or mild case, it's happening more and more each day, and we can't seem to figure out why.

Many people may argue that Kesha has a bad girl reputation, she's a wild, crazy party girl, that she lives a high-risk lifestyle. her music represents her live fast die young lifestyle, her music revolves around escapism, partying, individuality, supernatural moments, rebellion, and grief. However, care-free and party girl her music style is the reality about Kesha is she's actually extremely intelligent. Yes! I'm talking about "party animal pop star" Kesha. In fact, a 2010 cover story in Seventeen magazine claimed she is a near genius with an IQ of 140. That's not all! Kesha told NPR that she scored a near perfect 1500 on her SATs back when the score was out of 1600.


You don't owe anyone anything.

I think the biggest problem in today's society regarding this issue is the feeling of entitlement. Its not just men, overall people are becoming more and more entitled, and this is the case with men as well. Men are at an increasing rate of rapes and sexual assault, and nothing is being done. There's too little evidence, girls are too afraid to speak up because they're famous or an athlete and we can't ruin their reputation, or they feel guilty. The fact that more and more men are getting away with rape and assault is leading to an increased feeling of entitlement with women, as if women are here for the convenience of men.

As a matter of fact as I was in the middle of writing this very article you are reading, I went to go home to take a homework break and get dinner. As I was walking to my car an older man at a stoplight, nonetheless with his son in the car, whistled at me. Now I can assure you he wasn't thinking that I would have responded like I did, I bet most women wouldn't have either, but I decided to put him in his place, and show his son that his fathers actions aren't acceptable. So rather than submissively looking down at my toes, and walking away self-consciously, I bluntly told him to "go f*** himself." I'm not suggesting that profanity is the right way of dealing with these situations, but rather just standing up for yourself, I just happen to be angsty and aggressive when it comes to these situations.

How can we fix the problem?

There's never a do-it-all-solution to make the problem just simply vanish forever. But here's my pitch: women need to learn to say no. I know what you're thinking when someone is assaulted and or raped that "no" is ignored, however many women this day and age are afraid to say no, to stand up for themselves and to not settle for being treated with injustice. I think its that we're always giving in, or backing down. That is helping cause the problem, because if men are used to hearing yes, or just never hear the word no, its no longer a question, its expected.

I read an article recently by Michelle Sanga talking about Mary-Kate Olsen's biggest career advice for women. Mary-Kate's advice in five words "No is a full sentence." Sanga went on to comment that we shouldn't have to explain ourselves or feel guilty about saying no, an issue that women often face in the workforce. I agree 100% with Sanga's statement, however, I see this as an issue that is not just exclusively seen in the workforce. Saying no is an issue that women have overall, especially in dealing with men. Women need to start saying no when they mean it, there needs to be no explanation, no further discussions, and most of all no feelings of guilt, because "no is a full sentence!"

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