A Nit-Picker's Guide To Nit-Picking

A Nit-Picker's Guide To Nit-Picking

I'm not hard to please, I'm just looking for perfection.

I'm a nit-picker.

Nit-picking is my way of self-improving. Because of this way, I ensure that nothing in its entirety will ever truly impress me, and because of that disposition, I use every moment of dissatisfaction as a means to constantly sharpen my eye for improvement.

I think- scratch that- I KNOW I'm like this because of two factors: my mother being a therapist and my being an actress.

My trained skill to pick-apart performances, in search of how to make them better, has given me this societally unpleasant title of "Nit-Picker", "The Perfectionist", and "Godzilla of Group Projects."

While it may sound harsh and critical, to live consistently unimpressed, my mother's therapeutic positivity towards helping me understand how to solve my own issues in life has gifted me with a self-bettering spin towards my criticalness.

This ability to key-in on my own shortcomings, in combination with my understanding of how to build the steps needed to achieve fulfillment is my secret to success, and now it can be yours too!

So, here's my guide on how to be a self-bettering nit-picker like yours truly!

To achieve the constant battle that is reaching, in my case, very VERY highly set goals, correcting minute imperfections when they arise rather than condoning their appearance helps halt the inevitable build-up of molehills into mountains of self-deprecation.

For example, when I see my behavior or attitude slipping, as a nit-picker I always notice it. But noticing's not enough, the tell-tale sign of a true fusspot (Don't you just love that? Fusspot? What a synonym!) is the hyper-focusing on the slippage. You need to train yourself to stop condoning the little but unsatisfactory things of your life to the point of taking action to cut them out.

Honestly! Try today somehow to shake yourself out of any a current, unfulfilling, and sordid routine! What too much tv? Try change. Want to learn to cook? Try change. Want to be a better painter? Try change.

Remember how many new things we tried when we were little? Wake that You up! Put on your exuberant toddler optimism and curiosity and desire to do everything under the sun!

Even just a little change will evoke in you a new energy to achieve and succeed the goals you just “never have time or motivation to do”.

Along with physically enacting change comes the mental reframing. Action without the mental correction in your perspective leads to started goals and relapses into upsettingly "okay and comfortable" lifestyles.

See, a misconception about being a nit-picker is that we're self-deprecatingly critical. If that's you- check yourself. Now. If you want positive reformation in your life, you can't just start with hating what's wrong with you. That framing is just a no-no. You have to accept what you have got to work with, not with what's inherently "wrong" with you.

With me, I'm "open."

For those of you at home, human traits have been simplified into five main categories- and my big identifier is “Openness”. Find out where you fall on the spectrum of these big five with this scientifically-baked personality test!

Now, I use my openness (creative, original, curious, insightful, etc.) as fodder for the conception and execution of my very niche goals constantly. My creativity makes me want to be in a play while my need to be original makes me want to be the one to write that play. It’s perfect. I know the type of person I am, I accept it, I apply it to my trying change, I reach self-actualization.

The same can be seen in several studies run by scientists Harper and Larson. Participants were asked to list traits they currently possess, list traits they wished to possess, and then rate the extent of their possession over these traits. They noted how greater acceptance of possession corresponded with the greater positivity of the individual’s attitude. The outcome of this longitudinal research found that self-actualization is the precursor to a healthy and positive well-being.

In other words, the more the individual approves of the “me” they are, the better quality of life they lead.

So, as long as you accept yourself, can you find happiness. And if happiness to you means meeting certain goals, then, get cracking on accepting yourself. Only then can you begin to use your pre-laden strengths to reach the goals, all the while being positive and excited about the journey.

However, with every pro comes its con. Acceptance alone doesn’t lead people to their goals.

A lazy person can’t just accept that they’re lazy or else their goal of cleaning the house will never get done. They do however need to accept their quality, as to not begin a spiral of deprecating self-hate, and then work to improve that quality.

It is in acceptance that happiness is found, but in positive change, that progress is made.

By following this idea to work towards self-betterment of our trait, can we discover the quality of our own self-actualization and enact the change we seek within ourselves.

Now, just work at it. This change can only be sought with constant application and effort by you. Try a change, accept your unique gifts, reframe your perspective, and you’ll be set for a new life of nit-picking, fault finding, backseat driving, and most importantly, living the life you always wanted to live.

The time will pass no matter what, so why not start today to become the you that you have always wanted to be?

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Don't wait until you need to take something out of the oven to realize that you don't have any oven mitts.


If you're anything like I am, you're beyond excited to start planning and shopping for your first apartment. It's easy to get wrapped up in the fun stuff for your first apartment, trust me, as a former Bed Bath & Beyond employee I could spend hours wandering through shower curtains and bedding.

Before you get too carried away there are just some essential things that you'll need, but they aren't as much fun to pick out. Don't wait until you need to take something out of the oven to realize that you don't have any oven mitts, because I really don't see that ending well for you (I may or may not know that from personal experience).

1. Oven mitts

Gets those oven mitts because the sleeve of your sweater might seem like it will work, but I'm living proof that it won't, most sweaters have holes.

2. Trash bags

Don't wait until you need to throw something away to realize you don't have them.

3. Hand soap

It's not like a dorm bathroom where the maintenance staff refills a soap dispenser that's drilled into the wall. You're on your own kid.

4. Toilet paper

Again, no staff replacing it for you. Stay on top of it and make sure you always replace an empty roll, especially if you have roommates.

5. Water filter or pitcher

This one depends on whether your water is safe to drink or not, but be prepared. You don't want to move in under the summer sun only to realize you don't have any drinkable water at your snazzy new pad.

6. Tools

Hammers, screwdrivers, all that jazz. If you're moving in some furniture you're probably going to need tools to put it together.

7. Lighting

You don't want to be unpacking and stumbling around a new space in the dark your first night. Know what lighting is built in and where you might need to add some light.

8. Silverware organizer

Ok, so you probably remembered to pack the silverware, but do you really want to throw it all in a pile in a drawer? That's a good way to grab the wrong end of a knife by accident, maybe get some dividers to keep your silverware nice and sorted.

9. Dish towels

Most people think about bath towels, but if you're not used to having a kitchen you might not have thought of dish towels. You're going to need those when you're whipping up your favorite dinner.

10. Measuring cups

I'm a huge advocate for estimating and guessing in the kitchen, but if you're baking anything at all you should probably at least have some measuring utensils as a guide.

11. Bottle opener and corkscrew

You're going to want to crack open a drink and celebrate your first night in the new place. Wouldn't it be a buzzkill if you couldn't even get the drinks open?

12. Sponges

You have to be able to clean the counters and the dishes when you're done being an expert chef!

13. Paper towels

Spills happen, and you don't always want to clean them with your nice towels.

14. Toilet plunger

It's one of those things you never really think about... that is, until you need one.

15. Air freshner

You know, for after you use the toilet plunger.

16. Extension cords

You probably have a larger space than you're used to, sometimes those cords that come with all your new electronics just aren't quite long enough.

17. Utensil container

A little round pot or bucket is the perfect place to put all of your kitchen utensils. Things like spatulas and whisks will take up space in your drawers and create clutter. Plus, keeping them out makes them easier to grab when you're whipping up some food.

18. Batteries

There's nothing worse than getting your new TV all set up and realizing you can't use the remote.

19. Curtains

If you need darkness to sleep, you want to make sure you get those bedroom curtains up and ready to roll.

20. Toilet bowl brush

Sorry, but I'm certainly not reaching in there with my hands.

21. Ice cube trays

To keep you cool as a cucumber during this stressful time.

22. Can opener

Try prying a can open with your hands. I dare you.

23. Stain remover

For when you try to pry the can open with your hands and manage to spray tomato sauce all over yourself.

24. Carbon monoxide/Smoke detectors

Cause we don't want any tragedies here.

25. Collander

We both know you will be making pasta every night, so you're going to need to drain it.

26. Coasters

You definitely don't want to ruin your super fancy new Ikea table.

27. Dry erase board

No need to argue over who should take out the trash, just make sure to write down everyone's chores.

28. Underbed storage

On a college budget there's no way you can expect a walk-in closet, those clothes and shoes will have to go somewhere.

29. Drying rack

For when the dryer in your building inevitably stops working.

30. Step stool

If you're short, like me, you need a little help reaching that top shelf.

Hopefully this list has helped you feel a little more prepared to move into your first apartment. The decorating and planning is so much more enjoyable when you know you have all of your bases covered. I wish you the best of luck with your first major endeavor in the world of adulting!

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Why You Should Bring Your Close Friend As Your Formal Date

Before asking that cute girl to formal think about asking a friend


Every year since I was a junior in high school I have always looked forward to homecoming or prom. When I got to college I began to look forward to my fraternity formal. I was never concerned with what to wear or the expense of formal but rather who I was going to ask. It can be difficult to make a decision. If you ask anyone friends with me they will tell you how I am one of the most indecisive people out there. There are so many people I am friendly with or have a close relationship that it can feel difficult to make a decision. But let's look at that phrase again. You might think why does he want to bring someone who is his friend to his fraternity formal rather than someone he likes or is dating. To answer this question, some of the girls I have liked I have not been able to be the true me around and that also applies to the girls I have dated as well. I am different around my friends and I want someone to know the real me rather than me just having to pretend.

Maybe I am still experiencing the effects of a fun weekend but I have noticed that every formal or prom that I have brought a date with not only was a fun formal but interacted and connected well with my friends. That is the main thing I look for in a formal date, they need to be liked by my friends and many of them are still pretty friendly after the formal. You are spending the weekend with them and the drive down for you formal. There will be a lot of time spent with your date so it is important to bring someone you know you will have fun with. I am not saying that there isn't anything wrong with bringing someone else but I always found it best to bring a friend if you are not dating someone.

Think about the people you know you will always have fun with. This can be an indication of who you should bring and why but you should also think about the positives in this situation. Your fun and the time spent with the people should be prioritized before anything else. This event is about you and you should have someone with you that you know is fun to be around and someone you can enjoy yourself around along with your friends. Friends know you as well as you know yourself so there is not an idea of having to pretend to be someone else. The good thing about friends is that you do not run out of things to talk about and there is always something new to learn. Take your formal as a trip that you get to experience with the people closest to you. That is my take.

The key for me is to know that I will have fun with my date at formal. The drive to formal can be long and you are sharing a hotel room with your date along with spending time with them during the trip. I talk a lot. I want someone I know who I can carry a conversation with and will not just respond with words such as Yeah or Sounds good. I have always been able to remember not only my formals but specific parts of it as well. I think this is possible because of who I have brought and the memories I made with them.

Formals are important to everyone so think about who you want to spend that moment with. There is nothing wrong with bringing someone who you like but there also is nothing wrong with bringing a friend. Some people might bring someone they are dating but you should not have to compare yourself to other people. Do what makes you happy but remember this weekend is about you and you deserve to bring someone you will have fun with.

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