Do you know what ever happened to old fashioned dates? Going to the movies, picnics, romantic dinners, strolls in the park, long walks on the beach? Well, apparently that’s all a thing of the past.
Unfortunately we are in the “hook up” generation. Instead of dating someone, there are hook ups, booty calls, one night stands, whatever you call them. Or if someone is in a relationship, it's just for the sex. Some people think that sex is the one thing that "makes or breaks" a relationship. Well, you're wrong my friend. It's about love, trust, patience, loyalty. It's about putting your partner's needs in front of your own.
Online dating apps like Tinder are literally used for hookups. Swiping through profiles, not even reading the bios, trying to find someone to have a one-night stand with. Nowadays, instead of being acknowledged based off of your personality, you're being acknowledged for your looks. Once you get matched to someone, the first thing you see is a notification in your inbox, you complimented, call you "sexy", they often try to charm you, or they're just really blunt asking if you want to come over and "chill" (we all know what that means). Heck, some people even use "Netflix and Chill" as an excuse to hook up, when they either A: Don't have a Netflix account, or B: Don't even have the TV on.
What happened to getting to know someone before you meet them face to face? Asking them about their likes, dislikes, hobbies. Even if you do find a someone on one of these apps that aren't about the hookup life, your chances are slim to none.
Having sex with someone used to be meaningful, about showing love and affection to your partner. Sex is supposed to be between a couple who love each other. It's supposed to be a way to express your feelings for each other.
In today's generation, sex is now meaningless, emotionless, "no strings attached", and plain out casual. Now you just have sex just to fill the void of loneliness, or to satisfy your sexual needs. In the end, this will leave you feeling empty.
So instead of bragging to your friends about the one time fling you had, brag about how amazing a person you just went on a date with, or your boyfriend/girlfriend. Instead of wasting your time on those 3AM booty calls, find someone who you can go introduce to your parents, and go out on a real date with someone, get to know them.
To all the hopeless romantics out there, keep your head up. We will find our prince/princess charming, someone who will sweep us off our feet, and who isn't with you just for the sex. Don't give up and think that you're gonna be "forever alone," or if you're me be convinced that you're going to be a cat lady. Your soulmate doesn't just fall out of the sky in a tuxedo with flowers, and chocolates (I wish) like Jake did for Miley in that one episode of Hannah Montana.
