No, I'm Not A Family Person, Don't Call Me Weird

No, I'm Not A Family Person, Don't Call Me Weird

Blood isn't always thicker than water.

Family is a very complicated thing. There is never a time where everyone gets along.

They are always asking questions you don't want to answer, and they're usually judging your life choices even though they are the ones who shouldn't be.

Even so, most people are pretty close with their families, especially those in smaller towns like I grew up in.

My mom calls my Nana at least two times a week. My aunt calls my Nana every morning. My stepmom talks to her mom for hours every day, and my dad calls his parents once a week.

And they all see each other almost as often.

I, on the other hand, just came home for the first time since August, and I'm perfectly content with that. I have never been that close with my family, and the older I've gotten the more I stay away. I have my reasons, just like everyone else.

But, I often find that people look at me weirdly when I tell them I am not a family person.

"How can you not be close to them?" they ask me.

"You can't choose your family," they say, "might as well make the most of it."

"Blood is thicker than water."

Yeah, I call bullshit.

Don't get me wrong, I love my family, I really do. I want to see all of them when I'm home. I appreciate all of them and everything they do for me. But we have our drama like all families do.

And that drama has made me realize that sometimes they aren't there for my best interest.

My boyfriend is very close to his family. He and his sister tell their mom almost everything, and they always do things together. They talk to the rest of the family fairly regularly, too.

It has taken me a little while to get used to how close his family is. I know not everyone has family issues, but it seems more common than not nowadays.

It has always blown my mind that some people actually get along with and genuinely like their family.

I prefer talking to my family a few times a month. More so just for their sake so they know I'm still alive.

Some I don't talk to until I come back home from the semester. This year I didn't even go home for Thanksgiving break – I went to my boyfriend's.

It's not that I don't want to see them. It's because I don't want to deal with the questions and drama that comes with them – the reminders of all the things that have happened over the past year.

Things have happened this year that never should have happened. And for that reason, I choose to stay away.

They mean well, but sometimes they are worse than high school girls. They can be petty and nasty.

I love seeing my family, but I have no issue with not seeing them for long periods of time. It's just how I keep my sanity and make sure I'm not surprised when more shit goes down.

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I Never Knew What True Friendship Was Before You Came Along

To my best friend, thank you for everything.

To my best friend,

Throughout these past few years, you have done so much for me. Probably more than you realize.

Our talks are my favorite thing in the world. Lord help the people who hear the middle of whatever we are talking about, though. We could talk for ages about nothing and everything at the same time.

Before you, I never had a friend I could really talk to like that. It's crazy how one person can have such a big impact on my life.

I never knew what true friendship was until you came into my life. I guess what I'm trying to say is...

Thank you.

Thank you for being there when my dad made me cry. Which was often. You even came to "rescue" me a couple of times.

Thank you for allowing me to grieve properly when my cousin passed away. You talked with me through it and made the tears stop for the first time.

Thank you for being my human journal. Whenever I need to cry, vent, yell, I know that I can go to you, and I am beyond grateful for that.

Thank you for always finding a way to make me laugh. I swear I never laugh as much as I do as when I'm with you.

Thank you for always being a phone call or text away when I need you, whether it's three in the morning or three in the afternoon.

Thank you for always telling me the truth, even if it might hurt.

Most of all, thank you for being yourself. You are the kindest, most loving person I have ever met. You have the most beautiful soul and the biggest heart.

I truly believe you have made me a better person. I also believe I would no longer be here if it wasn't for you.

I love you and I can't wait to see where the future takes us!

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You Are My Best Friend Because You Have My Back No Matter What

Not everyone can be a best friend, but you can choose what type of friend you are to others.

The concept of friendship is pretty normalized. From the beginning of life, we form connections with other individuals hoping that eventually, it will turn into some sort of relationship. Remember the good old days when you would ring the doorbell of your neighborhood buddy and ask if they could come outside to play?

Friendship is a special type of bond, but being a best friend is something completely different. This title means that you have been awarded the number one spot in someone’s life. A best friend is someone you share the most personal parts of yourself with and you know that they have your back no matter what. It's an incredible honor to be someone’s best friend, but how does being a best friend work?

This type of friendship means that you have voluntarily decided that this person is someone you want to spend 24/7 with. This person just gets you and your relationship almost seems effortless. A best friend is someone you can call in the middle of the night when you hear a strange scratching noise in your ceiling, someone you immediately call after the most embarrassing thing just happened, this is the person you do the strangest things with and it is completely normal because they enjoy it just as much as you. You could say having a best friend is pretty fun.

There are also aspects of being a best friend that can be challenging at times. You need to be there during moments when it may seem inconvenient, but you do it because you know that they would do the same for you. Seeing your best friend in pain sucks, especially when there is nothing you can do about it besides be there. Sharing them with other people can be the worst! Especially when it seems like everything in your life is collapsing.

Not everyone can be a best friend, but you can choose what type of friend you are to others. Friendship is such a unique bond no matter what type you share. It has the power to turn someone’s crappy day into something a little less crappy. Having a best friend can be important, but friendships are just as important.

It is easy to get caught up in one relationship, but sometimes it is good to make sure your eggs aren’t just placed all in one basket as someone once told me. People come and go, that is just part of life. The people that stay are usually the one’s overlooked. Make sure you don’t overlook them for to long because they won’t stay forever. If you feel like you haven’t found your best friend yet, don’t sweat it. The right people will filter in and out of your life when you least expect it.

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